Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

People often have such a difficult time with letting go of old injury and wrong-doing, not realizing what a gift forgiveness is to the self. Much of the reason is because they believe this justifies the wrong-doer's action when it absolutely does not. They are also often unaware of the detriments of hanging onto grudges, anger, and resentments, not realizing that we only have so much emotional energy in one day. By residing in this pain from the past we voluntarily surrender our destiny, the fullness of all who we were meant to be. By letting go, we reclaim our power . . .

Too much time on our hands can be fun for some, but for those over-thinkers not so much . . . Especially for young adults who had just begun "talking" with someone prior to the pandemic, there is just too much uncertainty to obsess over. Also, today's Millennial and Gen Z-ers frequently feel the pressure to stay on track with how life "should" unfold which often includes becoming a couple, adding even more to an already overwhelming feeling of a lack of control during quarantine . . . 

Stay tuned for some young adult wisdom to help you get through . . .

We make assumptions everyday, especially in our relationships, leading to lots of unnecessary anger, hurt feelings, resentment, break-ups, and overall drama. Find out why we have a tendency to jump to conclusions, what is going on behind the curtain in the brain, and how to break free from this very, very not-so-good habit.

As the old cliche goes . . . misery loves company. This is incorrect, as misery loves miserable company . . . The same is true with positivity, as good vibes tend to attract more good vibes. This episode continues the discussion on the insatiable "ego-mind" and how making even one seemingly small change can move us further along the path to personal freedom. Learn about the detriments of the "complaining brain" and how to stop this vicious cycle of dysfunctional egoic thinking for a much, much happier life . . . 

Many of us are walking around stuck and not even aware of it, as we have gradually grown accustomed to living a life of imitation and falsity, often trying to measure up to a world outside ourselves. This discussion on "becoming free" begins with understanding the ego-mind and it's constant yearning for attention,  approval, and appreciation. Anyone who has gotten wrapped up in a relationship pattern of needing constant reassurance, or the need to be a "rescuer" or "people-pleaser," knows all too well what it's like to be trapped in emotional jail. As the authentic self is whole and complete it does not have these needs. Developing ego-awareness helps us to shift away from these unpleasant behaviors toward a path of authenticity, one of joy and personal freedom. 

Note: Codependency itself will be discussed in depth in a later episode.

The importance of mindfulness during a pandemic, or any crisis, is just so important . . . yet, we often tend to do the opposite and get swept right up in the momentum of the threat. We reside in the "what if's" of the future, catastrophizing and rehearsing the solutions to problems that don't exist.  Meanwhile, our valuable life minutes are slipping through our finger tips . . . and we can never get these back, ever. Residing in the past or future derails focus, creativity, and productivity as well as keeps us from being emotionally available to those we love and ourselves. 

Being fully present also leads to a calm and joyful mind.

Life is now in session.

Part I looked at the neuroscience behind the very primal feelings of anxiety and fear, as well as offering some very practical strategies to manage these feelings. Part II will now expand upon this into the various ways these raw emotions can manifest, as well as what happens when there is a pandemic . . . bringing with it the immediate fear of scarcity for many.

We will discuss how scarcity can become a conditioned response, very quickly pushing the "panic button" for those whom were already in a place of deprivation. We will also explore what it means to have a  "deprivation-based" pattern of thinking and how this can stem from economic, physical, emotional, or spiritual deprivation.

Our discussion will wind up with yet more ways to make the shift towards a less busy, worried, and fearful mind.

This episode continues the discussion on the obsessive compulsive thought pattern as it relates to fear, and further describes what is specifically going on with the worry circuit, leading to the realization that anxious, fear-based thinking is a brain-thing and therefore not our fault. From here, very practical strategies are provided to reduce the activity of the threat circuit, offering the fear-based mind freedom from "mental prison" . . .  opening the door wide for fear to be transformed into something manageable, leading to a happier and more authentic life.

This episode continues the discussion on how the "Monkey Mind" works as well as how to manage it. As anxiety is clearly not going to accommodate us . . . we need to make room for it and let it run it's course. When we learn to welcome anxiety rather than resist it, the door opens wide for us to take control and become the "Boss" of our brain . . . leading us down a new path toward living our best life.

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We tend to blame our brain a great deal — for the inability to remember when put on the spot, for intrusive thoughts making us feel badly, for being slow when we need it to be fast … — as if it were a tyrannical ruler whom the rest of our body needs to follow no matter what. We refuse to take responsibility for our brain’s health and our own personal happiness. If we did this, we could then experience this amazing organ as our loyal friend rather than a relentless enemy.

Learn to become the "Boss" of your brain and live your best life!

#anxiety #OCD #depression #psychology #education #reduceanxiety #growthmindset #resilience #learnedoptimism #freemind #obsessive-compulsivedisorder #shame