Real love is often not what we think it is and it takes some time to understand it fully. We build all kind of neuroses in our best efforts to experience love and don’t reach the point where we experience boundless unconditional love in its true form. Equanimity, love, compassion and appreciative joy are the four states of divine abidings that spontaneously arise in us as a reflection of the degree to which we remove the hindrances that bring us to suffering. We can actively mature our capacity for love. This is the path of love.