The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

EP435: When Good Enough is Gutting You: And How the Enneagram Can Fill You Back Up


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We’ve all been there—you’ve built a life that looks good on paper. The job works, the bills are paid, the people around you love you. If someone asked, you’d say you’re fine. But deep down, you know better. Fine is the counterfeit. It mimics peace, but it steals your fire. It’s just comfortable enough to keep you from risking what’s actually waiting for you. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on my own 18-month spiritual sabbatical and the moment I finally declared “I can’t do this anymore.” We’ll talk about the real cost of settling for “good enough,” the way the Enneagram reveals where you get trapped in it, and how to make room for the miracle that’s already on its way. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
  1. Why “fine” is the counterfeit. Good enough mimics peace, but it steals your fire, your joy, and your clarity.
  2. The hidden cost of settling for fine: the mental, emotional, and physical toll of living in “I’m fine” mode.
  3. The power of declaration. How saying out loud “I can’t do this anymore” makes room for alignment and miracles.
  4. How the Enneagram reveals your personal trap with “good enough”—and how to use it as a roadmap out of settling.
  5. Why alignment doesn’t come from hustling harder—it comes from refusing to settle for counterfeit and making space for the real thing.
Key Takeaways by Enneagram Type:
  • Types 8, 3, and 1 (motion-driven): Your “good enough” looks like achievement—climbing ladders that don’t even matter anymore just to distract yourself from emptiness.
  • Types 4, 6, and 9 (comfort-driven): Your “good enough” looks like safety—choosing predictable pain over uncertain possibility. It feels responsible, but it’s really fear dressed as loyalty.
  • Types 2, 5, and 7 (distraction-driven): Your “good enough” looks like over-giving, over-researching, or over-indulging—filling the space so you never have to stop and face what’s gutting you.
Quotes That Landed in My Bones:
  • “Fine is not harmless. It’s a slow bleed.”
  • “Gratitude is sacred. Settling isn’t.”
  • “Your miracle is already waiting for you, but as long as you’re settling for fine, there’s no room for it to land.”
Call to Action:
  • Get your Enneagram Blueprint → tracyomalley.com
  • Join me inside The Enneagram Edge Foundations Program (starts Sept 3). Four weeks of live coaching where you’ll learn how to spot your “fine,” declare what you’re actually here for, and build the muscle to act as if it’s already happening. 
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