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"Does it spark joy?"

If that question sounds familiar, then you may be as big of a Marie Kondo fan as we are.

So, you can imagine how excited we are to bring you today's guest, Amanda Jefferson, who is one of the world's first KonMari consultants.

Like a salve for our inner perfectionist selves, Amanda offers an alternative to the toxic organization that our culture and consumerism try to sell us.

Just like perfectionistic beauty standards, perfectionistic organizing standards won't bring us happiness — but being ruthless about what brings us joy just might.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Guilt is not joy." — Amanda Jefferson WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• What toxic organization looks like and how to recognize when we've fallen into it

• Slipping into stress organizing when we feel out of control

• Being ruthless about letting go — and why you sometimes need to hang on to that Hootie and the Blowfish CD

• Tackling organizing as a couple

• How to find the minimum effective dose and max-mod-min of things

LINKS

The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less book by Dr. Christine Carter

Julie Morgenstern Max-Mod-Min

Amanda Jefferson of Indigo Organizing on the web

Amanda Jefferson of Indigo Organizing on Instagram

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This week's episode is for all the fam members who have been feeling weird, unsettled, lost, and uninspired, for the peeps who don't know what's next.

Ugh. 🤦‍♀️

Wanna hear some good news?

There is no next. There's only now. And then the next now and the next now and the now after that.

So, how can we learn to be with what is right now when it's not great, even if it's shitty?

The answer lies in choosing intuition over instinct, relaxation response over stress response.

Who's ready to say goodbye to fight / flight / freeze and hello to groundedness and presence? 🙋‍♀️

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "The now creates the now, not the future." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Why now is the only reality and the future is a myth

• The difference between acting out of instinct and acting out of intuition

• Shifting from stress response — fight / flight / freeze — into relaxation response

• Your current relationship to now

• How meet the now and be with what is in the present moment

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This week, we're bringing a returning guest back to the podcast — our second guest ever on Middle Finger to Perfection, Melanie Knights.

A lot has changed in all of our lives since Melanie last joined us on the show in 2017.

One of the biggest changes in Melanie's life is that she's learned to embrace her inner outlaw and rebel and use them to challenge her perfectionism and people pleasing — and she's here to show us how.

Tap into your inner shit-stirrer, pop in your earbuds, and get ready to break some rules! 🤘

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Is that what you want or what they want?" — Melanie Knights WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Questioning the status quo

• Getting out of your own echo chamber

• Embracing your inner shit-stirrer

• The connection between your rebel / outlaw and your values + intuition

• Navigating perfectionism through self-inquiry

LINKS

Melanie Knights on the web

Entrepreneurial Outlaws podcast with Melanie Knights

Melanie Knights on Instagram

Entrepreneurial Outlaws on Instagram

Melanie Knights' Instagram Alchemy Roadmap

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Today, we're talking all about advice — advice from within and external, the best advice we've received, the kind that's tough to take, and the advice we give the most.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Do I want external advice, and if so, who do I want it from?" — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• The power of seeking advice from within first

• Considering the source of advice

• Examining whether we're better at giving or receiving advice

• Best advice we've ever received

• Hardest advice to take — AKA why simple advice is often not easy to follow

• Advice we give the most

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What does it mean to truly own our joy?

How do we access it?

It comes down to three foundational principles, really:

Mindfulness + Presence

Soul-Centered Values

Self-Compassion

Today, our resident happiness expert, Ashley Looker, is taking us to joy school.

Let's own it!

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Happiness is a being state, not a doing state." — Ashley "Joy exists only in the present moment." — Ashley "Being intentional with our choices creates more happiness." — Ashley "Self-compassion helps us build emotional resilience." — Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Biggest happiness myths

• How to step off the hedonic treadmill

• Why happiness is not about "having"

• What it means to connect with our soul-centered values

• Plus a bonus self-compassion meditation by Ashley

LINKS

Quantum Coaching Academy with Ashley Gordon

Sarah Jensen

Jill Arendt

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We made it, fam.

We made it to January 20, 2021 — and beyond.

Today's episode is a celebration...of change, of hope, of representation, and the power of possibility.

Let's take this moment to feel all the feels and dream big about what lies

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Who represents us represents us." — Jenna "Let's look into the mirror that our elected leaders are for us and see more of our positives than our negatives reflected back to us." — Jenna "This doesn't fix everything, but it sure AF helps." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• How the inauguration made us feel — body, mind, soul, and spirit

• Why hope often gets a bad rap

• Looking at what's possible and how things can change

• All about resilience and resistance

• Why representation matters

LINKS

Amanda Gorman

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What could life look like if each of us made our emotional wellbeing a top priority?

Can you imagine the possibilities?

Less people pleasing, fewer shoulds, choosing our personal values over comparison, allowing over fixing and controlling.

What may seem like an impossible utopia is actually much closer than you might think according to today's guest, therapist and coach Chelsea Connors. Chelsea's mission is to ditch the overwhelming uncertainty and never-ending stress and find our true sense of happiness and wellbeing in the "real world."

Where do we sign up?!

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• How to prioritize caring for our emotional wellbeing

• Strategies for filtering and fact-checking our shoulds

• Stepping out of comparison and into our personal values

• Discomfort and allowing as the antidote to fixing and controlling

• How to release the pressure of unrealistic expectations — and make it stick

LINKS

VIA Character Strengths Survey

Chelsea Connors on the web

Chelsea Connors on Instagram

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In this week's episode, we're going back to basics and talking about why now is the time to check our privilege, check in on our people, mind our media consumption, and take care of ourselves as we ride the waves of rage that have been arising lately.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Am I angry about what's happening in this moment, or am I angry about what might happen in the future?" — Jenna "The more I resist the anger, the rage, and the sadness, the more they compound, so I just have to let myself feel them." — Ashley "It takes more energy to resist our feelings than to allow them and be with them." — Ashley "You can never outrun the waves of emotion. You can never make it to shore quicker than the waves will catch up with you." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Why we're going back to basics

• Strategies for riding the rollercoaster and waves of emotions

• The power of mindful media consumption right now

• Why now is the time to check in on our people

• How we can increase awareness around our privilege now and going forward

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In our first episode of the new year, we revisit the vision versus the reality of 2020 as we look back at our 2020 vision boards to see what we made happen — and didn't — over the past year, what took the cake in 2020, and what we're most looking forward to in 2021.

What are your greatest hopes — for the fam and in general — in the year ahead?

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "If my 2020 were a cake, it would be a vanilla cake with vanilla frosting and no decorations because I stripped away all the bullshit." — Jenna "I'm going to write my own story. I'm going to decorate my own cake." — Ashley "In 2021, let's transition from pressure cooker to slow cooker." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Revisiting vision board 2020 versus actual 2020

• What we made happen — and didn't make happen — in 2020

• What took the cake in 2020

• What we're looking forward to in 2021

• Our greatest hopes — for the fam and in general — in 2021

LINKS

Quantum Coaching Academy

Lindsey Allen Designs

Adria DeCorte

Social Savvy

Sarah Steckler

Sarah Jensen

Melanie Knights

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You are officially invited to the only kind of going away party 2020 deserves.

As we throw this dumpster fire onto the trash heap of history, we bid it a not-so-fond farewell with a celebration of the things we're giving the middle finger in the year that was.

Here's to the memories we'd rather forget and all that we refuse to take with us in 2021. 🖕

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Middle fingers up to 2019 expectations in 2020." — Jenna "There's no room for shoulds in 2020." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Alllllll the things we're giving the middle finger to in 2020

• Why who you thought you were going to be in 2020 just wasn't it

• How toxic productivity, workaholism, delayed gratification, and a lack of play converge to create burnout

• The downfall of consumerism, excess, and maximalism in 2020

• How 2020 realigned our priorities to what is most essential

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.