Existence Podcast

Season 2: Series 8: Episode 1- We Hold Ourselves Back: It Was Never About the Circumstances

November 2, 2025

Let me tell you a hard truth, one that sets you free. It was never about the circumstances. We hold ourselves back. Not because the world is impossible. Not because the resources do not exist. Not because we lack the intelligence, the calling, or the strength. But because somewhere along the way, we learned to build walls on the inside and then blamed what is externally out of reach.

I used to think,

"If I just had more time…"

"If someone would just see me…"

"If this situation were different…"

But I have come to learn this:

Circumstances are neutral.

What we bring to them are our belief systems, our fears, our patterns, and this defines whether we break or build. Whether we shrink or rise.

Two people can stand in the same storm.

One sees it as a reason to stop.

The other sees it as an opportunity to establish roots.

So it is not the storm.

It is the stories we tell ourselves.

The greatest battles we ever fight do not happen outside; they happen inside.

Fear shows up sounding reasonable:

"Now is not the time."

"You are not ready."

"Someone else is already doing it."

Self-doubt dresses itself in false humility:

"I am just being realistic."

"I do not want to make it about me."

"I do not know enough yet."

And then we hand over our power quietly, without even noticing.

Not because someone stole it, but because we never fully claimed it.

You were not built to live small.

Spiritually, we are told, 'You are more than a conqueror.'

Psychologically, we are aware of self-efficacy: the belief in one's ability to influence outcomes.

Neuroscience tells us our brains are wired to adapt, grow, and rewire, even after trauma.

Historically, every revolution, innovation, and shift has come from a person who decided to stop waiting.

So what makes us think we are the exception?

What holds us back is not our job, our upbringing, our money, or even our trauma; what holds us back is the belief that we cannot move because of those things.

That is the lie.

The myth of "If only…"

"If only I had more time."

"If only I had their resources."

"If only I were not so behind."

"If only someone would believe in me…"

But what if the truth is this:

You are someone.

You are the moment.

You are the answer you have been waiting for.

So I want to ask you:

Where are you giving your power away?

Where are you judging instead of being curious about why you keep stopping short?

What belief are you protecting that no longer serves who you are becoming?

Because here is the thing:

You were created for more.

Not more pressure.

Not more perfection.

But more purpose. More alignment. More boldness.

You were built to rise, not retreat.

This week, do not wait for the world to change before you do.

Do not wait for perfect conditions! They are a myth.

Decide today: I will not hold myself back.

Say it with me:

It was never about the circumstances.

You were made for the breakthrough.

The permission slip is yours.

The only thing left to do is move.

This is your moment.

This is your time.

Let's go.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Concern with what people may say … intent vs impact

• Look within, but not too focused

• Discerning and being a steward over what God has given you

• Sometimes this means displeasing other individuals

• Watch comments like, this is how we have done it

• How do you collect yourself when having difficult conversations?

• Be ready for self-advocacy.

• Being water!

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 7: Episode 4- Reclaiming Purpose in a Disconnected World

October 19, 2025

This series embarks on a journey to understand reclaiming purpose in a disconnected world.

Something has changed. We all feel it, even if we cannot fully name it.

We are living in a time when the traditions that once brought families and communities together, community centers, church services, Sunday dinners, family cookouts, and holidays spent laughing around a full table, are quietly disappearing. Children who once played outside until dusk now live in a digital blur. Family rhythms have become more fragmented. And somewhere along the way, connection became convenience. Value became a hustle. Purpose got traded for productivity.

We have witnessed a transformation in customer service since the pandemic, from warm greetings and shared syrup jars at diners to individual packets, plastic shields, and interactions where eyes no longer meet. In some spaces, it's become "get in, get out," not "how can I serve you?" Teachers, nurses, and even referees sometimes throw their hands up with, "I don't get paid enough for this." And truth be told, they are not wrong; there is inequitable pay distribution, but that cannot be the end of the story.

At youth sports games, we see grown adults yelling, ready to fight over plays meant to teach teamwork and cooperation. Children are being pushed to perform like professionals, rather than play like learners. And often, the systems that oversee these spaces reward the wrong things: name recognition, connections, rather than skill, ability, growth, effort, and accolades.

We have become a culture more shaped by transaction than transformation. More reactive than reflective. More "what's in it for me?" than "how can I show up for you?"

And yet, there are still flickers of who we can be.

A couple of weeks ago, a woman walked her dog in unexpected rain. You know summer rain. That's a song I love. Another woman pulls over, gets out of her car, and offers her an umbrella, not because she knows her, but because that is what the community does. That moment is what this conversation is about: the small acts of humanity that remind us we are still capable of showing up for one another.

This is not about blaming any one particular person, community, or system, but about how we can evolve and learn through our individual and collective existence.

So we ask:

What have we stopped teaching our children, not just in school, but through our actions?

What traditions have we let go of that once shaped our values?

What systems have we accepted that reward separation, selfishness, and shortcuts?

And most importantly, what kind of world are we silently co-signing when we stop choosing connection, care, and community?

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• The community attributes

• What are we at risk of losing when we do not cultivate togetherness in our communities?

• The connection with self and surrounding attributions.

• Bystanders responsibility

• Are we healing, and do we understand the responsibility of being a human?

• Intergenerational communication is essential

• How are your friends holding you accountable?

• How do you speak the truth?

• Understanding your environment, especially when there is a temperature change due to the situation.

• Check out our key takeaways

• Check out speak into existence.

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 7: Episode 3- Reclaiming Purpose in a Disconnected World

October 12, 2025

This series embarks on a journey to understand reclaiming purpose in a disconnected world.

Something has changed. We all feel it, even if we cannot fully name it.

We are living in a time when the traditions that once brought families and communities together, community centers, church services, Sunday dinners, family cookouts, and holidays spent laughing around a full table, are quietly disappearing. Children who once played outside until dusk now live in a digital blur. Family rhythms have become more fragmented. And somewhere along the way, connection became convenience. Value became a hustle. Purpose got traded for productivity.

We have witnessed a transformation in customer service since the pandemic, from warm greetings and shared syrup jars at diners to individual packets, plastic shields, and interactions where eyes no longer meet. In some spaces, it's become "get in, get out," not "how can I serve you?" Teachers, nurses, and even referees sometimes throw their hands up with, "I don't get paid enough for this." And truth be told, they are not wrong; there is inequitable pay distribution, but that cannot be the end of the story.

At youth sports games, we see grown adults yelling, ready to fight over plays meant to teach teamwork and cooperation. Children are being pushed to perform like professionals, rather than play like learners. And often, the systems that oversee these spaces reward the wrong things: name recognition, connections, rather than skill, ability, growth, effort, and accolades.

We have become a culture more shaped by transaction than transformation. More reactive than reflective. More "what's in it for me?" than "how can I show up for you?"

And yet, there are still flickers of who we can be.

A couple of weeks ago, a woman walked her dog in unexpected rain. You know summer rain. That's a song I love. Another woman pulls over, gets out of her car, and offers her an umbrella, not because she knows her, but because that is what the community does. That moment is what this conversation is about: the small acts of humanity that remind us we are still capable of showing up for one another.

This is not about blaming any one particular person, community, or system, but about how we can evolve and learn through our individual and collective existence.

So we ask:

What have we stopped teaching our children, not just in school, but through our actions?

What traditions have we let go of that once shaped our values?

What systems have we accepted that reward separation, selfishness, and shortcuts?

And most importantly, what kind of world are we silently co-signing when we stop choosing connection, care, and community?

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Examining true forgiveness and growth

• Being present and understanding the messages and confirmations for us

• Operating out of ego instead of values and care

• Understanding that God orders your steps

• Not being a bystander and being a mediator

• Developing courage for self and others

• Come in with a plan

• Goes by action, not a lot of talking

• Communication is essential

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 7: Episode 2- Reclaiming Purpose in a Disconnected World

October 5, 2025

This series embarks on a journey to understand reclaiming purpose in a disconnected world.

Something has changed. We all feel it, even if we cannot fully name it.

We are living in a time when the traditions that once brought families and communities together, community centers, church services, Sunday dinners, family cookouts, and holidays spent laughing around a full table, are quietly disappearing. Children who once played outside until dusk now live in a digital blur. Family rhythms have become more fragmented. And somewhere along the way, connection became convenience. Value became a hustle. Purpose got traded for productivity.

We have witnessed a transformation in customer service since the pandemic, from warm greetings and shared syrup jars at diners to individual packets, plastic shields, and interactions where eyes no longer meet. In some spaces, it's become "get in, get out," not "how can I serve you?" Teachers, nurses, and even referees sometimes throw their hands up with, "I don't get paid enough for this." And truth be told, they are not wrong; there is inequitable pay distribution, but that cannot be the end of the story.

At youth sports games, we see grown adults yelling, ready to fight over plays meant to teach teamwork and cooperation. Children are being pushed to perform like professionals, rather than play like learners. And often, the systems that oversee these spaces reward the wrong things: name recognition, connections, rather than skill, ability, growth, effort, and accolades.

We have become a culture more shaped by transaction than transformation. More reactive than reflective. More "what's in it for me?" than "how can I show up for you?"

And yet, there are still flickers of who we can be.

A couple of weeks ago, a woman walked her dog in unexpected rain. You know summer rain. That's a song I love. Another woman pulls over, gets out of her car, and offers her an umbrella, not because she knows her, but because that is what the community does. That moment is what this conversation is about: the small acts of humanity that remind us we are still capable of showing up for one another.

This is not about blaming any one particular person, community, or system, but about how we can evolve and learn through our individual and collective existence.

So we ask:

What have we stopped teaching our children, not just in school, but through our actions?

What traditions have we let go of that once shaped our values?

What systems have we accepted that reward separation, selfishness, and shortcuts?

And most importantly, what kind of world are we silently co-signing when we stop choosing connection, care, and community?

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Learning to give it away!

• Self-reflection

• The art of giving and receiving

• The power of introspection

• How we manage emotions

• What was the shift in distance for society?

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 7: Episode 1- Reclaiming Purpose in a Disconnected World

September 28, 2025

This series embarks on a journey to understand reclaiming purpose in a disconnected world.

Something has changed. We all feel it, even if we cannot fully name it.

We are living in a time when the traditions that once brought families and communities together, community centers, church services, Sunday dinners, family cookouts, and holidays spent laughing around a full table, are quietly disappearing. Children who once played outside until dusk now live in a digital blur. Family rhythms have become more fragmented. And somewhere along the way, connection became convenience. Value became a hustle. Purpose got traded for productivity.

We have witnessed a transformation in customer service since the pandemic, from warm greetings and shared syrup jars at diners to individual packets, plastic shields, and interactions where eyes no longer meet. In some spaces, it's become "get in, get out," not "how can I serve you?" Teachers, nurses, and even referees sometimes throw their hands up with, "I don't get paid enough for this." And truth be told, they are not wrong; there is inequitable pay distribution, but that cannot be the end of the story.

At youth sports games, we see grown adults yelling, ready to fight over plays meant to teach teamwork and cooperation. Children are being pushed to perform like professionals, rather than play like learners. And often, the systems that oversee these spaces reward the wrong things: name recognition, connections, rather than skill, ability, growth, effort, and accolades.

We have become a culture more shaped by transaction than transformation. More reactive than reflective. More "what's in it for me?" than "how can I show up for you?"

And yet, there are still flickers of who we can be.

A couple of weeks ago, a woman walked her dog in unexpected rain. You know summer rain. That's a song I love. Another woman pulls over, gets out of her car, and offers her an umbrella, not because she knows her, but because that is what the community does. That moment is what this conversation is about: the small acts of humanity that remind us we are still capable of showing up for one another.

This is not about blaming any one particular person, community, or system, but about how we can evolve and learn through our individual and collective existence.

So we ask:

What have we stopped teaching our children, not just in school, but through our actions?

What traditions have we let go of that once shaped our values?

What systems have we accepted that reward separation, selfishness, and shortcuts?

And most importantly, what kind of world are we silently co-signing when we stop choosing connection, care, and community?

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Where do traditions come from?

• Who do you include in your traditions? How does intentionality look like to you for traditions?

• How to keep the momentum for family and community events without creating burnout?

• Getting people together requires planning and organization.

• We must be cautious of agreeing to something in advance without following through.

• Need communication with those closest to you.

• Connections require levels of time investment.

• Watch one event moments. We must have repetitive moments.

• Using discernment and sharing your story or properly advocating for your circumstances or elements in your life.

• Respect the reflection!

• Have the necessary conversations. I cannot expect people to walk around a situation.

• The theory of the four agreements.

• There are seasons in our lives that are not limited by a particular time or expiration.

• Understand discernment and how to act in this world.

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 6: Episode 4- Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving

September 21, 2025

This series explores the journey of understanding the profound relationship of understanding our realities, identities, and what it means to be human.

In this series, Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving, we will explore some universal truths, such as the fact that life rarely goes exactly according to plan. Even when we map out our intentions, construct systems, craft visions, and work tirelessly towards them, life has a way of surprising us, sometimes with setbacks, sometimes with opportunities we never imagined.

Equally, we are unpacking another universal truth: What do we think we deserve? Many of us carry hidden assumptions that we deserve success, love, or happiness only if we have "earned" it, or conversely, that we deserve hardship because of past mistakes. Also, we believe we deserve something that may not be for you. But where do these beliefs come from, and how do they shape our actions and self-worth?

Today, we invite you to pause, reflect, and reimagine your plans and understanding of "deserving" and equip yourself with tools to respond, adapt, and grow when life unfolds differently than you expected.

We are exploring two ideas we all wrestle with at some point: what happens when life does not go according to plan, and how our sense of what we "deserve" shapes our expectations and our self-worth.

We all love to imagine that if we plan carefully, work hard, and do everything "right," life will reward us the way we believe we deserve. But reality rarely follows the script we write in our heads. Plans get rewritten. New chapters appear that we never intended to write. At the same time, many of us quietly measure our worth by asking: Do I deserve this happiness? Do I deserve this struggle? This "idea of deserving" can either lift us or weigh us down, yet it often goes unchallenged.

Today, let's pull back the curtain on these unconscious or conscious beliefs. Let's be honest about how to hold our plans, navigate the unexpected, and release ourselves from the trap of thinking our worth depends on what we get or lose along the way. Get ready to rethink your unwritten chapters and consider them, perhaps.

We have a guest co-host with us today, Neshard Walker! He is one of my students who has done tremendous exploits in our society.

Listen attentively and take notes as we discuss practical strategies and insights you can apply to your current situation. This episode's power lies in its potential to transform your perspective and actions. Share these learnings with another individual, and together, let's embark on a journey of personal growth and community impact.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• See through multiple perspectives

• Seeing the other side of a situation

• Tapping into your second nature and skillset

• There is another path for me

• Take time to develop yourself

• Loving yourself is key

• Surpassing some experiences our parents have had in life. How to support our children as they walk in their purpose?

• We must be a community and build partnerships with us. Be a resource!

• Embrace the alternative paths

• Love yourself and embrace yourself

• Gratitude will change your mindset

• Everyone has someone to go to for support

• Being curious, not judgmental

• Hold ourselves accountable

• Anticipate the shifts and know plans are guides, not set models to follow

• Gathering practices for our toolbox

• Practice the art of being present

• Embrace different ways of doing and being

• Self-worth is not conditional

• Show some of the messiness and being vulnerable

• Resilience grows in the gaps and pivots

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 6: Episode 3- Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving

September 14, 2025

This series explores the journey of understanding the profound relationship of understanding our realities, identities, and what it means to be human.

In this series, Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving, we will explore some universal truths, such as the fact that life rarely goes exactly according to plan. Even when we map out our intentions, construct systems, craft visions, and work tirelessly towards them, life has a way of surprising us, sometimes with setbacks, sometimes with opportunities we never imagined.

Equally, we are unpacking another universal truth: What do we think we deserve? Many of us carry hidden assumptions that we deserve success, love, or happiness only if we have "earned" it, or conversely, that we deserve hardship because of past mistakes. Also, we believe we deserve something that may not be for you. But where do these beliefs come from, and how do they shape our actions and self-worth?

Today, we invite you to pause, reflect, and reimagine your plans and understanding of "deserving" and equip yourself with tools to respond, adapt, and grow when life unfolds differently than you expected.

We are exploring two ideas we all wrestle with at some point: what happens when life does not go according to plan, and how our sense of what we "deserve" shapes our expectations and our self-worth.

We all love to imagine that if we plan carefully, work hard, and do everything "right," life will reward us the way we believe we deserve. But reality rarely follows the script we write in our heads. Plans get rewritten. New chapters appear that we never intended to write. At the same time, many of us quietly measure our worth by asking: Do I deserve this happiness? Do I deserve this struggle? This "idea of deserving" can either lift us or weigh us down, yet it often goes unchallenged.

Today, let's pull back the curtain on these unconscious or conscious beliefs. Let's be honest about how to hold our plans, navigate the unexpected, and release ourselves from the trap of thinking our worth depends on what we get or lose along the way. Get ready to rethink your unwritten chapters and consider them, perhaps.

We have a guest co-host with us today, Neshard Walker! He is one of my students who has done tremendous exploits in our society.

Listen attentively and take notes as we discuss practical strategies and insights you can apply to your current situation. This episode's power lies in its potential to transform your perspective and actions. Share these learnings with another individual, and together, let's embark on a journey of personal growth and community impact.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Culture and Family Beliefs: Confidence is essential to your growth and development

• Provide tasks and gems for children and adults

• "Not what you say, but how you say it" was a theme in this episode

• Deeper than what it is … must have daily communication

• Being an example or a living epistle of life and engagement

• Understand individual and collective context

• Use your gifts and dreams and put them into action

• Testimonial time about Ryan Academy

• The concept of deserving and how this affects our progress

• Appreciate the quick wins and be present

• Invest in your body in sports and life

• Do we mix up deserve with entitlement?

• Certain things cannot go with you to the next level. Access levels must change.

• How does manipulation affect deservingness and entitlement?

• Invest in yourself

• What type of mentality do you use to execute things?

• How hard is it to find your niche and gifting?

• Information is key

• Be authentic!

• Deserves work vs. character connection

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 6: Episode 2- Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving

September 7, 2025

This series explores the journey of understanding the profound relationship of understanding our realities, identities, and what it means to be human.

In this series, Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving, we will explore some universal truths, such as the fact that life rarely goes exactly according to plan. Even when we map out our intentions, construct systems, craft visions, and work tirelessly towards them, life has a way of surprising us, sometimes with setbacks, sometimes with opportunities we never imagined.

Equally, we are unpacking another universal truth: What do we think we deserve? Many of us carry hidden assumptions that we deserve success, love, or happiness only if we have "earned" it, or conversely, that we deserve hardship because of past mistakes. Also, we believe we deserve something that may not be for you. But where do these beliefs come from, and how do they shape our actions and self-worth?

Today, we invite you to pause, reflect, and reimagine your plans and understanding of "deserving" and equip yourself with tools to respond, adapt, and grow when life unfolds differently than you expected.

We are exploring two ideas we all wrestle with at some point: what happens when life does not go according to plan, and how our sense of what we "deserve" shapes our expectations and our self-worth.

We all love to imagine that if we plan carefully, work hard, and do everything "right," life will reward us the way we believe we deserve. But reality rarely follows the script we write in our heads. Plans get rewritten. New chapters appear that we never intended to write. At the same time, many of us quietly measure our worth by asking: Do I deserve this happiness? Do I deserve this struggle? This "idea of deserving" can either lift us or weigh us down, yet it often goes unchallenged.

Today, let's pull back the curtain on these unconscious or conscious beliefs. Let's be honest about how to hold our plans, navigate the unexpected, and release ourselves from the trap of thinking our worth depends on what we get or lose along the way. Get ready to rethink your unwritten chapters and consider them, perhaps.

We have a guest co-host with us today, Neshard Walker! He is one of my students who has done tremendous exploits in our society.

Listen attentively and take notes as we discuss practical strategies and insights you can apply to your current situation. This episode's power lies in its potential to transform your perspective and actions. Share these learnings with another individual, and together, let's embark on a journey of personal growth and community impact.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Gender norms and emotions

• Acknowledge your emotions, but do not be driven by our emotions

• Practice gratitude

• Being patient, disciplined, and understanding.

• Being able to pause

• Building our character so that we can maintain beyond the receiving of the opportunity

• Cannot rush the process

• Believing in yourself

• Being present in the moment

• Nothing is lost

• Build who you are in life

• True partnership with families

• Confidence building

• Discussing suicide- please seek medical professionals

• Confusion and anxiety

• Give tasks to individuals (include them)

• Traditional parenting and confidence building

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 6: Episode 1- Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving

August 31, 2025

This series explores the journey of understanding the profound relationship of understanding our realities, identities, and what it means to be human.

In this series, Unwritten Chapters: Reframing Plans and the Idea of Deserving, we will explore some universal truths, such as the fact that life rarely goes exactly according to plan. Even when we map out our intentions, construct systems, craft visions, and work tirelessly towards them, life has a way of surprising us, sometimes with setbacks, sometimes with opportunities we never imagined.

Equally, we are unpacking another universal truth: What do we think we deserve? Many of us carry hidden assumptions that we deserve success, love, or happiness only if we have "earned" it, or conversely, that we deserve hardship because of past mistakes. Also, we believe we deserve something that may not be for you. But where do these beliefs come from, and how do they shape our actions and self-worth?

Today, we invite you to pause, reflect, and reimagine your plans and understanding of "deserving" and equip yourself with tools to respond, adapt, and grow when life unfolds differently than you expected.

We are exploring two ideas we all wrestle with at some point: what happens when life does not go according to plan, and how our sense of what we "deserve" shapes our expectations and our self-worth.

We all love to imagine that if we plan carefully, work hard, and do everything "right," life will reward us the way we believe we deserve. But reality rarely follows the script we write in our heads. Plans get rewritten. New chapters appear that we never intended to write. At the same time, many of us quietly measure our worth by asking: Do I deserve this happiness? Do I deserve this struggle? This "idea of deserving" can either lift us or weigh us down, yet it often goes unchallenged.

Today, let's pull back the curtain on these unconscious or conscious beliefs. Let's be honest about how to hold our plans, navigate the unexpected, and release ourselves from the trap of thinking our worth depends on what we get or lose along the way. Get ready to rethink your unwritten chapters and consider them, perhaps.

We have a guest co-host with us today, Neshard Walker! He is one of my students who has done tremendous exploits in our society.

Listen attentively and take notes as we discuss practical strategies and insights you can apply to your current situation. This episode's power lies in its potential to transform your perspective and actions. Share these learnings with another individual, and together, let's embark on a journey of personal growth and community impact.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Stay focused and understand, do not let your highs get too high and your lows get too low.

• The journey of planning and understanding situational and spiritual awareness.

• Not attached to a particular outcome, but trusting God.

• Understanding the power of process and outcome.

• Does not have to manifest as you wrote it?

• Watch perfection and how it makes you feel and act.

• Life transitions will humble us.

• What milestones do you have for your life?

• Understanding and applying aspects of emotional intelligence.

• Discussing the cultivation of gifts, talents, and abilities. And understanding and discerning time.

• Cultivating the mindset of being a vessel.

• Healthy integration of supporting others and taking care of yourself.

• Deliberate practice

• Speaking the truth and having ultimate trust in you.

• Everyone's chapters and plans are different, and still complement each other.

• How we respond matters.

• Emotional regulation is imperative, but not perfect.

• I can do all things no matter the circumstances. When the enemy comes in like a flood, the Lord will lift a standard against.

• Stay ready so you do not have to get ready!

• Stay accountable and do not seek external validation.

• Information is power.

• I know I belong. I will take a slow yes over a no any day.

• Enjoy being alive.

• Confidence in YOU!

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]

Season 2: Series 5: Episode 6- Choosing You: How to Break Free from People-Pleasing and Love Yourself First

August 24, 2025

This series explores the journey of understanding the profound relationship amongst choosing yourself, breaking free from people-pleasing, and learning to love yourself first. In today's fast-paced world, the pressures of social expectations, societal norms, and the overwhelming need for external validation have become increasingly challenging, particularly for women. Social media, constant comparison, and the "do-it-all" culture can leave women feeling stretched thin, as they sacrifice their own needs to meet the demands of others. This series explores the importance of prioritizing yourself first, an essential practice that involves setting boundaries, focusing on your well-being, and cultivating self-love. It highlights the anxiety, stress, and burnout caused by people-pleasing tendencies and the emotional toll of overextending for others.

The significance of this discussion is especially pertinent now, as many women are reassessing their roles in a world that demands constant performance and perfection. In light of global stressors like the post-pandemic era, economic uncertainties, and a rise in mental health challenges, it has never been more vital to reclaim self-care as a form of self-respect. By reflecting on how socialization shapes behaviors and how we can change those patterns, this podcast series empowers women to reframe their relationship with themselves and choose self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion over external approval. It is a call to action to prioritize your well-being, be your own best friend, and embrace the practice of saying "no" to others so you can say "yes" to yourself first.

Listen attentively and take notes as we discuss practical strategies and insights you can apply to your current situation. This episode's power lies in its potential to transform your perspective and actions. Share these learnings with another individual, and together, let's embark on a journey of personal growth and community impact.

Some of the themes covered in this episode are:

• Finding your role and prioritizing yourself first.

• Challenging norms and advocating for needs and desires

• Roles and responsibilities in a household

• What are your communication styles and skills with individuals?

• What works best for you and your team?

• Choosing self will have individuals stick to or remove themselves from you.

• Authenticity allows us to be liberated because there is clarity, because of the focus and action.

• Intentional reflection and providing space for reflection.

• Making the adjustments to putting yourself first.

• Loving yourself and then receiving love.

• No outsourcing of the love you desire.

• Focus on self for growth.

• Limiting the number of individuals who have full access to you.

• Resources for being a better friend to oneself.

Co-Host Biographies:

Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.

Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.

Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.

Connect with us:

Facebook Page: Existence Podcast

Instagram: @Weare_existencepodcast

Email: [email protected]