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Arlene's book, Making Marriage Easier: How to love (and like) your spouse for life is now available https://makingmarriageeasier.com/

It's easy to play the blame game in marriage. If only my spouse would change, our marriage would be so much better. Yet trying to fix your partner rarely ends well. Focus on the Family's Dr. Bob Paul is a masterful marriage counselor who is sharing what he has learned from more than 40 years of marriage. In today's conversation about creating a marriage you both love, Dr. Paul shares: 

2:30 Why do young people buy into the myths about marriage?

5:37 The media highlights the fairytale love story–is this the reality?

9:40 How to get out of the blame game in a marriage 

15:15 The real goal for a marriage is...

20:00 One of the most dangerous things for a marriage 

26:10 Why don't you like the unity candle? 

30:40 How to build a happy home if you didn’t grow up in one 

Dr. Bob Paul serves as the Vice President of the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute and is the primary architect of the Hope Restored Marriage Intensive programs. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Missouri, Georgia, and Michigan and has helped train hundreds of marriage therapists. He has authored and co-authored four books including The DNA of Relationships, Empowered to Love, and 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage. Bob, and his wife, Jenni, have been married for over 40 years and have four adult children and six grandchildren. 

Learn more about Hope Restored Marriage Intensives https://hoperestored.com/

Learn more about Dr. Paul's books: 

Empowered to Love: Discovering Your God-Given Power to Create a Marriage You Both Love https://www.amazon.com/Empowered-Love-Discovering-God-Given-Marriage/dp/1646071131/

9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage https://www.amazon.com/Lies-That-Will-Destroy-Marriage/dp/1589979710/

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