Coming Out Late

Ep. #196: Talking Sex & Relationships w/Samantha Fox, Part 2 (replay)


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In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with friend and Lesbian Curiosity Coach, Samantha Fox, to keep talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. 

In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . 

  • A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.
  • The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.
  • Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.
  • Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?
  • The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.
  • Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.
  • What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.
  • Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.
  • NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.
  • Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!
  • ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.
  • Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.
  • Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.
  • “Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.
  • Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians *may* not be better at sex than we are.   
  • Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

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There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: [email protected].

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