Dr. Nicolya Show

Fears and anxieties are running rampant right now with the corona virus and the new catch phrase “social isolation”. I get it. We are literally living history as we speak. In several years this experience will be in a history book somewhere. Weird to think about it like that but this is a unique event and we are truly an uncharted territory. While it’s easy to focus on fear and anxiety during this time I want to discuss how to use this time and be more intentional about taking care of yourself and working on your goals. Today I will share a 4 step system you can use to set yourself up for success. If you desire to have a support during this time,which is totally free with me you can sign up using this link https://Calendly.com/NicolyaWilliams/15min

Today we’re going to continue our talk about boundaries. There’s so much to be said and so much to learn in regards to boundaries . Last week we discussed boundaries with yourself because obviously that’s the first key to setting healthy boundaries with anyone else. Today were going to discuss setting boundaries with difficult people.

Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.

Setting boundaries with toxic or difficult people can be extremely challenging. The truth is setting boundaries in general is already difficult but it puts an extra level of difficulty when it’s someone who was already toxic

Let’s discuss a simple step by step strategy you can use to set boundaries without guilt.

Going through my divorce was one of the most difficult things I have ever experienced.

Letting go of the image I had in my head about my family, life, dreams, and plans felt unbearable.

I had to learn to create a new picture in my head and mentally doing this was much more difficult than physically trying to understand.

After over six months of trying to get my mind and my life together, I knew I needed help.

I knew that I could no longer allow shame and embarrassment to keep me stuck.

The reality is life changes a lot after divorce and it's easy to lose yourself.

After my divorce I took a lot of time to reflect on my needs, wants, desires and takeaways.

This process hurt, but I also knew it was refining me and therefore I made it a priority to push through the pain to find the purpose behind my experience.

I took time to focus on personal development so that I could find the person that I had burried away for too long- myself

I took time to learn to LOVE myself not for the pain and the hurt, but for the resilience and strength

During one of the most diffcult times of my life I learned to put myself first. I learned how to heal my hurt. Now I use my own experience to teach others how to do the same. I am teaching a totally free course to teach you how to discover yourself after divorce. Sign up for my FREE training here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/discoveryourselfafterdivorce/

It’s easy to think about how hard it is to set boundaries with the challenging people in your life. What we sometimes forget, is how important it is to set healthy boundaries with ourselves.

In this episode, we discuss what boundaries are, the different types of boundaries, and how you can begin to set boundaries with yourself to be more effective at setting them with other people. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

While it may sound cliché the truth is we can’t pour from an empty cup. Meaning that you must first take care of yourself before you’re going to be impactful to anyone else. We often are willing to be kind to other people but when it comes to ourselves it’s something that we quickly overlook.

Self-compassion is showing kindness to one’s self especially in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.

In this episode we talk about what self kindness is why it’s important and how you can implement self kindness into your life. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams if you desire more support on your self love journey sign up for my FREE self love course here: http://www.nicolyawilliams.com/self-love-strategies/

In this episode Dr. Nicolya, your host, will share a little bit about who this podcast is for, why it was created, what will be covered each week, and a little bit about who she is behind the scenes. Be sure to stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Are you a person that hides your flaws out of embarrassment? Do your flaws frustrate you to the point where you won’t allow yourself to make a mistake? When you’re OK with being flawed then you can be fixed. In this episode I walk you through how to embrace your flaws and three benefits embracing your flaws will add to your life. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

I spent a long time thinking about what my second episode would be about. I got so much great feedback from you guys regarding my first one and wonderful questions so I’m excited because I have a lot of things to share over the next few episodes.

Today I talk about stepping outside your comfort zone.

Routines can be stable and comforting, but they can also turn out to be confining over time. Your comfort zone is a behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk. The trouble is leaving it can be scary because it means an increased risk. This causes many of us to operate out of fear and it turn attempt to stay in comfort zone at all costs. But stepping out of it is key to discovering your passion, accomplishing your goals, and finding happiness. In this episode I share the problems with your comfort zone and how to break free for good! Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams

Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes

In this episode I not only share how to create affirmations but how they will change your life. Make sure you stay connected with me at www.nicolyawilliams.com or on all social sites @nicolyawilliams