Eldercare Success

Managing the cost of a parent’s care can be like running a small, complex enterprise.  Discussing the ins, outs, and intricacies of financial oversight and care can sometimes bring up all sorts of emotions among siblings. 

In this episode, I dive headfirst into a few ways to prepare for those “money talks” around the cost of care with your siblings, or even a parent.  Reminding yourself of the end goal is a great way to start.  However, when someone else has a different goal, your motives might come into question too.

It's not always easy, but when managed well, this can relieve some of your stress and help educate your siblings about what more they can do to help you and their parents through this time of their life. Tune in to learn more.

Helpful caregiver links:

• CareManity on Instagram
• CareManity on FaceBook
• Nancy May: LinkedIn
• How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies: Step-by-Step Before, During, After
• Free File of Life

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

This is part two about the caregiver and the feelings and hurt from betrayal. My guest Holli Kenley, is a licensed therapist, author, and well-known expert on the subject of betrayal and healing.  While few caregivers want to discuss this topic, many of us suffer invisible wounds from past experiences. Holli and I dive into how betrayal costs us more than trust.  It can contribute to our loss of self.

Holli covers the depths of our caregiver experience on this front: what lurks beneath the surface and how to heal and find strength again. Join us, to learn more about how this can happen to almost anyone, how to recover, and then find greater strength in your caregiving journey. 

Show Links and Resources:

• Holli Kenley, MA, LMFT
• Holli's books
• TEDx on Betrayal
• Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Holli Kenley

CareManity, Host of Eldercare Success

• CareManity on Instagram
• CareManity on FaceBook
• Nancy May: LinkedIn
• How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies: Step-by-Step Before, During, After

Guest: Holli Kenley, MA LMFT is the author of "Daughters Betrayed By Their Mothers: Moving From Brokenness To Wholeness, Breaking, Through Betrayal, and Recovering Peace Within, and eight other recovery/wellness books and one novel. Holli works in the field of psychology as an experienced author, therapist, and workshop presenter. She has a BA from the University of California at Santa Barbara and has a Masters in Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage, Family & Child Counseling from Chapman University. She is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a California State Licensed Teacher.

Kenley was born in Ely, Nevada but spent most of her life in California -raised in the Central Valley and then lived her adult life in Southern California. She and her husband currently live in the Palm Springs area of Southern California enjoying the year-round sunshine.

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

In this episode, I discuss the challenges of hospital-induced delirium. This syndrome can affect people of all ages, not just older individuals. Drawing from a personal conversation with someone who experienced this, I explain how this happens, and how to reduce the chances of this affecting your parent, spouse, or even your child when hospitalized.

Highlights:

• Personal Stories: One caregiver shares her experience with an aging parent who was hospitalized. Another, my own, on how we managed to avoid this from happening to my own parents.
• Understanding Hospital-Induced Delirium: I discuss the nature of this condition, and how it can affect individuals of all ages, not just the elderly. It can result in cognitive impairment and disorientation.
• Triggers and Concerns: I note the triggers that can contribute to hospital-induced delirium, especially during extended hospital stays and from certain medications.
• Emotional Impact: There is an emotional toll faced by caregivers and their loved ones when confronting sudden cognitive changes.
• Coping Strategies: I offer practical advice and strategies to help caregivers navigate hospital-induced delirium, and offer a ray of hope amidst uncertainty.

Listen to this full episode of Eldercare Success and learn more about how you can help those you love to reduce their chance of getting hospital-induced delirium or hospital-induced dementia.

CareManity, Host of Eldercare Success

• CareManity on Instagram
• CareManity on FaceBook
• Nancy May: LinkedIn
• How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies: Step-by-Step Before, During, After

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

This is part one of a two-part episode featuring my guest, Holli Kenley, a licensed therapist, author, and well-known expert on the subject of betrayal.  While few caregivers want to discuss this topic, many of us suffer invisible wounds from past experiences. Holli and I dive into how betrayal costs us more than trust.  It can contribute to our loss of self.

Holli covers the depths of our caregiver experience on this front: what lurks beneath the surface and how to heal and find strength again. Join us, to learn more about how this can happen to almost anyone, how to recover, and then find greater strength in your caregiving journey. 

Show Links and Resources:

• Holli Kenley, MA, LMFT
• Holli's books
• TEDx on Betrayal
• Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Holli Kenley

CareManity, Host of Eldercare Success

• CareManity on Instagram
• CareManity on FaceBook
• Nancy May: LinkedIn
• How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies: Step-by-Step Before, During, After

Guest: Holli Kenley, MA LMFT is the author of "Daughters Betrayed By Their Mothers: Moving From Brokenness To Wholeness, Breaking, Through Betrayal, and Recovering Peace Within, and eight other recovery/wellness books and one novel. Holli works in the field of psychology as an experienced author, therapist, and workshop presenter. She has a BA from the University of California at Santa Barbara and has a Masters in Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage, Family & Child Counseling from Chapman University. She is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a California State Licensed Teacher.

Kenley was born in Ely, Nevada but spent most of her life in California -raised in the Central Valley and then lived her adult life in Southern California. She and her husband currently live in the Palm Springs area of Southern California enjoying the year-round sunshine.

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

This episode even caught me by surprise.  In this segment, I dive into research about how the daily pressures of caregiving can take a serious toll on our own memory, and a few ways to manage stress better.  While extreme stress hasn’t been found to cause Alzheimer's, it has been associated with accelerated brain aging and can even lead to temporary memory loss.  In addition, you’ll get some invaluable strategies for handling persistent caregiver stress, while finding more balance at home and work. There’s even a bit of humor in this one. And, as always, good tips to get additional support from coworkers and your employer, too.

Extra links:

• RuPaul shares how he felt while caring for his mother in Finding Your Roots
• CareManity on Instagram
• CareManity on FaceBook
• Nancy May: LinkedIn
• How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies: Step-by-Step Before, During, After

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

How do you cope with an aging mom?  So many assume this is the eldest daughter’s job. However, when the one who steps in and steps up had to be a son, things might be different.  What do you need to overcome, as a son, to help your mom bathe, or dress, or even use the toilet when you’re her son?  The same kinds of challenges can hold true with daughters and their dads. How will you hold it all together?

Pride and modesty will need to take a backseat for necessity and practicality. Creativity and empathy can help you move forward.  Here’s one son’s story on how offering a cup of tea to his mom, while on the commode, helped him move forward, with more strength on his caregiving journey. 

There’s more in store here! 

#momlife #family #caregiving #sonswhocare #eldercare

Links: A Cup of Tea on the Commode (book+)

GUEST: Mark Steven Porro is an award-winning designer, writer, and director. He has written lots of jokes, several screenplays, and one award-winning short film. A Cup of Tea on the Commode—a sad, sweet, and funny debut memoir—chronicles his multitasking adventures of filling his mother’s last years with love, laughter, and joy. Though not always successful, he came pretty damn close. A native of New Jersey, (Exit 163), where he moved back to from his then home in Hollywood so that he could care for his mother when she needed him the most. He now lives in the South of France. But hold your pity. He of sound mind and body chose to suffer in the heart of wine country where the locals insist his French isn’t so bad—at least that’s what he thinks they’re saying. 

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

CareManity and Eldercare Success are trademarks of CareManity, LLC. "There is a Better Way" is a Service Mark of CareManity, LLC  

Concerned about recent bank financial failures?  Your aging parent may be too, but they might not tell you. When you’re on a fixed or reduced income, every penny counts.

In this episode, my guest, Philip Van Doorn from Market Watch explains, simply, how to calm your parents’ fears and help them protect their assets.  We also talk about finding additional ways to earn money on their deposits and how to find extra dollars for them.  We also cover how to make sure that their investment brokerage is safe and what to look for. Yes, every dollar counts!   

This episode focuses on your, your parents, and your family’s best interest. Financial interest, that is. 

Special note: Philip is also a caregiver and helps to care for his dad.

Helpful links:

• FDIC information about your insured deposits
• Credit Union protection information 
• SPIC brokerage insurance and your coverage
• WSJ article about bank collapses and brokerage accounts

#marketwatch @philipvandoorn #money #costofcare @marketwatch

GUEST: Philip Van Doorn is an investment analyst and columnist for MarketWatch. He's known as a "rare find" with the exceptional skill of being able to take complex issues and translate them into everyday language. It's a privilege to have Philip as one of our guests on the show.

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

CareManity and Eldercare Success are trademarks of CareManity, LLC. "There is a Better Way" is a Service Mark of CareManity, LLC  

If you’re working full time but also caring for an aging parent, the stress and feeling of isolation can be significant. Adding to that stress can be a fear (real or imagined) of potential retribution from your boss or peers if they find out. Even if you’re not working full-time, or part-time, you can find yourself isolated from the rest of the world – except for doctors, or other care providers.  For those employed and caring for a parent, understand that 56% of our colleagues who are also caregivers like you find themselves more stressed at work.  No surprise there!

Learn how to recognize if you’re falling into this isolation trap and how to “get out,” before you can’t even dig yourself out.  In this episode, I discuss the three key situations where you’re most likely to fall into the isolation trap: at home, at work, and in social settings. However, I’ve got a few solid tips to help, including how to help your boss have more confidence in you as a leader, even when you’re called away to caregiving duties at home or even in another state.   

Caregiving can be a lonely responsibility, but it doesn’t have to be. Tune in to learn about better ways to cope, win, and live well while caring for those you love. The tips shared in this episode are ones you can start putting to use immediately! 

#caregiver #isolation #loneliness #leadership #howto #eldercare

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

CareManity and Eldercare Success are trademarks of CareManity, LLC. "There is a Better Way" is a Service Mark of CareManity, LLC  

Being a caregiver has its joys and tough times, too. Sometimes we step into the role thinking that we are knowing what our job will be. But it’s hard to foresee how being a caregiver will interrupt our families, jobs, finances, relationships, and lives. 

 If you are or have been a caregiver, are you ready to do this once again?  Do you feel more prepared now for surprises, and think you know how to do the job better, or just as well as you did?  What happens when you’ve done this twice and now you have to step into the role a third, fourth, or even fifth time? 

In this episode, my guests, Dr. Emily Mroz, and Amanda Piechota, from the Yale School of Medicine share their research and findings on how second, third, or multiple-time caregivers thought about their roles and whether they’re more prepared and willing to take this responsibility on again.

Would you do this again for others, such as a parent, family member, or even friend? You might be surprised to learn how other who have cared for a loved on - men and women alike in this role - are managing the second, third, and even fourth time around.

Here's a link to the Been There Done That: A grounded theory of future caregiver preparedness in former caregivers of parents living with Dementia study.

#dementia, #caregiver, #alzheimersdisease, #familycare #elderly #dementia #medicalstudy #yale #yaleschoolofmedicine #dementiacare

GUESTS: Emily Mroz Ph.D., is a Postdoctoral Fellow at the Yale School of Medicine, where she’s focused on geriatric medicine and caregiver research. She completed her doctorate in Psychology and Gerontology at the University of Florida. Her research examines pathways to positive and maladaptive psychological outcomes for seriously ill individuals and their informal family caregivers. Dr. Mroz also develops tools and techniques to improve palliative care communication.

Amanda Piechota, is a research assistant at the Yale School of Public Health, Social and Behavioral Sciences.

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

CareManity and Eldercare Success are trademarks of CareManity, LLC. "There is a Better Way" is a Service Mark of CareManity, LLC

What happens when you get a call from your dad who says: “don’t worry, Mom’s just been taken to the ER,”  then hangs upon you? You’re 1200 miles away and on your way to work! The first you think: OMG what happened? The second thing: What else can go wrong?

Yes, mistakes happen do happen in the ER.  In this episode, I share the top seven things that can make going to an Emergency Room a potential disaster, and how to avoid joining the 10 million people a year who get worse in the ER, not better.

Tip: Make sure your parents all have a file of life. You should have one too. Get your free file and instructions on how to use it here. My File of Life

Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.

Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation differs. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.

CareManity, and Eldercare Success are a trademarks of CareManity, LLC. "There is a Better Way" is a Service Mark of CareManity, LLC