At some point, almost every married person has had the thought: did I marry the wrong person? In this honest and hopeful conversation, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott unpack where that feeling comes from — unmet expectations, comparison, cultural lies — and what to actually do when it shows up.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

- What expectations did you bring into marriage that didn't match reality — and where did those expectations come from?

- In what areas do you find yourself comparing your spouse or your marriage to others? How does that comparison affect your contentment?

- Scott mentioned that part of the feeling often comes from something in us — selfishness, unrealistic expectations — not just our spouse. Where do you see that in yourself?

- What are three specific things you're genuinely grateful for in your spouse right now? Have you told them recently?

- What are some things you did early in your relationship that raised the attraction level — and how could you bring some of those back?

- Is there something you've been feeling disconnected about that you haven't fully said out loud yet? What would it look like to bring that to your spouse this week?