Embrace Fertility

Totally getting goosebumps about sharing #allthethings with you. Today at 5pm my free fertility mindset coaching workshop begins, make sure you are part of it, go to www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here. In this episode I share why this course is NOT just a mindfulness course.

I woke up today and for a split second everything was okay. Then the anxiety hit me. My stomach felt tense and knotted, my shoulders were up around my ears and I haven’t even sat up yet and I felt slightly nauseous.

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The list of things that needed to be done or changed or eradicated was immense. I got up and after a few moments remembered that my experience is not created by what is going on in the world around me but by the thoughts I am having about those things.

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This made me feel slightly better and reminded me that I have the power to choose. I could choose to continue living in the reality of needing to:

* get to the end of my to do list


* eradicate COVID-19 and infertility 


* Get the right results back. 


It reminded me that I could choose to step out of my negative thought loop and so I reached for a technique from my mental tool kit.

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This morning I chose Rise Up a new techniques that I created for an Embrace Fertility Method member as she was struggling with the Drop Through version that I share in the course.

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I didn’t even sit down or close my eyes to work through this technique I just talked myself through it as I went about my day and after a few minutes found relief. The tension dropped from my body, my mind cleared and my breathing became full and unrestricted.

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In this podcast I talk you through the technique and I will be creating a full guided visualisation video of this technique as part of my free five day fertility coaching workshop that I’m running for the 21st of September. Come to www.embracefertility.co.uk to sign up.

When push comes to shove and the shit seems to be flying at you from all directions do you:

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A. Decide it’s all just too much so crumble and get flattened by all the shit or

B. Decide that you can and will ride through this and prioritise the things you know you need in order to be able to do that?

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To be completely honest I have not been prioritising the things I know I need because it’s just felt too much, too many other things seem more important in the moment so I stick myself on the bottom of the list and push on through.

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This is not acceptable and if I let even just a few days go by where I’m not prioritising the space and time I need for me then I easily feel overwhelmed and vulnerable in the face of the flying shit.

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I have to choose time

and time

and time

and time

and time

and time

and time

and time again that I am important and I need what I need.

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What do you KNOW that you need in order to keep yourself balanced and happy even in the face of the flying shit?

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If you have absolutely no idea or maybe you know but don’t know how to actually make it a sustainable part of your everyday life then come and join my free five day fertility workshop where we were talking about how to ensure you are nurturing and nourishing not just your fertility but your well-being and happiness.

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We get started on Monday 21st of September, sign up at www.embracefertility.co.uk to ensure you receive the daily videos.

A 10 minute episode today discussing the way talking or even thinking about having a baby can become a trigger for anxiety, grief and anger in the same way seeing pregnant women or babies can.

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The deeper you go into infertility the more painful your own thinking can become and your unconscious mind may begin to try to protect you from pain by encouraging you to turn away from bumps, babies and allowing yourself to even imagine yourself being pregnant or a mum.

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You are in essence turning away from what you most want.

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I talk about how to drop through these feelings and tune into a place of being open and receptive to what you want.

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I share a mini desensitisation exercise that you can do in the comfort of your own home to help reprogram your unconscious mind from saying no to what you want to saying yes.

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It’s my habit to listen to guided meditation recordings or hypnosis recordings as I like the structure, direction and intention behind them. However there is part of me that craves sitting with myself, craves silence. I go through periods of avoiding it though as my mind can be so busy, so loud. I have to re-cultivate that habit of giving my mind time to settle.

If you’ve never just sat before then start off with my four minute Reset Button MP3 to get you started but then after listening for seven days try setting a time on your phone for just four minutes and just sit. (You can download this for free from www.embracefertility.co.uk.)

 

Your mind may wonder, you may need to bring it back to your breath every split second but that’s okay it’s called mindfulness practice for a reason.

In this new podcast I talk about how to move yourself from depressive low mood thinking to a space of calm contentment in just a few hours. Www.embracefertility.co.uk.

Infertility for me was like the tiger in the room I would wake up and for a split second everything will be fine and then I’ll remember I am in theatre and the giant tiger would jump on my back and stay with me all day long. I was living in a chronic State of stress and it was only when I started having panic attacks on the London underground that I realised how bad it had got. In this episode I talk about why listening to my reset button MP3 for just 3 1/2 minutes a day can improve your quality of life and your chances of success.

💣TRUTH BOMB TIME💣

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Funny isn’t it how synchronicities show up in our lives. Last Saturday I totally lost it and ended up sobbing on an Instagram live and it took me by surprise.

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I decided to save it as an IGTV video and emailed it out to my entire mailing list! I did this because I want to show you that it is okay and normal to have big huge emotions.

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It’s okay not to be okay.

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The synchronicity was that on the following Monday my business coach challenged me to share with you the one thing I really don’t want you to know about me.

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The one thing that makes my toes curl and heart race in my chest because I’m trying so hard to hide it.

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Two things immediately sprang to mind, two things that made me feel physically sick and my mind shout “Don’t be ridiculous never tell them”

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So I hit record and tell you about both of them in my latest podcast! The reason why I’m doing this is because the whole reason why I started Embrace was to share my own personal experiences of going through infertility and how using mindbody techniques such as mindfulness and emotional freedom technique were helping me navigate the rollercoaster of emotions I was experiencing.

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It started out as a blog that very much was my journal and as the group grew and I started running fertility support meetings I knew that I wanted to be able to help more and in a deeper way.

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I retrained as a therapist and for the past seven years this is what I have done. (Alongside creating and caring for two tiny ginger humans.)

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If I stop being open and honest with you then I am not only doing you a disservice but doing myself a disservice because I will have forgotten that emotions are here to redirect us, to show us what is going on in our minds and bodies.

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Some of you may listen to this and and unfollow me but some of you will listen and breathe a sigh of relief that it’s okay. We are human, we feel, we struggle, just because I’m a therapist, just because I’m a mum doesn’t mean that I’m living in this bubble of peace and harmony.

I’ve just come for a quick walk after a client session and I am feeling all the feelings. I’m excited and inspired and I feel so so grateful that I get to work with women in this way at such a deep level. That I get to facilitate the transformations that occur from looking at your thoughts, your beliefs and your habits. How these impact how you are feeling and your decision making and therefore your life. I’m so blessed that I get to do this work. If you would like to find out more about working with me then go to www.Embracefertility.co.uk/start-here, check out the techniques I share and then book a free 30 minute clarity call and we can chat about how I can support you further.

Mini episode on Father’s Day here in the UK, support for the guys, how the differences in how men and women deal with infertility based on my personal experiences and those of my clients and how that can impact your relationship.

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Check out www.embracefertility.co.uk for loads of free support/ideas/downloads.