The importance of mothering yourself while trying for baby.

Starts with a behind the scenes at how and why I record the Embrace Fertility podcast as I filmed this episode for IGTV. You can go check out that episode now follow me on Instagram @embracefertility.

In today’s episode I ask ‘When did you last do something that was purely to bring you pleasure and joy in this moment?’ No ulterior motive, no ‘I’m doing this because I’m going to increase my chances of getting pregnant’? When was the last time you really did something that was just for you?

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I talk about how on my own journey through infertility I got to the point where everything I did was in the pursuit of getting pregnant. I was meditating, doing fertility yoga, acupuncture, I was doing ALL THE THINGS in the hope that this would then reach saturation point and I would become pregnant.

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It also meant that any time I did something that was purely to have fun it was tinged with guilt that maybe I should be doing one of the conception enhancing techniques instead.

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On previous blogs and podcasts I’ve talked about how if you want to get pregnant and become a mum because you imagine it will make you feel happy, fulfilled and content when it happens then surely allowing yourself to feel those feelings now is just as important.

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Stop putting your life on hold. It is possible to not only live your life whilst waiting for your baby but love your life. I know because I did it.

In this episode I talk about the difference between desperately wanting to get pregnant and feeling empowered and impassioned on your journey to motherhood. 

I discuss how desperation has negative connotations - imagine a friend desperately wanting a boyfriend or desperately wanting a job and how that would impact their behaviour. 

I explain how you don’t need to dial down your desire for a baby but you instead dial down your fear that you may never get to have a baby. These are two very different things and this is where Embrace Fertility steps in, this is where I step in and say this is possible for you. www.embracefertility.co.uk

For me it was 15 minutes ago.! I decided to record this podcast to share about the unexpected outburst I just experienced and the learning I took from it as well as the benefits of everyone allowed themselves to have a really good cry.

Episode 8: Yes I know, when I first found this out I was like WTF!

Everyone tells us to relax and stay positive while we are trying to conceive but trying to do so can actually have a very detrimental effect on your well-being and physical health and therefore a knock-on impact to your fertility and chances of conceiving.

I’m going to be talking more about this along with the science behind your fertility and your mind in my free masterclass on Wed 12th Feb.

If you are listening after that date then come and join my mailing list and I will send you the replay of the masterclass. Www.embracefertility.co.uk

Our minds are powerful and are unable to distinguish between real or imagined. I demonstrate this with a simple exercise at the beginning of the podcast where I ask you to imagine cutting open and then biting into a lemon.

I talk about how many of us going through infertility can wake up and immediately start thinking thoughts like “What if I never get pregnant?” “What if I never get to be a mother?”

I talk about how this takes your body into stress response and then discuss simple techniques you can start to utilise to counterbalance this and bring your mind on board to support you in conceiving and carrying the baby you long for.

My next free masterclass is on Wednesday, the 12th of February at 8 pm come and join my mailing list for your invite. Www.embracefertility.co.uk.

This week something happened that completely threw me. I was in floods of tears, feeling overwhelmed and shook up. I turned to the mindbody techniques that served me so well while going through infertility and the ones that I keep coming back to time and time again to rebalance and find comfort.

In this episode I talk about how we can take charge of our emotions in our lives through simple decisions and actions. I suggest ways you can do that too.

At the end of the podcast I invite you to email me and let me know what you think about this topic. You can do that by signing up for your free fertility support pack at www.embracefertility.co.uk and hitting reply when you get my email or by emailing me directly at [email protected]

Yes you. You dipping into podcasts looking for…......... What are you looking for? The answer? A distraction? Connection?

When it comes down to it we are all just looking for, no scrap that, desperately longing for connection.

Connection with ourselves, our partners, our purpose.

When we don’t have connection we are lost, stunted, diminished.

When we have it we are in powered inspired uplifted.

I made a conscious decision to leave my much longed for children for you. http://www.embracefertility.co.uk/

It’s so tempting at this time of year to set ourselves a massive list of new years resolutions of all the things we want to change about ourselves.

Instead bring a new habit to your daily life, ask yourself before each decision you make “Is this nourishing or depleting?”

While I was trying to conceive I pushed myself at work as a way of coping with infertility and it lead to burnout. As I started to tune in to my body I learnt how to nurture myself rather than deplete my energy.

I spent 15 minutes making myself a delicious pot of porridge with fresh berries, nuts, seeds and cinnamon and I set out into the woods to eat it. I got chased by a huge dog and now the porridge has no flavour.

In this episode I talk about the emotional and physiological changes experience by our bodies when we go into stress response and how this can impact our experience of infertility.

Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk for your free fertility support pack and mindful meditation.