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Today, we are joined by self-worth coach and best-selling author, Tracy Secombe. Tracy helps people pleasers step fully into their power by reconnecting with their true selves and becoming soul pleasers.

In this episode, Tracy blows our minds many times over and reminds us of our soul's true purpose.

Pop in your earbuds and join us for a conversation that's bound to uplift you, make you think + reflect, and put a smile on your face.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Our souls never told us we weren't good enough. — Tracy Secombe "If you make joy your priority, you will find the practices that are going to create your own alignment. — Tracy Secombe WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Tracy's journey from people pleaser to soul pleaser

• What it means to be a soul pleaser

• Tracy's favorite soul pleaser practices

• Challenges Tracy sees people pleasing creating in relationships – and how to overcome them

• How people pleasers know when we are finally living in our purpose

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Tracy Secombe on the web

Tracy Secombe on Instagram @soul.pleaser

From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser book by Tracy Secombe on Amazon

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What happens when you fully accept that you'll never be perfect?

It's one thing to say that perfection is a myth, but it's another to own that you (I, we) will never be perfect.

Literally never.

We will always do things imperfectly.

We will always mess up.

We will always make mistakes.

We will always hurt someone (hopefully) unintentionally, probably someone we care about and love.

Even if we feel our intentions are "perfect" and pure, our outcomes never will be.

How do we live with that?

And how do we not get defensive, self-critical, and judgmental in the face of that reality?

If you've ever asked yourself these questions or would love to know the answers, pop in your earbuds now and join us for a juicy conversation.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Our first reactions to being called out on our mistakes and imperfections

• Where we're still holding onto the myth of perfectionism – and where we've been able to release it

• What helps us let go of the hope of perfectionism

• Our biggest goals right now when it comes to releasing perfectionism

• Why shooting for a B+ still makes our recovering perfectionist skin crawl

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's Awaken Your Joy journal prompt deck

In today's episode, Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) take time out to connect with our joy, thanks to Ashley's Awaken Your Joy journal prompt deck.

We are both committed to intentionally creating more joy in our lives these days, and Ashley's practical, actionable prompts help to facilitate that process.

Join us as we pull three cards from the deck and explore what's possible right now when we awaken our joy.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• What joy looks like for us right now

• How gratitude is showing up these days

• What it means to decide to be happy – and how much our own happiness is within our sphere of influence

• Steps we can take toward healing ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually

• The power of taking time for self-reflection through journaling

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's Awaken Your Joy journal prompt deck

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Today, we welcome our guest, Julie Hagen, a former Type A lawyer who shares a unique approach to recovering from perfectionism that many of us might not have considered: microdosing.

Julie has transformed her own life from stressed and anxious attorney to balanced coach through the combination of microdosing and holotropic breathwork.

Join Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) as we ask Julie all about perfectionism and spirituality, worthiness and letting go of control, and our fears and misconceptions about microdosing.

Press play ▶️ on this fascinating conversation now.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Julie's journey from working as a lawyer to finding her passion for holotropic breathwork combined with microdosing

• What balance really means and how the combination of breathwork + microdosing can help you find your unique version of it

• Julie's advice for those of us who are scared to try microdosing for the first time

• How to avoid the influence of perfectionism on our spiritual practices

• Tips for letting go of control and not-enoughness

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's journaling resources and workshops

Julie Hagen on Instagram @juliecyvonne - Use the code LOVE222 for 22% off any of Julie's offerings!

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Self-care when self-care feels like the hardest and most impossible thing but is the first thing we all need ➡️ that is emergency self-care.

And if now isn't a time for emergency self-care, we don't know when is.

So, take a few moments for yourself and join us as we explore how best to care for ourselves on all levels right now – mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual.

We are all in this together, fam, and we've got you.

Let us know how we can support you in your own emergency self-care. 🙏

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• How each of us is getting through right now

• Tending to your mental self-care by curating your consumption

• Maintaining emotional self-care through identifying your source of release

• The differences between rest and restoration when it comes to physical self-care

• Why connection is essential in spiritual self-care

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's journaling resources and workshops

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Today's guest has been in a lifelong love affair with self-discovery and is endlessly fascinated by the inner workings of the human mind.

Needless to say, she's our kind of people.

Dawn Hammer is the author of The Good Human: 9 Radical Practices to Smash Your Ego, Unleash Your Authentic Self, and Foster Connection in a Divided World, and she is fiercely devoted to untangling the thoughts, ideas, and ideologies that keep us stuck and fearful.

Pop in your earbuds and crank up the volume ASAP because you're going to want to catch every minute of this incredible conversation!

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• What it truly means to be a "good human"

• Why being "good" is a living practice

• How releasing perfectionistic expectations for others can help us release unrealistic expectations for ourselves

• Elevating the good without falling into the trap of perfectionism

• Using our breath to reconnect with goodness and gratitude

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's journaling resources and workshops

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

What is the big deal about journaling?!

Do you count yourself as one of our fellow journaling junkies, a newbie just dipping your toes into the journaling pool, or a conscientious objector to the whole journaling thing?

Even experienced journalers may not realize all of the scientifically proven benefits of journaling, so today, we're sharing a few of the top positives of journaling, how to overcome your objections to journaling, and our best advice for novice and pro journalers alike.

Grab a pen and paper, your favorite app, or a fresh Google doc, and let's go!

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Why everyone is so obsessed with journaling

• What journaling can do for us

• Overcoming objections to journaling

• Our greatest shifts through journaling

• Our best advice for newbie and experienced journalers

LINKS

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's journaling resources and workshops

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Choosing to invest in ourselves is never a simple process for us recovering perfectionists and people pleasers – even though investments in self and self-care don't have to involve spending any money.

Investing in ourselves can often feel selfish and trigger discomfort, fear, and scarcity due, in part, to the relevant cultural and familial messages we've internalized over time.

Nonetheless, it is essential to invest in ourselves, and there is a way to know when it's time to do so.

Pop in your earbuds now to find out how to invest in yourself without all the angst.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• The types of investments we can make in ourselves – besides time and money

• Cultural and familial beliefs about investment

• How to know when it's time to invest in yourself

• Thoughts, emotions, and sensations around investing in ourselves

• The parts of our lives in need of the biggest investments right now

LINKS

Ashley's Find Your Purpose and Create your Dream Life Workshop Series on Insight Timer - Use code DREAM25 to save 25%.

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's Awaken Your Joy Journal Prompt Deck

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

If you're anything like Ashley and I (Jenna 👋), you've likely found yourself speeding down life's highway watching boundaries fly by so fast that you don't even realize how many boundaries you've passed until the next sign you see reads "Last exit before Burnout."

Pop in your earbuds, crank up the volume, and let's take that offramp before you find yourself in Burnout City, Population Y-O-U.

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Getting into integrity with our boundaries is key to shifting out of burnout. — Jenna + Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• Why burnout is everywhere right now

• Boundaries red flags

• Signs you might be entering burnout

• Why burnout is a sneaky bitch

• How to know when you're in — or out of — integrity with your boundaries

LINKS

Ashley's Find Your Purpose and Create your Dream Life Workshop Series on Insight Timer

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Ashley's Slow The F*ck Down book

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.

Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) are definitely dreaming big in 2022, but are we dreaming big enough?

And how will we know if we are?

Today, we're diving into all things dream-related.

Do we have what it takes to pursue our biggest dreams?

Pop in your earbuds and find out! ☁️☁️☁️

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… "Dreams are the inspiration, and goals are the implementation that helps and supports us in getting there. — Jenna "The duality of dreams is that they can exist in fear and excitement at the same time. — Ashley "No dreams are wrong or right. They're just wrong or right for you. — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…

• The difference between goals and dreams

• What gets in the way of going after our dreams

• What it takes to pursue our big dreams

• How to know if you're dreaming big enough

• Our biggest dreams for 2022

LINKS

Ashley's Year of Awakening

The Quantum Coaching Academy (QCA) with thequantum.coach, Ashley Gordon

Melanie Knights' Small Biz Snail Mail

The Great Work of Your Life: A Guide for the Journey to Your True Calling book by Stephen Cope

Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!

And because we're in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.