CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf

Empowering Vs. Enabling Toxic Behavior

08.21.2023 - By Dr. Caroline LeafPlay

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I discuss the difference between enabling and empowering someone. Simply put, enabling is doing something challenging for someone else, while empowering someone means helping and supporting them as they complete the challenging task. Think of those school projects you did as a child; enabling is your mom doing the whole project for you, while empowering is your mom helping you do your own school project.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

5:03 What is the difference between enabling and empowering? 

9:40 What is empowerment, and how can you empower a loved one and help them on their healing journey?

10:00 Why compassion can lead to empowerment OR enablement, if we are not careful

10:53 Why emotions are complicated and can lead to “messy” relationships

11:33 How do you say “no”?

12:00 How to mind manage your relationships with the Neurocycle

13:30 How the Neurocycle can help you make wiser choices and recognize the difference between enabling and empowering

18:50 Why we need to listen to and learn from our emotions and feelings, even the uncomfortable ones!

33:39 Why you cannot fix other people’s problems for them

35:10 How to empower those you love

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