Dr. Nicolya Show

You guys know that I was working a full-time job working a part-time job going to grad school full-time and adjusting to being a single parent. Needless to say I was extremely busy. I like to say that overwhelmed was my middle name. During this season in my life I had an opportunity to learn how to get in better control of my schedule. That was the only option if I was going to be able to balance all of my responsibilities plus my goals. Today I want to share 2 simple productivity hacks that will help shift your life.

Productivity hack #1: Clean up your space bc it’s a physical manifestation of your mind. This helps you to have a

more clear thinking, more focus and in turn it helps you to become more productive.

I know that sometimes this can seem like such a small step that it wouldn’t have such a big difference but I promise you it does. I even have my clothes color coordinated and my keys in the same location. But it’s organized my space so much so that I don’t waste unnecessary time looking for things.

The truth is when we’re not productive or when our workspace is in chaos there’s a cost to our overall well-being. Your emotional health suffers because you’re stressed and anxious. As well as your productivity suffers because you’re able to do less in the shorter amount of time. The best things that you can do for yourself is to commit to straightening up your area so that in turn it has a positive impact on your emotional health and your productivity.

Time blocking is the second method that has helped me tremendously. With time blocking you break your day into segments of time that are dedicated to accomplishing a specific task, or group of tasks. Time blocking also allows you to build your day around your most important tasks.

With time blocking you’re able to see the big picture and it would be more productive because you’re not trying to multitask.

If you would like to chat about how to increase your productivity sign up for a FREE call here: https://calendly.com/nicolyawilliams

As a teen, I lived in an abusive household during my teen years. It was exhausting but one of the hardest parts about the abuse is how it’s manifested into my adulthood. Throughout my entire adulthood, I have struggled with limiting beliefs as well as difficult mindset blocks that have kept me in a very low place. One particular vice I have had is trying to overcompensate for what I am not or my insecurities. This eventually manifested as achievement addiction.

Growing up we are all taught from a very early age that achievements are important, for some they can become so crucial they become tied in with their sense of self-worth. While this can be healthy in one way it can be extremely toxic in other ways.

Achievement addiction is when you are consumed in looking for the next best accomplishment. This is when a person's drive to achieve becomes so great that other areas — family, love life, health, and leisure — are neglected in the effort to achieve more and more

Here’s how you know if you have achievement addiction:

Do you often have a sense of scarcity of time — not enough time in the day, or days in the week to get things done?

Do you feel like you have to use to-do lists and time-saving devices to keep up?

Do you often rush to eat in order to get back to the task at hand?

Do you consider sleep a treat or luxury instead of a requirement?

Do you have difficulty enjoying idle time?

Do you struggle to make time for fun?

Is it difficult to find balance (i.e. do you combine work and leisure, or take work with you on vacation)?

Do you have intense energy?

Are people often asking you to slow down?

Do you often go from one accomplishment to the next?

Do you have a strong drive to excel?

If you answered yes to more than not you’re likely struggling with achievement addiction.

For me my biggest eye-opener was I could no longer relax or enjoy life if what I was doing at the moment wasn’t something I considered “productive” or “earned” by a completed to-do list!

This is when it hit me and I started to dig deep about this. What I came to learn was that Achievement addiction has become more prevalent now due to social media and our constant desire to prove ourselves and compare selves to other people. It’s a defense mechanism. This addiction to success, like other addictions, can also be a way of hiding from emotions. Lastly, we are often conditioned by society to prioritize hard work and productivity and in many positions, we are rewarded because of it.

The problem is much like sex or drugs the addiction never satisfies itself this is why we must master the addiction by replacing it with self-care and healthy achievement.

While it may feel exhausting and you likely already feel defeated the good news is it doesn’t have to take over your life.

So let’s discuss how you overcome achievement addiction:

Identify what you want to accomplish- that which is reasonable!

Create milestones and appreciate the progress you are making, but take time to reward yourself with some downtime.

Compare your progress to YOURSELF only

Build-in boundaries (reframe your rest and create a boundary between work and play). This is important to draw a clear distinction between you and what you’re working on.

Create balance in your life (delete, delegate, do)

Affirm yourself reminding yourself that you are enough with or without achievements

When you have accomplished this celebrate yourself. Do not try to rush and jump into the next task

Please note this is not me at all trying to push you away from achievement. Healthy achievement can be both rewarding and fulfilling. But when our self-worth becomes dependent on ever more impressive achievements that’s when we need to take a step back and take care of ourselves. If you’re looking for more support on the journey to moving out of your way to make authentic room for the success you desire and deserve schedule your free call with me here: https://calendly.com/nicolyawilliams

On November 1, 2020 I decided to challenge myself to one year of simply believing in me. The one thing that I have learned so far on this journey is that God can work all the way up until the 11th hour but far too often we jump out of the race because we don’t see the finish line in front of us even though we may have only been a few steps away from it.

I have been that person before. I don’t see what’s in front of me or how it’s possible so I just give up.

But honestly I don’t wanna be that person anymore. I don’t want to be overwhelmed and ready to throw in the towel at every second. But changing my mindset and my beliefs about how to approach my goals and being consistent has been tough. In this weeks episode, I share how I came up with this idea and how I’m holding myself accountable throughout the next year. Check it out so that you can follow along for my ride and possibly participate and create the same challenge for yourself!

Many high achievers have a little secret: Deep down they feel like complete frauds and imposters. Studies suggest that 70% of people experience imposter syndrome at some point in their life.

In today’s episode we will discuss what imposter syndrome is, how it manifests in your life and more importantly how you can tackle it moving forward. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Do you desire to find more time in your day to work on your goals?

We all have a million things that keep us busy and it's easy to get distracted.

I have been posting a ton online about my schedule during this time and how I am being sure to be productive. I recognize that it's not always easy when you're tempted to watch Netflix, or scroll social media, but I want to share a strategy that I use in order to be hyper-focused and successful with reaching my goals.

It is important to get in control of your schedule if you want to accomplish your goals.

In this episode, I share how to create a daily power hour to set yourself up for success.

The planner that changed my life: https://youtu.be/Wsl_-o1YZK0

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If you’re looking for support with your productivity journey sign up for a FREE call here: https://calendly.com/nicolyawilliams/15min

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Did you know that the World Health Organization (WHO) legitimized burnout by making it an official medical diagnosis affirming what many of us had already been experiencing for years.

Surprise 🎉surprise 🎉

Sadly so many of us buy into the hustle culture where we believe we have to be busy and go go go to prove our value

But what I want you to know is that the hustle culture is toxic AF. Overworking and sleeping when you die is more harmful than it is helpful.

Being busy to brag about it is literally changing your health in the worst way.

Now I know that knowing this is one thing making a change is something totally different.

For years I was that woman wearing multiple hats doing #allthethings and trying to balance everything

But at the same time I was teetering on the brink of burnout

What I learned during this time is that less is more!

I had to give myself permission to stop buying into the hustle culture that society sells to us.

I had to remind myself that busy doesn’t equal productive.

And I had to learn that to go go isn’t always good.

This is also what I teach my clients to do because balance is so much better than burnout.

So if you’re ready to stop buying into the hustle culture and know it’s time to make a change you need to

1. Remove any language and anything in your environment that represents hustle from your vocab! I notice this comes up when we feel the need to brag to others about what we are doing and how busy we have been.

2. Redefine success. For my doctorate degree I spent almost 2 years studying the term success and deaths. I interviewed over 23 women all with different definitions of success. In this moment I realize that it’s OK if we have our own unique version a success and it helps us to create success on our own terms. 3. Review your current day to day actions.

4. Commit to a schedule that allows you to take action aligned with the success you desire! Nothing more and nothing less

Overall the hustle mentality doesn’t have to take over your life any longer. You can get in control of your schedule find the balance that you desire and deserve and ultimately change your life and success for good. If you’re looking for the tools to make this happen schedule a free call with me here: https://calendly.com/nicolyawilliams

*don’t forget to vote !

About two months ago I set a business goal

Now this isn’t unusual as I always set goals.

This time was different though.

My goal was for a new program I created (that I hadn’t even mentioned to my audience). My plan was to get 5 new clients within 30 days.

Much to my surprise I accomplished the goal in a quarter of the time (7 days to be exact). Surprisingly it wasn’t because I had some written in stone plan.

*insert drum roll please *

It was because I set the intention and let it go.......

Now I know that’s very different than what most people would teach you to do because we always want to know the “how”.

But on my journey of studying success & manifestation my number one take away was - RELEASE👏🏾 THE 👏🏾HOW👏🏾!

Not only that, I have learned from my own experience that many of the goals I hold tightly to are the ones I get most let down by.

This is the very reason I stopped FORCING goals & started to flow with them instead.

But let’s be real most people don’t really know the difference so lemme explain....

When you move from a place of force you may find yourself stuck, stagnant, disheartened & discouraged.

Anyone who knows anything about goals knows that changing the plan to get to the goal is a very real possibility. You may maintain the same overall goal, but the steps to get there can look totally different based on where you’re at in the moment, what you’re learning & what has shifted or changed.

The problem with forcing your goals is you’re operating with a one track mind and you’re only looking at the goal from one way. It’s literally a guaranteed recipe for throwing in the towel.

But on the flip side when you operate from a place of flow you allow new opportunities & blessings to come your way. New ideas, new paths & new successes can be birthed because you’re open & available to it. Flow let’s you get in touch with your creative side & to approach your goals with confidence knowing that success is inevitable.

So how can you give yourself permission to flow with your goals?

To learn more join us in my upcoming LIVE goal setting intention session here: https://nicolyawilliams.com/make-this-your-best-year-yet

Are you struggling with the fear of failure or the fear of success?

Do you fear what other people think about you, or suffer from imposter syndrome ?

Maybe you’re wrestling with all of the above-and a general lack of confidence.

Have you questioned where your fear came from, or why this fear has such a hold on your life ?

Do you ever consider what life would be like if you could truly overcome your fear....

Fear is a common phenomenon so know that you’re not alone in your journey.

We have all been there at one time or another in our lives and it’s no fun.

The truth is fear kills more dreams than you can imagine and while you desire to have success in your life fear will stop you dead in your tracks.

The good news is that this doesn’t have to be your story anymore.

In today’s episode will talk about fear and how to conquer it.

In my book Make Fear Work In Your Favor you will learn firsthand how to recover from fear affliction and find success. You will learn ways to pursue, persevere and prevail over fear! Most importantly you will learn to master your mind and unlock your greatest potential. Order your copy here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/makefearwork/. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Do you ever feel tired even after you have rested?

Rest is so important because if you weren’t why would we need to commit to resting daily. Rest is when our body repairs and grows and our brains become more creative and smarter. Rest also allows us to gain more emotional control intern helping us not to operate on emotions more regularly. The trouble is most of us struggle with rest because we don’t have peace.

The truth is there is a science to resting. I thought I could rest to escape my problems and the world, but I still woke up to the chaos but each time it became more difficult to deal with. We can’t expect to scroll social media or watch TV and lay down and feel well rested. Letting your mind run free is the quickest way to exhaust yourself. The truth is rest is a mental activity not just a physical one. In today’s episode I walk you through a strategy that I have used to truly be able to rest.

Running on empty is the last thing we should do. We all deserve rest and it’s the best form of self care that we can provide to ourselves. Check out my brand new totally free self love strategies course. In this course you will learn how to make self-love a priority. To teach people how to treat you. And to find the peace that you deserve and desire.

Check it out here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/self-love-strategies/

It took me years before I realized that not everyone is supposed to live the same life.

I know that sounds obvious but think about it.

That’s not what we’re taught

What a society tell us is that we should go to school, get a college degree, work 9-5, get married, have 2.5 kids and live happily ever after.

So let me ask you .....

Do you feel like you’re trying to live life on other people’s terms?

Do you feel called to do something or be something different but feel guilty about it?

Maybe you’re miserable because it seems like everyone else’s life is falling nicely in line but yours not so much.

So now you’re trying to force a false sense of happiness on yourself.

I have news ...... the American dream is not a one size fits all.

And what works for one person isn’t a guarantee to work for you.

You’re spending time making other people happy all while you’re out of alignment with who you are designed to be.

And this is why you’re bitter, frustrated, angry and exhausted.

You see when you’re showing up fully as yourself life is spectacular, it’s enjoyable it’s amazing! When you live on purpose you literally can’t fail. The problem is you can miss the chance to live in your purpose due to fear, limited beliefs, people pleasing etc.

The choice is yours to live by design or to live by default

We all have our own gifts, talents, successes and amazing skill sets but the problem is many of us have no clue how to use them.

Then before you know it you’re looking around for one size fits all solutions to maximize your gifts, skills and talents but in turn they leave you more drained than when you began.

This is why I am so passionate about human design. Human design will give you the insight to get in touch with what is inherently you and your strengths versus what you have been told or conditioned to be. With human design you learn to better understand how to make decisions, fuel your energy, set goals, relate to other people, and how to understand your unique gifts in order to maximize them.

On the most practical level, Human Design creates a blueprint for you that shows you how to live as your true self.

All in all you learn to transform your life massively because you learn to finally make sense of who you truly are and embrace that UNAPOLOGETICALLY!

When you learn how to go through life and build on each of these things you begin to live in your purpose.

If you’re ready to not only know yourself on a deeper level but to also better understand how to use it as you grow through life schedule your breakthrough session here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/human-design-breakthrough-session/

This is your chance to become who you’re called to be.