Dr. Nicolya Show

All of us make decisions based on autopilot or not thinking it all the way through. We often live by default, allowing our emotions and our experiences to control and determine our life. When in reality this prevents us from truly living. By living I mean taking control of your life, creating a vision, creating goals, and then executing on those goals, but majority of us do not do this.

If you find yourself waking up every morning without a sense of direction and just letting the day happen to you then you have lost control of your life overall. Now on the other hand if you are living life intentionally by chasing your BIG vision, waking up with a plan each day then you are living by design. The good news is everyone has the chance to live by design NOT default. Most of us fall under the default category because it is familiar and “safe”, but it is literally preventing your overall success. In this episode I will tell you how to create a life where you can live by design and NOT default. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you're sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment. Mindfulness isn’t something that only certain people can use. It is something that everyone should use and incorporate into their life on a regular basis. With mindfulness it helps to ensure your less distracted and improves your overall focus. It minimizes stress and helps you become your best self. Mindfulness is the energy that helps us recognize the conditions of happiness that are already present in our lives.

Mindfulness doesn’t have to be overwhelming or boring. It can actually be something that we incorporate in every area of our life which in turn can change our life. In this episode, I share how you can add more mindfulness into your daily actions with ease and excitement. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Hypnotherapy began in 1863 and it's a powerful way to connect with subconscious to reprogram thoughts/behaviors/actions. From the age of 0-7 we are in a state of super learning and our brain goes between alpha and theta state so you're constantly in a state of hypnosis. As we get older our prefrontal cortex evolves we become more rational and our conscious mind is firmed up.

Often we believe we have no control over what was programmed into our mind. As kids this is true. As adults hypnosis on the other hand gives you your power back. It allows you to get your mind into a calm state.

A lot of people think that hypnosis is mind control or demonic. Much to many people's surprise hypnosis is a great grounding and self care practice. Check out this weeks episode to learn more about hypnosis and how it can change your life!

Dr. Nicolya is a best selling author, mother and life coach helping others to change pain into purpose, heal their hurt and find success after their struggles. As a coach, Dr. Nicolya also supports others who desire to become best selling authors to turn their message into their masterpiece. You can connect with her here: www.nicolyawilliams.com

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Many times people ask me what is the benefit of having a life coach. And the truth is I believe that we put too much pressure and have too high of expectations of our loved ones to support us through life‘s craziest experiences. But with a life coach they can support where you are and help you to get where you desire to be. In this episode I talk about the best reasons to hire a life coach and how transformational it can truly be. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Last week we discussed the difference between productive and being busy. This week I want to share one life-changing strategy that I have incorporated into my life that has increased my productivity improved my self-care and transformed my life all together. Check out this weeks episode to learn how you too can implement this same strategy into your own life.

We have multiple responsibilities and things on your plate every day, but being “productive” is not the same as being “busy”.

In today’s episode as year five strategies that will help you to increase your productivity and improve your overall success.

Here is the planner that has improved my productivity tremendously: https://youtu.be/Wsl_-o1YZK0

Here is my book Progress Over Perfection: a simple strategy for struggling perfectionists to create success on reasonable terms. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0998770736/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Jo2dEbDC7VDH1. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Every moment of every day we make decisions. Whether these decisions are big or small ultimately they have an impact on the outcome of our life. There’s a lot of power in decision making. We just have to learn to step into our power. In today’s episode I share a fool- proof formula for making impactful decisions with confidence. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

I am going to be totally honest with you. This has been one of the most difficult posts to write. Funny for me I have always been good with words but lately they have been fleeting.

For the last week I have been EXTREMELY overwhelmed with emotion. I had a few emails and social media posts in que that were sent out automatically, but other than that I have been trying to process what I am feeling. I go from extreme sadness to overwhelm to anxiety to anger. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in any given day and I feel like I can't focus on ANYTHING.

Being totally transparent.....trying to process this all feels UNBEARABLE.

At the same time, I recognize that these are feelings that many of you are thinking and are likely trying to process as well.

Earlier today I spent time answering so many questions about the unjustified murders to my two daughters and while we had these conversations before my heart broke because I could not make sense of it for them. I just listened to their cries, cried with them and PRAYED.

I have made a commitment this season to pray like I never have before.

I am praying for healing, I am praying for justice, I am praying for understanding, I am praying for forgiveness, I am praying for hope, I am praying for love and I am praying for peace.

In my prayers one verse that continues to pop up is "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding" Proverbs 3:5. I even asked my daughters to memorize this verse specifically in this season. This verse is so powerful because while NONE of this makes sense to us and it hurts the Lord, He makes everything work together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

I truly believe this that is why I felt led to post today.

If you have been with me for some time you already know I am going to say first and foremost take some time for self care. THIS NEEDS TO BE A PRIORITY. For me I have committed to taking some time off of social media. For you it may look totally different. But ask yourself what is it that you need in this season?

and don't just ask....honor what your body is telling you.

Tomorrow evening I am going to be featured on a session with another coach for and the group has asked me for action strategies during this time. I want to share some with you.

For those that are looking for creative ways to TAKE ACTION I want to share those here:

• Talk to those who are seemingly insensitive during this time, but from a place of love.

• Share what you’re feeling with a safe person (coach, counselor, trusted friend)

•Journal your thoughts

• Join friends and walk for what you believe in (I did last night)

• Talk to your own family including children about what is happening and consider creative ideas to process (my 11year drew a beautiful picture as an outlet for her feelings and shared it on her you tube channel)

• Recognize any of your own judgment, or bias, and be willing to make any shifts or changes

• Consider donating to the Grassroots Law Project or signing this petition:

https://www.change.org/p/mayor-jacob-frey-justice-for-george-floyd

While these strategies are not a one and done each small step you take matters, but also know unless you first take care of yourself and your mental and emotional health it can be challenging to step in to help others. Take care of that first and know that I am praying for you during this season and will NOT stop.

Sending nothing less than virtual love!

We are programmed to believe that it’s easier to quit than it is to succeed therefore we are never fully prepared to get back up when we fall. We’re more inclined to quit then we are to push through. But you can choose to be different you can choose to prepare for success understanding that failure will come but you still can go after your dreams regardless. If you’ve ever had a season in your life or if you’re currently going through a season in your life where you feel like nothing is working. Or maybe you feel like you’re physically exhausted from doing everything right and nothing makes sense. In today’s episode, I share three strategies that you can incorporate into your life to ensure that you’re not throwing in the towel with what you desire, but you’re continuing to push towards the success that you desire. The reality is you truly are only person who can get in the way of your dreams. It’s time to change your perspective and become UNSTOPPABLE. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams.

How many times do we go through life comparing ourselves to other people? And then when we do that we begin to question who we are if we are valuable and if something is wrong with us. I’m here to share that nothing is wrong with you. We all have our own unique journey and experiences in life and that’s what makes us who we are ultimately. In this episode, I share three ways to know that nothing is wrong with you. And the ways will blow your mind! Check it out. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams