Dr. Nicolya Show

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  • 035: Completing a life audit

    I always say we are only one decision away from a totally different life. Sadly far too many of us keeping replaying the same life over and over again getting stuck in a rut, on the verge of breakdown and eventually resentful. That is no way to life.

    Life doesn't have to be like this. You can make the needed shifts and changes to begin to create the life you truly desire regardless of where you are now.

    Maybe you're convinced that life needs to change, you're burned out and sick and tired of being sick and tired. Maybe you're tired of going through the motions and wondering if this is all that life could possibly have to offer. You're not alone. Being stuck and stagnant is one of the most difficult places to live in. When you have no purpose, it can instantly become disheartening making you wonder if you should keep pressing forward.

    Know that it's never to late to create a life you love!

    But you can change the trajectory of your life by

    1. Accepting your past. Changing your life is not as easy as wiping away a file on your computer. Your past is a very real part of your life. While you may be frustrated with your past know that it where growth and learning come from and truthfully that is what has gotten you where you are currently.Accept your past mistakes, but focus on the future, cuz that's where you're headed.
    2. Review what you want and where you want to be. Name it. define it. visualize it. Clarity is literally the most important step you can take that can get you closer to what you desire. I mean seriously if you don't know what you want how will you know how to get there.
    3. Shift your mindset. I know we all hear about mindset and it's quite frustrating but honestly without a healthy mindset no tool in the world, and no system you have in place will take you where you truly want to be. So choose to shift your mindset to focus on what you are capable of not what you can't do. One of my favorite quotes goes as "whether you believe you can or can't....you're right". Basically what we focus on grows so shift your mindset to what it is you desire.
    4. Create new routines, patterns and priorities. We are creatures of habits. When we have healthy habits this serves us. When we have unhealthy habits it does not. So when you change your routines and patterns you essentially align your current life with the life you desire. While this step may be a tad bit challenging because it requires discipline, consistency and commitment this step will literally change the trajectory with your goals. So take time to review what habits and patterns are working for you and do more of those. Next determine which are not and how you can remove those!
    5. Take action. Determine what it is that you need to obtain what you truly desire. Don't beat yourself up or get overwhelmed. Goals can be reached one small step at a time. One small step plus one small step equals great results.
    6. Create a new circle. Research says we are the average of the top five people we spend time with. So when you want to uplevel your life you also must uplevel your circle. Now understand I am not at all saying stop talking to your friends or family that do not like what you life. What I am saying is consider who you have around you that is going to push you to where you want to go? Who do you have around you that will give you the mentor ship you desire? These are major things you will need in the process of resetting your life.

      7. The great news is you have the power to make the shifts and changes you desire and deserve at any given moment.

      Let's talk about how to make that happen:

      The quickest way to change your course is to start....and start today! Get your free life audit guide here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/life-audit

      17 min
    7. 034: Why you need to make visualization a regular practice

      Visualization is not for people who are clueless or woo woo or living in lala land. If you're new to visualization buckle up cuz this is going to be a super fun ride! Visualization is used by some of the most powerful and successful people. It is used by those who know that they desire to bring to what they want to bring to life their greatest desires. I have made visualization a major part of my morning routine where I allow myself to set intentions for my day AND also visualize the life I want to live. The best part about visualization is that it is fun. You get to be a kid again, by allowing your imagination to run wild and it's so freeing and exciting. 

      But we have to be intentional about how we use it. Truthfully you probably visualize every day....but in the WRONG WAY. What we think about and how we allow our throughs to run wild is an example of visualization. Have you ever visualized something bad and gotten all worked up or anxious? That is visualization at it's finest, but not in a way that is helping you. I want to talk about how to make visualization work in your favor because when you do it will change your life. Here are the steps to visualize successfully:

       1. Know what you want- In order to make visualization successful you will want to know exactly what it is you want. Don't try to make it make sense don't worry about the "how" just identify what it is you want. 

      2. Get very detailed- Involve all of your senses (think about what you see,taste, smell, hear and feel). In order to bring your vision to life you have to be intentional about knowing what it is you truly want. 

      3. Allow yourself to FEEL it. Once you have the first two steps down allow yourself to really go there. I mean feel what you're feeling in the moment. Allow yourself to get excited, inspired and motivated. This is personally my favorite part of the process because it really solidifies it and makes it feel real. Truthfully once I get here it's hard to leave the visualization process altogether, but that means you're doing it right. 

      4. Apply it- When you're done visualizing don't stop there. Think of the learnings, and insights you gained from your time visualizing. Now consider how you can begin to take action on this. This is usually when I see massive shifts in my life, because my process allowed me to see what's coming, but my follow up allowed me to align my life with it. 

      5. Do this regularly. Visualization is not a one and done. You can't visualize what you want and then walk away from it. You have to practice it daily. The more you practice it 1. you become better at visualization 2. you start to take more informed action and 3. you begin to really design the life of your dreams. 

      Visualization is a wonderful tool used by many successful people and even backed by scientific research. The research shows that people who imagine themselves performing a task actually respond biochemically in their body even if they're not actually doing the task. Research also confirms that you can have all the skills and know how in the world, but if your mind doesn't match that you will struggle with the task at hand. I share all of that to let you know that this is not my opinion or some crazy concept I have come up with, IT WORKS!! 

      For this reason, when you are working on creating the life you desire it is important that you make visualization a regular practice. So I challenge you today to let your mind run wild in a way that serves you! If you're looking for the tools to get started sign up for my success place visualization guide HERE! You will be guided through visualizing your success and bringing it into your reality! Can't wait to see ya there!

      17 min
    8. 032: PUSH Goals
      Goal setting has been my main focus of the last several months especially as many people struggle with being consistent with their goals.
      I have a strategy for goal setting called PUSH. Many coaches and influencers reference PUSH goals as it first began from Chalene Johnson, but I have created my very own acronym for what PUSH means.
      A push goal is a goal that once completed will drastically impact your life + help you achieve your other goals. Like a domino effect in a good way :-)
      I had a dream to write a book for years, but never went through with it because I let fear stop me. I also never went through with it because I allowed obstacles to be my guide. Not anymore. I pushed past those things and ultimately it changed my life literally.
      Therefore my goal is to do the same for my clients. When I work with my clients one on one I always have them set goals. They usually set comfortable or familiar goals because that is what we are programmed to do. I have to teach my clients to step out of their comfort zone and set PUSH goals.
      To me, a PUSH goal is a goal that is pushing you out of your comfort zone and into the zone where success lies. Those familiar goals are not benefitting us one bit. What good is it for me to set a goal running a 1.1 miles a day if I already am running 1 mile a day. We have to set BIG goals.
      There are too many people not operating or using their gifts. I don’t want that for you. Your story along with your gift has the potential to change lives so we have no more time to waste.
      So in this episode, I will share what a PUSH goal is and more importantly how you can have success in creating your own PUSH goals.
      Be sure to stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or across all social platorms @nicolya williams
      If you’re looking for support on your journey I have great news! I extended the deal for my goal-getter course so you can not only wish to reach your resolution but actually achieve it.
      Sign up here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/goalgettertraining/
      16 min
    9. 033: You have the power to choose
      Many of us fail to believe that we have choices and because of this lack of belief we make no choice and life decides for us
      Whether it’s something traumatic, a financial mishap, death, divorce, breakup, or unhappiness in your current place in life
      You have a choice
      You can play victim or you can step into your power
      You can focus on growth or you can stay stuck
      You can look for sympathy or you can look for support
      You can focus on healing or you can focus on your hurt
      What if I told you that by choosing healing you would not only change your thoughts but your actions and ultimately your life?
      This is possible.
      More importantly this can happen for YOU.
      All you have to do is step into your power and make a choice today.
      Sign up for the free 4-Day Choose Healing Challenge to get started: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/choosehealingchallenge/
      11 min
    10. 031: Consistency is key
      When it comes to what you really want in life do you feel like you're consistently going after it %FIRSTNAME%?
      If you're like most people then the answer is probably "no"
      There is an old saying that goes as: consistency is key
      The truth is consistency is the bridge from failure to success
      but most people never cross it because it looks like hard work
      The truth is...it is
      But it is well worth it. Being consistent is essential if you want to make any worthwhile and significant change within your life.
      Many times we believe that if we set goals and are super intense in the beginning that will work, but consistency beats intensity. Think about it. If you work out really hard for an hour it does NOT have the same impact as working out consistently over 6 months.
      The biggest benefit of consistency is that it creates healthy habits that contribute to your success.
      In this episode I share how to become more consistent through life. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams
      14 min
    11. 030: What are your priorities?
      Priorities are the areas in our lives that are meaningful and important to us. In the 1400’s the word priority was added to the English language and about 500 years later we decided to pluralize it. Which unfortunately led to the believe that someone we could have many important number one tasks. The truth is when we try to be everything to everybody were no good to anybody. And we try to take one too many tasks we’re not going to be effective at any one of them. It’s important that we are able to identify our values and intern our priorities so that we can make decisions and take actions that allow us to be successful. Aligning the daily actions you take with what is truly important to you means you are becoming true to yourself and exploring more and more of your potential.
      In this episode, I share how to identify your priorities and the benefit of it.
      What will your life look like if you focus on the priorities?
      Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams
      14 min
    12. 029: How to live your best life
      Are you going through the motions with life? Are you miserable with the way things are going? Maybe you had big dreams for your life but they seem so far fetched. I am here to let you know that you can design and live a life you love but only if you’re willing to intentionally go after it. Here are the top 7 ways you can design a life you love
      Align your life with your dreams. Sadly so many people believe that they have to wait for their dreams to come true for their life to align with it. Instead choose to align your life with your dreams in advance and before you know it your actions your thoughts and your decisions will help move you in the direction of your dreams.
      Change your dialogue. We have to be cognizant of what we’re telling ourselves. Research that shows that our thoughts reflect out in our outer world. So if you want to change your outer world it actually starts with your inner world. Meaning you have to shift your thoughts and your beliefs about your vision and your dream. If you don’t believe that you can live a life of your dreams you won’t if you do you’ll start to take action in alignment with that and before you know it you will start to live it.
      Don’t be led by fear. In leading the life of freedom and purpose, you must take charge of your fears. The truth is everyone has fears but not everyone allows fears to leave them. If you want to truly live out your vision you have to stop being led by your fear.
      Embrace change. The only thing constant in the world is change. And the truth is if you’re not changing then you’re moving in the wrong direction. It’s tempting to remain in your comfort zone we’re safe is familiar it’s relatable but the reality is there’s no growth there. If you truly want to live a life of your dreams you have to step out of your comfort zone in order to move in the direction of your dreams.
      Detox you life. A big part of the designing a life you love journey is unlearning. We are creatures of habit meaning we have a lot of behaviors and habits that we’ve normalized. Some work in our favor and others don’t. Consider what in your life may be a distraction or a barrier to your success and determine the steps you need to take to remove it.
      Embrace failure. If you expect to win at every turn in life you’ll always be disappointed. Failure is a big part of life. But I define failure differently than many people do. I believe that you’ve only truly failed if you give up. But failure is actually feedback an opportunity to approach it more intentionally the next time. The best thing you can do is embrace failure expected and allow yourself to learn and grow from it. And then intern apply those lessons and watch how your life begins to shift some of the most unimaginable ways.
      Get support. A lot of times pride will allow you to believe that you should be able to figure this out alone. But what I learned on my own personal development and healing journey was that getting support was a very thing that skyrocketed my success. When you have the right support you get the motivation and encouragement in tools you need to not just talk about your dream but to actually bring it to life.
      All in all you can live a happy life that you desire if you’re willing to go after it. Yes sure it will include sacrifice it will include embracing change it will require discipline and consistency most importantly it will be worth it.
      If you’re done with the excuses, misery and disappointment and ready to live the life of your dreams sign up for my free live your best life training here. With this FREE guide I will share how to go after your dreams and in turn truly live your best life. http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/live-your-best-life/
      15 min
    13. 028: What is self care
      Many of us believe that we do a good job of taking care of ourselves, but when we get to the root of it all we do not.
      Are you feeling overwhelmed, burned out, exhausted or just frustrated with life?
      If you answered yes to any of these you're likely not practicing self-care.
      We run all throughout our day for our job, our kids, or significant others, etc, but somehow when it comes to slowing down or doing something we deserve we put ourselves on the back burner.
      Society says this is the right thing to do, but research proves that not taking care of yourself first does not help anyone...including YOU.
      This is why we have to make self-care a regular part of our routine.
      Self care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.
      While this sounds simple, when it comes to implementing it that is a whole different story
      To get started with implementing self-care you need to know two things
      1. You have to plan for self-care or else it won't happen. Make it part of your calendar the way you would plan a doctor's appointment.
      2. You must identify what feels like self-care for you. Because what feels good to me may not be relaxing or caring for you (i.e. gardening).
      So today I want to share three self-care things tips that are non-negotiable. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams. If you desire more support on your self love journey sign up for my FREE self love course here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/self-love-strategies/
      16 min
    14. 027: My Favorite Productivity Hacks
      We’ve all known that person who always seems to be getting things done.
      I mean do you really know anybody who’s not busy?
      Most of us wake up each morning facing crammed calendars and mile-long to-do lists.
      Somehow some of us can balance all of the tasks with ease while others of us are struggling to stay afloat
      That is because they have managed to improve their productivity. While many of us are busy, unfortunately we aren’t being productive because ultimately those are two different concepts. While you can be extremely busy if you have nothing to show for it, then you were not productive.
      Busy is defined as having a great deal to do or staying occupied.Productivity is defined as the state or quality of producing something.
      Increased productivity allows people to get what they want faster, or to get more of what they want in the same amount of time. In other words productivity gets you closer to your goals, being busy does not.
      Today I want to share my top productivity hacks I have implemented and how it has changed my life so that you can also make some subtle shifts in turn have more significant changes in your life as well. Sadly, time is the most valuable resource because it is nonrenewable. Therefore, it is important that we use our time wisely. Remember, every minute you save, is a minute gained! Applying these strategies, even if you only use one or two will help you to become more productive at work, at home and in your life. In turn reducing the amount of overwhelm and stress you feel.
      How committed are you to taking your life from overwhelmed and busy, to productive and successful?
      Check out my book: Quick Tips for Busy Women: Cutting Through The Confusion and Finding Clarity https://www.amazon.com/dp/1633900428/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_mFPfEb93FHQNN. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams
      20 min
    15. 026: Stop Self Sabotage
      Self sabotage is a behavior pattern that ruins a persons success with accomplishing their goals. The most common self- sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, using drugs and alcohol, quitting before getting to the end, or even self harm.
      Some of us know we are sabotaging while others aren’t even aware of it. Regardless it impacts your life and without removing our self sabotage habits you won’t be able to find the success you deserve and desire.
      In this episode I share what self sabotage looks like and more importantly how you can conquer it. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams. If you desire more support on your self love journey sign up for my FREE self love course here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/self-love-strategies/
      13 min

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