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 Cheers Bitches with Donna Church, the islands best bartend and my newest best friend. We talk about everything from bartending, to families to staying a romantic. Join us for a chat about life and finding your joy.

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Donna’s favorite response to compliments. 0:08
• How he got started in marketing. 5:28
• Donna’s become the most popular bartender on the island. 9:39
• Step into the fireside with your people. 13:38
• What’s your end with your end? 19:01
• The rules of the bar are strict. 25:18
• You can’t just bring your own music into the bar. 32:12
• Waving you down and asking for help. 36:32
• B bartenders need to keep the peace. 40:26
• How to deal with customers with customer service. 43:50
• What’s wrong with some of these kids? 48:31
• If you have a little dick, you better be extraordinary. 54:10
• If a guy can’t take care of you in those ways, he’s not going to stay for you. 1:00:39
• Karen’s name is “chi-chi”. 1:04:32
• What it’s like when a bad batch of fentanyl goes around, and why it’s happening. 1:08:58
• The fear of success. 1:15:04

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Stay curious, stay joyful…
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 This weeks episode, I talk to my friend Hannah. Who not only has a great ass, but a great outlook on life. Our talk is honest, raw and covers a bit of relationships, infertility and fighting against the binary. 

Summary/Time Stamps:

• Hannah’s background and growing up. 0:14
• What’s your favorite food? 6:46
• When you’re raised in certain beliefs, it can be incredibly difficult to break out of those beliefs. 12:21
• Hannah’s memories of her early life. 19:45
• What are the parameters for loving thy neighbor? 27:58
• If you don’t allow for the idea that you don’t have all the knowledge or you could learn from someone else, then 33:06
• Some people have totally different thought processes or views of the world. 41:17
• Why is religion so tied to this country? 49:04
• How weed opens you up in a different way. 1:00:59
• Knowing your worth on a different level is powerful. 1:09:52
• How poly gives you the freedom to have relationships with someone without worrying about breaking the rules. 1:21:26
• What’s hard about being in a poly relationship? 1:26:13
• The first time in her life she had ever made choices for herself. 1:33:29
• Why we need to drop qualifiers and labels. 1:39:17
• No one really fits fully in the binary. 1:45:56
• How do you know who you are? 1:50:33
• Is there an age when you should stop calling your kids your little sibling? 1:56:56
• Your life can’t be happy if you don’t have children. 2:01:37
• What it’s like to live like a “new woman”. 2:10:06
• It’s not fair for me. 2:14:09
• Why education is so important as a women. 2:20:38
• Relaxing is not the answer. 2:26:30

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

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Stay curious, stay joyful…
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 This week I rereleases a conversation I had last year with my friend and doctor. She taught me that healing doesn’t have to hurt along with so many other valuable lessons on healing, mobility and life. 

Summary/Time Stamps 

• What is chiropractic? What is chiropractic? 0:08
• The relationship of how the body holds itself together to create an integrated moment. 4:45
• Connecting into the fullness of the moment and being present. 8:44
• The difference between a chiropractic doctor and a medical doctor. 12:53
• What does it mean to be aware and how does consciousness manifest into life? 20:31
• Growing up in a vegetarian house. 25:30
• Why you need to know what you’re doing. 29:30
• You are your own best doctor -. 33:25
• How consciousness can seem like hippie dippie. 38:38

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

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Stay curious, stay joyful…
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  I’ll introduce you to my friend Melissa. I hope she’ll be back a few times because she is a wealth of knowledge and an amazingly interesting woman. Her life experience, natural talent and kind heart shows through in this candid conversation about like, everything life throws at you. Enjoy! 

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Juggling Reality -. 0:08
• Melissa’s description of herself. 2:07
• Functional pain and pain management. 6:18
• The amount of knowledge doctors don’t get is insane. 12:25
• There’s not enough lavender oil in the world. 18:24
• My life would be incomplete if I didn’t have kids. 24:35
• Every amazing thing our bodies can do is dependent on the one thing that they can’t do. 30:03
• What helped this person? What didn’t? 34:09
• The search for understanding and helping when you’ve felt helpless. 37:11
• Why we treat ourselves like shit about being vulnerable. 43:03
• My anxiety is like a gremlin. 48:44
• Confidence is a defense mechanism. It’s like the clay army. 54:10
• Introspection is like a little gremlin. 56:05
• When you feel like this you should get away from the people that you care about. 1:01:01
• “How can I help?”. 1:06:08
• We’re all being mean to ourselves. 1:11:58
• The new sexual revolution is coming. 1:17:38
• How long were you in Boston? 1:22:56
• Making friends at work. 1:27:56
• People change because of two things: something happens to them or they hear a story. 1:34:49
• You can’t judge someone’s experience. 1:37:44

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
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 This weeks episode is sweet, interesting and gave me a few things to look into but my favorite moment might be this one right here! Fucking smile y’all! Thanks so much for sitting with me and taking all things trash.

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Darryl talks about how he’s one of the only people in the world who wears a hat every day. 0:00
• Do you guys work automated or do you guys have to do everything? 4:09
• Dealing with the aftermath of 9/11 and the legacy of the twin towers. 10:23
• What’s the most valuable thing you found in the trash? 16:15
• Where do you find dead body parts in the dump? 23:10
• The mental health of the industry is the biggest problem. 28:17
• Waste management and injuries to workers. 34:40
• The curse of working constantly. 40:10
• Waking up at 330 in the morning. 45:22
• Waste Management’s old school green garbage trucks. 51:11
• Why they’ve been complaining to each other for 25 years. 57:23
• When he grew up, the Coast Guard was in full-swing. 1:02:17
• Alameda was only three and a half miles long when it was founded. 1:07:04
• When people were so much simpler before social media. 1:11:21
• Who takes the trash out to the barrel? 1:16:12
• Dishwashers don’t care if you’re an old guy. 1:21:24
• Waving at everyone and saying hello. 1:26:28

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Thanks for hanging in the pond, my ducks 🐤

Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

Follow along:
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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
you’re deeply loved, my ducks.

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 This week is a long but it was all too good to cut! Listen in chunks or listen while cleaning the house. Just be sure to listen! I have been calmed and cared for by Karen’s energy more than a few times but getting to hear her story was an honor. To understand her path and how she got or maybe always has been a calming care presence was brilliant! Enjoy hearing how Karen went from Rikers Island to Reiki master. 


Summary/Time Stamp: 

• Karen’s background. 0:00
• Karen’s background in corrections. 2:31
• His career has been based on conflict. 8:37
• It’s never too late to change your life. 15:06
• How did you get to where you are? 19:51
• My mother’s story. 24:03
• How Reiki has helped her manage her temper. 28:14
• Each thing you do is changing the vibration you’re operating at. 35:31
• Why do you have an opinion on why people do what they do? 43:52
• Don’t second-guess yourself. 49:09
• Making sure you’re living with intention in your moment. 56:33
• The power of hearing other people’s stories. 1:01:22
• When you’re insecure, it’s like the universe gives you lessons. 1:07:11
• There’s always something to guide you to whatever is best for you. 1:12:27
• Toxic positivity vs. good vibes. 1:18:12
• What is Reiki? How does it work? 1:23:50
• Why I’ve been so afraid of doing the podcast. 1:32:03
• The importance of sharing your story. 1:37:00
• How being honest with people has been a blessing. 1:43:07
• The importance of showing up as you are. 1:45:40
• The other day at the holistic caveat, where we were waiting for you to come in, I was talking to mypa and this girl turned around 1:50:07
• When you’re used to being this person, it’s all parts of you. 1:55:01
• When you need to respond vs. react –. 1:

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
you’re deeply loved, my ducks.

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 This week’s episode is both inspiring and emotional as Monica and I share the dark and light moments of life that have propelled us forward. 

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Introducing Monica. 0:00
• Why not go to the Netherlands? 5:29
• What it’s like to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t think like you do. 12:01
• Just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean it’s a failure. 17:31
• What’s the worst thing that happens when you move to another country? 24:38
• The days that have been the roughest for her. 28:19
• Volunteering with Empty Arms Bereavement Support. 31:50
• Why you shouldn’t judge someone because of who they are. 38:17
• What is polyamory? How does it work? 43:35
• You can’t sleep with both of your partners at the same time. 49:36
• The struggles of poly relationships and sex. 53:19
• Have you been a jealous person before? 59:38
• When we’re not together, it’s like we’re not expecting anything from each other. 1:05:04
• Knowing who you are and what you want. 1:09:40
• Getting out of your comfort zone is a way to figure out what you do and don’t want. 1:14:42

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Thanks for hanging in the pond, my ducks 🐤

Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

Follow along:
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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
you’re deeply loved, my ducks.

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 This week my gurl Brenda talk about finding your place, building community and finding yourself. 

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Welcome to this week’s episode of. 0:05
• Common courtesy has gone out of the window. 4:31
• When you move to a new place, it’s difficult to form a community. 9:46
• Loss of opportunity and loss of connection. 14:25
• Children are supposed to listen to the stories our elders give us. 21:54
• It’s human nature to want to know things and to feel like you owe people an explanation. 27:48
• How to deal with unsolicited dick pics. 31:43
• Transgender people don’t have to look a certain way to be transgender. 36:17
• What made you do top surgery and not breast reduction? 41:04
• Can it just be kids issues and not trans issues? 43:00
• What are we doing putting stuff in kids’ bodies that we don’t know enough about? 48:02
• The hierarchy that exists in the transgender community. 52:43
• You don’t have to like every person. 57:16
• Don’t take over issues for any group of people. 1:05:15
• What’s next for you? Hormones. 1:10:36
• What’s next for Brando? 1:15:39
• Burning Man is like the ultimate life hangover. 1:21:16
• Burning Man Regionals. 1:26:32

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
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 Listen in while my Boo and I talk all things drag, love, and finding your authentic self.

• Trey’s origin story. 0:13
• What it’s like to know that your parents were doing the best they could. 9:00
• Did things get better with his parents? 13:58
• What’s the worst way to connect to someone? 17:30
• What happened after her breakup with her ex. 21:46
• Trey’s first mentor is. 27:54
• On her wedding anniversary, he made jokes at her expense. 33:55
• Moving to the San Francisco Bay. 38:56
• Working at the Federal Law office. 41:37
• What’s your auric bubble like? 47:04
• When you get to that point in your life where you’re like, “How did I get here?”. 53:16
• Boundaries are very important. 55:35
• It’s all about building trust slowly. 59:55
• Family is the only thing that matters. 1:05:10
• “All you’re trying to do is make yourself feel better.”. 1:10:28
• Don’t be rude to other people’s friends. 1:16:13
• How do I know how to trust myself on who to let in? 1:23:19
• When someone sees me that makes me uncomfortable, it makes me feel like I haven’t seen in the past. 1:26:00
• It would have killed me if I hadn’t left. 1:32:44
• When you’re in school, did you ever have a test where you had to learn a different key? 1:37:22
• Don’t get involved unless you are asked to. 1:43:14
• Drag shows are not always about sex. 1:52:59
• Don’t get me wrong, I don't like violence, but it’s not our job to fix it. 1:58:55
• When are we going to have gun control? 2:06:33
• Donald Trump’s wife is a flight attendant. 2:10:35
• “You are the master of your own destiny”. 2:16:47

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Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

Follow along:
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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
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 Kirkland and I get real about pain and what people mean when the my say you have privilege. 

Summary/Time Stamp: 

• Do more things on microphones. 0:00
• Donna doesn’t give a shit, she’s feisty. 2:52
• Don’t have a huge black population at the bar. 7:55
• Detroit vs. Oakland. 12:11
• What’s he worth? -. 19:18
• Sean Keeley is moving off of the online game. 21:54
• They don’t owe you anything. 29:18
• Every time she leaves her house, she has to think about getting murdered. 32:26
• How do you sustain your pain with your pain? 35:51
• What’s going to happen in the studio. 41:13
• Morphine and pain relief. 47:55
• Don’t take drugs. 52:09
• What do you need to do to help your sickle cell. 55:56
• How does a guy from Detroit fall in love with the Patriots? 1:00:50
• No bullshit in Boston. 1:05:20

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Thanks for hanging in the pond, my ducks 🐤

Where we keep it honest, casual conversations about serious sh*t, and somehow still find a way to laugh through it.

If you felt something, send it to someone you love… or someone who might need a little push.

Follow along:
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And go out there and find your joy, even if it’s a little chaotic.

Stay curious, stay joyful…
you’re deeply loved, my ducks.