The Essential 11

Embracing Authenticity and Evolution: Breaking Free from Gender Norms and Stereotypes with Martine De Lune

05.07.2024 - By Matt BeaudreauPlay

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Gender roles, or the expected ways of behaving based on whether someone is a man or a woman, have had a big influence on people's behavior in society and personal relationships. They've often guided tasks at home and how people should show their feelings, typically reinforcing the differences between "manly" and "womanly." Nowadays, people often question these old roles, especially when talking about personal identity, mental health, and how people relate to each other.

Martine De Lune shares insights on gender roles and the dynamics of relationships. She addresses the biological and societal influences on femininity and masculinity, empowering women to embrace their natural attributes and understand the impact on their personal and professional lives. Tune in as young leaders ask questions about life, personal growth, entrepreneurship, and more!

Quotes:

"Femininity is not a costume. It's not a dress, it's not makeup, it's not heels. It's how you feel about yourself, how vulnerable you are." – Martine De Lune

"Biologically, males don't need females; they don't need to choose them. They have to desire them; they have to feel like they need them. Many women don't understand this and are often triggered by it." – Martine De Lune

"A woman is the essence of the relationship. If your essence feels brittle, sticky, and muddy, your children will reflect that back to you, and your husband will feel it, even if you don't say it." – Martine De Lune

Takeaways:

Embrace the beauty of both masculinity and femininity from a biological perspective. Using self-awareness practices like journaling can help us recognize where we stand on this spectrum.

Open and respectful communication with our partners is key. Talking about our feelings, needs, and dynamics of our relationships, such as finances, can help prevent any conflicts arising from unmet needs. It’s okay to be vulnerable and show our emotions while still showing respect.

Offer support for the unique biological needs of women, including those related to hormones, menstruation, pregnancy, and parenting.

By being proactive, like getting hormonal testing, we can validate our perceptions around relationships and well-being. This leads to a better understanding of ourselves and how we manage our relationships.

Face and address our internal triggers that can negatively affect relationships. Striving to perceive our partners in a way that aligns with their biological drives can make a world of difference.

Conclusion:

Understanding and embracing masculine and feminine characteristics can lead to better self-awareness and healthier relationships. Open, respectful communication about needs and feelings is crucial in preventing conflicts. Recognizing that we all have different physical needs, especially women, and dealing with our personal issues can improve our relationships. In the end, respecting our natural inclinations while understanding our emotions and making personal choices can help us break old-fashioned rules and make our relationships happier.

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