The differences that drew you to your spouse in dating can become the very things that drive you crazy in marriage — but what if they didn't have to? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew talk honestly about what it looks like to move from contempt toward genuine celebration of the spouse God gave you.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

- What differences first attracted you to your spouse — and have any of those become sources of frustration over time?

- Where do you tend toward contempt rather than celebration when your spouse does things differently than you would?

- What's one specific difference in your spouse that you could choose to reframe with gratitude this week?

- How do you currently discern, in your marriage, between a difference that's just a preference and one that has crossed into a sinful pattern?

- Who in your life — friends, community, mentors — do you trust to speak honestly into your marriage when conflict keeps coming up?

- What would it look like practically for you to pray for God's eyes toward your spouse this week?