Establish The Man Core Principle No. 5a & 5b:

5a: "The Established Man has a foundation of masculine faith, mental and emotional strength, that comes from who he has become due to facing the storms of life".

5b: "The Established Man is not defined by the fulfilment of his dreams. He is defined by the character he develops along the journey towards his dreams".

In this episode we talk about the above core principles of the established man. An established man does the work necessary to develop strong faith with mental and emotional strength. The established man can see the weaknesses in himself when he exhibits poor behaviour during times of stress. He uses the storms of life or the hard times to refine his character rather than let his emotions get on top of him and affect the people around him. He doesn't bottle up his emotions in a fake show of stoicism. He openly acknowledges his struggles and finds ways to build his strength so he can be the man who inspires and protects his family and others around him.

Remember, the established man is not perfect. He has flaws and he has struggles, because he is doing great things with his life. He is becoming a man of wisdom and faith by facing the hard issues of his experience.

Establish The Man Core Principle No. 4: "The Established Man becomes a strong leader even if he isn't the boss. He seeks to inspire and empower everyone he comes in contact with regardless of his position or professional title". 

In this episode we explore another foundational principle that is fundamental to established and positive masculinity. We are all called to leadership. The established man doesn't wait to be given a title or a team before he begins to build his leadership ability. The established man develops leadership ability as part of his core personality. We are talking about positive empowering and uplifting leadership. Not toxic, domination based leadership that seeks power through spreading fear.  

The established man is always seeking to show a strong standard of excellence in the family and in the work place. He isn't perfect but he has a vision to lead by example. It is irrelevant if he is in a professional position of management or leadership. His focus is on bringing his best attitude to the work place to lead by example. The established man see's leadership opportunity everywhere. It is just what he does. He is a man of service to others. Not a man serving his own ego to gain power and dominance over others. 

With this attitude of service based leadership, the established man builds peace and stability within his own emotional and mental health, because he seeks to uplift and empower everyone he is associated with. This protects him against mental and emotional crisis because he is in control of himself and is not controlled by the lust for power and superficial gain. The established man is in a constant state of developing himself into a well balanced and grounded individual. In doing so he naturaly inspires and empowers others to do the same. Not out of need for praise or power. But because he knows that this is what gives him the most peace and well-being. 

In this episode we discuss the second core principle of the Established Man. "The Established Man works to be in control of himself and his emotions. He owns his mistakes and failures, and builds a vision to chase so he can be the man his family can look up to". The ten core principles of the Established Man provide a standard of behaviour and emotional well-being for the modern man. If we don't have a vision of where we are going as men in marriage, family and life in general then where are we going? If we don't have a standard to look towards how do we know when we are falling into damaging unconscious thinking and behaviour? By having a standard to be conscious of, we implant into our conscious thinking a flag that comes up when our behaviour contradicts the standard we desire to keep. Without that flag we are often slaves to our usual unconscious behaviour patterns which keep us locked into creating the same life we have. If you want more out of life, if you want more out of your marriage, if you want more out of your relationship with your children then you must develop new ways of thinking, believing and acting that develop that new outcome. "We can't create something new with the same thinking that got us to where we already are." Hope you enjoy this episode of Establish The Man Podcast.