Dr. Tami Talks

What is Burnout and What Can You Do About It?

Burnout is one of those things that we talk about but it's really a deeper experience for those who have it.

In this episode of Dr. Tami Talks I share a little bit about burnout and the three signs that make it up: exhaustion, cynicism, and loss of self-efficacy. And how all three of these are so painful for the high-achiever and how this fuels guilt, shame, and more psychological stress that fuels The Burnout Response.

I also share why burnout is often remitting and relapsing in nature and how we can get ourselves off the cycle of burnout once we understand this dynamic.

Then I delve into why I think burnout can become the opportunity of a lifetime if we use it as a starting place for Post Traumatic Growth or in this case, Post Burnout Growth.

Listen on to learn more!

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Before you go, I want to invite you into what I’m calling the greatest experiment in thriving on the internet. ✨

It’s called Project Thrive—and we’re finding out what becomes possible when brilliant, ambitious, big-hearted humans stop postponing their own joy, aliveness, and possibility and start creating from there.

And I want you in this experiment with me.

If a round is open, jump in. And if you missed this one, get yourself on the Priority List for the next round.

Because you do not have to wait for some future version of your life to start thriving.

Your Year of Thriving can begin the moment you decide it does.

Come play with us.

Go to drtamiberry.com/project-thrive.

Let’s find out just how good life gets to be. 💛✨

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This topic came to mind as I was reflecting on the stress we're all experiencing and recognizing the importance for us to rise as leaders who Lead With Love.

Excessive levels of stress, particularly when we experience distress, separate us from love.  From a neurologic, physiologic, and biologic perspective, the stress-based circuitry is not compatible with love, belonging, joy, creativity, or good decision making when it involves complex pieces of disparate information.

We are biologically and biochemically designed for love, to give love, and to receive love.  And when we do engage in any of these it is highly restorative and nourishing to the mind and body, as I share more on in this episode.

Then we explore how love is a capacity.  As such, it is a skill that we can learn, practice, and develop.  

Our ability to lead our lives with love, to lead others, to lead our communities and colleagues, and practices, and profession from a place of love is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves, to others, and to the world.  

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Before you go, I want to invite you into what I’m calling the greatest experiment in thriving on the internet. ✨

It’s called Project Thrive—and we’re finding out what becomes possible when brilliant, ambitious, big-hearted humans stop postponing their own joy, aliveness, and possibility and start creating from there.

And I want you in this experiment with me.

If a round is open, jump in. And if you missed this one, get yourself on the Priority List for the next round.

Because you do not have to wait for some future version of your life to start thriving.

Your Year of Thriving can begin the moment you decide it does.

Come play with us.

Go to drtamiberry.com/project-thrive.

Let’s find out just how good life gets to be. 💛✨

Let's stay connected!
Follow me on IG: @tamiberry.md
Follow me on LinkedIn: @tamiberry.md

“I hope you choose being happy over being right.”

This was the last thing one of the counselors said to me as I was leaving rehab, nealry 9 years ago. 

Such great advice!  Some of the best advice I’ve ever knowingly received. 

Wanna know what’s REALLY funny?  When I first heard it, I rolled my eyes.  I may have even scoffed, perhaps to myself or outwardly, I’m not entirely sure.  Upon leaving I shared these same words with others with a giggle and some commentary that went something like, “that’s advice you can expect to get from someone who clearly isn’t used to being right.”  🤦‍♀️

RIght now, I’m laughing at my own naivete. 😂

I was so deeply entrenched in a system of thought that made being right the most important thing one could achieve. My allegiance was so deeply rooted in being right that I was completely willing to forgo my own happiness to achieve it.  

Does that sound crazy, narcissistic, a recipe for misery, or familiar?

Today, I’m surrendering the need to be right and I’m 100% willing to choose being happy.

I’m so committed to being happy that I’m willing to not NEED to be right, at all.  I still often am, don’t get me wrong (😉) but I don’t need to shove it down your throat.  In fact, I’m totally content in sharing my opinion and leaving you to have yours, amicably.  

I don’t need to convince you of my rightness, my wisdom, my excellence, my goodness,  my intelligence, or anything else.  And anytime I feel the need to do any of those things, I know I have my own inner work to do to heal whatever misconception or misgiving is beneath it. 

It is my sincere desire to continue giving up every last thread of these tendencies that fuel my need to be right because they rattle my own sweet serenity, peace, and joy.  They distract me from my bigger goals and mission in life.  They leave me playing tit-for-tat when what I really wanna play is a version of happy feet.

Being right is something my ego LOVES.  Being happy is something my heart and my soul NEEDS.

Interestingly enough, we can train for it.  There’s 40,000 neurons that surround your heart and you can use it to balance your mind, resource your brain, and restore a state of health to every cell of your magnificent body.  In fact, it’s so powerful it’s been called the “heart brain” because it’s impact is rather extraordinary and profoundly fascinating. 

And so as I reflect on that advice given to me, I recognize that it is truly priceless.  It was worth the $50K+ I paid for it.  And here I am, sharing it with you, freely, in the hopes that you will also choose happiness over being right.  

Choosing to be happy will serve you for your lifetime whereas being right serves you for mere moments, if at all.  

With great love for you and a sincere desire for you to live a beautiful life, I hope you choose wisely.

Want help making the shift?  Book a call: https://calendly.com/tamiberry/discovery-call

#NeuroResilience #ThoughtWork #Happy #DrTamiBerry

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Before you go, I want to invite you into what I’m calling the greatest experiment in thriving on the internet. ✨

It’s called Project Thrive—and we’re finding out what becomes possible when brilliant, ambitious, big-hearted humans stop postponing their own joy, aliveness, and possibility and start creating from there.

And I want you in this experiment with me.

If a round is open, jump in. And if you missed this one, get yourself on the Priority List for the next round.

Because you do not have to wait for some future version of your life to start thriving.

Your Year of Thriving can begin the moment you decide it does.

Come play with us.

Go to drtamiberry.com/project-thrive.

Let’s find out just how good life gets to be. 💛✨

Let's stay connected!
Follow me on IG: @tamiberry.md
Follow me on LinkedIn: @tamiberry.md

Could There Really Be Just ONE Solution to Every Problem?

I've discovered the ONE solution to every problem rests within CURIOSITY. 

CURIOSITY is defined as a desire to know or learn.

The QUALITY of your CURIOSITY also matters.

The QUALITIES of CURIOSITY that benefit you the most:

⭐️Kind

⭐️Playful

⭐️Loving

⭐️Generous

⭐️Expansive (meaning unlimited by your own personal sense of self or identity.  This invites you to expand your self-concept, go galactic if that's helpful!)

Be curious about whatever problem you're facing by inquiring further:

🔎what really created this problem,

🔎what perpetuates this problem,

🔎what identities and beliefs are involved in the problem, and

🔎what solutions live WITHIN the problem itself?  (Hint: you can often find them when you reframe the problem to its opposite.)

Being kindly curious will change how you relate to problems in your life. 

Too often we jump to conclusions (based on our beliefs, biases and judgments) and we take action based on these, which often unintentionally just perpetuates or exacerbates the problem.

What we really need is to make space for more curiosity FIRST and see what solutions arise from here.

This is how you access your own deeper intelligence.

This is how you find wisdom.

It'll help you create a truly successful life.

This is tremendously powerful advice that’ll have a massive positive impact on the problems in your life if you apply it.

Give it a try and let me know how it works for you!

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Before you go, I want to invite you into what I’m calling the greatest experiment in thriving on the internet. ✨

It’s called Project Thrive—and we’re finding out what becomes possible when brilliant, ambitious, big-hearted humans stop postponing their own joy, aliveness, and possibility and start creating from there.

And I want you in this experiment with me.

If a round is open, jump in. And if you missed this one, get yourself on the Priority List for the next round.

Because you do not have to wait for some future version of your life to start thriving.

Your Year of Thriving can begin the moment you decide it does.

Come play with us.

Go to drtamiberry.com/project-thrive.

Let’s find out just how good life gets to be. 💛✨

Let's stay connected!
Follow me on IG: @tamiberry.md
Follow me on LinkedIn: @tamiberry.md