Embrace It All!

When we are feeling stressed, often our brains get stuck thinking that there is only one option regarding the situation.   For many, thinking there is only one option available, causes immediate overwhelm and sometimes even a little panic.  

In today's short episode, I will teach you why your brain wants to hold onto this belief and the most effective tool to help your brain let go and step into believing that you really do have many options available when it comes to any situation. 

 By intentionally using this tool, the stress will disapate and you will feel much calmer and reassured.  

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I don't believe in coincidences.  I don't.  I believe that God always has my back and what some people call coincidences, I call tender mercies.

Tender mercies are described  as very personal and individualized blessings, strength, protection, assurances, guidance, loving kindnesses, consolation, support, and spiritual gifts we receive from and because of and through the Lord Jesus Christ.  (David A. Bednar)

Knowing that God has my back and will bless me with the tender mercies I need, gives me hope and assurance, especially when I’m going through a personal challenge.  Tender mercies remind me that I am never alone, and knowing that gives me the strength to keep going .

On today's summer short episode, I share a few personal examples when it was clearly evident that God always has my back. 

God doens't work in coincidences.  He extends to us His tender mercies.

To read more, vist the link below:
The Tender Mercies of the Lord

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 I have come to realize that before I can make any type of improvement or progess in my life, I have to create shifts in my thinking and belief first. These shifts don't have to be big.  In fact, consistently making small shifts in my thinking have created amazig results.  Massive success doesn't always require massive action, or massive thought change.

In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear states, " by making 1% improvement in a host of tiny areas, the cumulative benefits would be extraordinary."   And I would add that this is only possible when we make those 1% shifts in thinking first.  We can do all the things on someone else’s list that they claim will make us successful, but until we make those 1% changes in our thinking, bridging the gap from unbelief to belief first, we will only get frustrated.  

In this short and sweet episode I share the story of how  this principle created remarkable results for the Brittish Cycling team, as well as my own personal example.  
I will also introduce how to bridge the gap between unbelief to belief.  

https://jamesclear.com/marginal-gains

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Yesterday I saw a sign that read, “Don’t look back.  You’re not going that way”.   This has become a very popular sentiment, especially when it comes to our mental health and well being.  But, I don’t fully agree with this idea of not looking back.  I think there can be real value when we look back. 

In this short and sweet episode I will explain the three different lenses that we most commonly look through when we "look back".  

• The lens of regret and shame
• The lens of nostalgia
• The lens of accomplishment and growth

I believe that there is a very real difference when we look back and stay in that space, vs. looking back to see where we've been.  I will share a personal example that shed some light on this for me just recently.  

I do believe that sometimes looking back can actually give us the momentum to keep moving forward. 

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Sarah and I are back to discuss even more ideas on how to create positive and loving relationhsips.  

It's no secret that men and women think differently, act differently, and feel love differently.  And because of this, marriage relationships require a lot of time and effort to create the love we desire.  

In this episode, Sarah and I will discuss:

• What love looks like within a marriage, 
• How to understand your spouse’s love language and why that is important, 
• Why the popular belief that we can fall into or out of love anytime is not true.  
• Why marriage and family relationships are so important

Join us as we share what we have discovered within our own marriage and family relationships.

Below is a list of references:

Carroll, J. S., Badger, S., & Yang, C. (2006, July). The ability to negotiate or the ability to love? Evaluating the developmental domains of marital competence. Journal of Family Issues, 27 (7), 1001-1032.

Gottman, J. M., Coan, J., Carrere, S., & Swanson, C. (1998, February). Predicting marital happiness and stability from newlywed interactions. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 60 (1), 5-22.

Gottman, J.M. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. 

Terry Baker, “Don’t Let Negativism Ruin Your Marriage,” Ensign, March 2001.

Chapman, G. (1992). The Five Love Languages.

Lynn G. Robbins, “Agency and Love in Marriage,” Ensign, October 2000.

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Episode 100 is here, and I knew I wanted to discuss something that is extremely important to me.  This topic is something that I am so passionate about, and one that I have devoted most of my life, my time, and my energy into.   Over the years I have learned that anything that is important to me, requires a lot of attention and work, but the rewards along the way are amazing.

So the topic I chose to feature on this 100th episode is creating strong, positive and loving relationships, particularly  Marriage and Family relationships.   Of all the roles I hold in my life, being a wife and a mother are the two most important to me. 

Because this topic is one of great importance, I invited Sarah Curtis, an expert in the field of Marriage and Family relationships, to discuss these things with me.  I have a very special guest with me here to discuss how to create those strong, positive, and loving marriage and family relationships, because this is something we are both passionate about.  Not only is Sarah a wife and mother of five sons, she holds a Ph.D. in Marriage, Family, and Human Development and taught marriage courses at BYU for several years.  She is fun, positive and passionate about sharing her knowledge.

On this episode we will be discussing:

• the definition of marriage competence
•  positive Affect within your marriage
•  what to look out for when it comes to resolving conflict within your marriage

Below is a list of references she shares:

Carroll, J. S., Badger, S., & Yang, C. (2006, July). The ability to negotiate or the ability to love? Evaluating the developmental domains of marital competence. Journal of Family Issues, 27 (7), 1001-1032.

Gottman, J. M., Coan, J., Carrere, S., & Swanson, C. (1998, February). Predicting marital happiness and stability from newlywed interactions. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 60 (1), 5-22.

Gottman, J.M. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. 

Terry Baker, “Don’t Let Negativism Ruin Your Marriage,” Ensign, March 2001.

Chapman, G. (1992). The Five Love Languages.

Lynn G. Robbins, “Agency and Love in Marriage,” Ensign, October 2000.

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I am not naive to the fact many things we experience in this life aren’t always described as fun.  I get that, believe me.  There are so many circumstances that can seem very heavy and serious. 

But I also believe that sometimes we can make even our everyday circumstances a lot harder than they really are because of the thoughts we believe about them; the stories our brain is making up about those circumstances. 

Take summer, for instance.  The kids are out of school and home 24/7, and the infamous "I'm bored" is what you hear over and over again.  And your brain wants you to believe that it is now your job 24/7 to etertain them.  How does that feel?  Pretty stressful and overwhelming, right?

On today's episode I discuss the thought "Make it easy. Make it fun". 

I admit, when I first heard this thought, I rolled my eyes.  I'm the kind of person that , takes life pretty seriously for the most part. And sometimes I've even judged people who have such a way of making everything they do, even mundane tasks,  seem fun no matter what. And a lot of times I  could not wrap my head around it.

But this thought, make it easy, make it fun, really is asking the question,  how can I make this situation easy and fun?  How can I respond to this circumstance in an easy and fun way?  

And this question feels light and freeing.  It gives me the opportunity to explore another perspective regarding the circumstance. 

I really like this thought because it helps me to focus on keeping things simple.  And for me, when I keep things simple, I feel a lot less stress and overwhelm.  

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Everything we create in our lives is the result of what we think in response to the circumstances we experience.  One of the tools we use to become aware of  why we are creating our current results  is the Model. 

But what about understanding our inherent identity?

We know that we are all children of  God, born with unique gifts and talents, but what are some ways that we can discover our unique identity? 

On today's episode I talk with Identity coach, Tyson Bradley., who has developed one Method to answer that question, called the I AM ME method.

Tyson Bradley is the host of the Inherent Identity Podcast and the Author of the book Reclaim Your Inherent Identity: The 5 Steps To Instant and Lasting Change. He is happily married and the proud father of 2 redheaded girls and baby boy. He has studied mindset and behavior change over the past 10 years and has finally cracked the code on the fastest way to make change happen. 

Tyson will walk us through each step of his I A.M. M.E. method and explain how using his I A.M. M.E. method awakens the remembrance of our inherent identity, and explain how pairing the model with his method helps us make the changes we want to make in an easier, more aligned way. 

To find out more about Tyson Bradley and the I AM ME Method, follow these links:
Website: https://www.inherentidentity.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtysonbradley/
Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/inherentidentity
Email: [email protected]

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Because I believe self-awareness is so important, I use a tool with my clients that is somewhat of a "magic wand" so to speak.  It's a very simple but highly effective tool, called "The Model". This Cognitive Behavior Therapy tool was created in a very simplistic way by Master Certified Life Coach, Brooke Castillo that helps see that everything we create in our lives is the result of what we think and how we feel.  

For me, the model is like a puzzle, that, when all the pieces are found and put together just right, a beautiful picture is revealed.  Each part of the model are the pieces that build upon each other,  in order to reveal what it is your brain is thinking and feeling in relation to the circumstances in your life.  

In this episode I will explain each of the 5 components of this model:

1.  Circumstances
2.  Thoughts
3. Emotions
4. Actions
5. Results

And how they all work together to reveal the big picture of what your brain is creating for you right now.  And that can be magical, because when you see what you are creating with your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you can change those things to create what you really want in your life.  

The model is simple and brilliant.  

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On this episode we will explore  a very simple concept, or rather a question that has made such a profound impact in my life since starting this work.  It’s a question that makes you stop and when answered, puts you in control of whatever situation you may find yourself in.  Here it is:    How Do I  Want to Show Up?  Meaning: 

What is it I want to think? How do I want to feel, and how to I want to be?  (behave, act, respond, etc) in relation to the circumstances that I am in, or will be in. 

For so long I believed that the way I felt on any given day really depended on the on what was happening around me; I thought that the circumstances or situations in my life determined how I felt, or how I responded.  When I discovered that my feelings had nothing to do with the circumstances in my life, and everything to do with the way I thought about these circumstances, it changed everything for me.  

The only thing we can control is the way we show up/what meaning we give to that circumstance and how we respond.  and the way we respond to these circumstances will create the experience we have.

In other words, we don’t have control over our circumstances, but we do have control over how we respond.     

We can intentionally DECIDE ahead of time what kind of experience we want, and create that experience no matter what the circumstance by answering the question, “How do I want to show up?”   

Asking yourself this question Can be extremely useful when facing a new, or challenging experience.  As I work with clients, many times during our coaching sessions I will ask them this very question.   I do this for a few reasons:  

1.    To help them understand that they have a choice in how they respond to their circumstances

2.    To help them understand that they don’t have to be a victim of their circumstances

3.    To help them understand that they can create the experience they want to have

4.    To help them be intentional

This one question can change everything for you!

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