In this episode, Lisa Candera sits down with autistic actress, writer, and filmmaker Bella Zoe Martinez, star of the short film Once More, Like Rain Man. Bella offers a candid look at what it’s like to navigate Hollywood—and the world—when autism is reduced to a single stereotype. Through humor and honesty, she shares the lived experience behind masking, exhaustion, and being misunderstood before you ever speak.

1. Why Rain Man has become shorthand for autism—and why that’s a problem
2. What it’s like to live under constant comparison to a stereotype
3. How autistic characters are often written as flat or robotic
4. What masking actually feels like from the inside
5. Why kids come home exhausted after holding it together all day
6. Why autistic people deserve to tell stories beyond autism

Hearing Bella describe masking as acting shifted how I understand what so many kids carry every day. When we see behavior as effort instead of defiance, the picture changes—and so does our response.

Once More, Like Rain Man

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