Exmormonology

Let's talk about sex, baby! On this bonus edition of Exmormonology, The Irreverent Sessions, we talk about sex and the mormon church's influences on how we have been conditioned, accepted or not accepted, within the roles presented to us. We laugh, (I) get teary, and of course all things irreverent. Everything from how to make a Michelada (a Mexican beer), hope chests, being a virgin, purity culture, hypocrisy, Mitch Shira and apostle's impersonations, @talkpuritytome and so much more!

This week is a quickie Exmormonology. This week I share a few tender feelings that RBG's death brought up for me. I am curious if since you have left the church, do you have moments of feeling ignorant on topics you paid no attention to when you were BUSY being mormon? Yeah? Me too. Let's take a moment and honor Ruth Bader Ginsberg and talk about her legacy and how we can use her life as fuel to light a fire under us to learn all we can about women who have paved the way for you and me.

Do you love coffee as much as me? Did you start to drink coffee in the closet, so to speak, when you felt too guilty to drink it openly around your mormon family? Yeah? ME TOO! Guilt and shame often run the show when you are in deconstruction mode out of the church. Let's talk about the psychology and mind control the church had over you, all under the guise of obedience. This week, I am coming at you from a coffee shop in Texas. Can't wait to dive in with y'all!

Music is life! So many songs have helped me get through some dark days of my faith crisis. In this week's episode of Exmormonology, I want to share several of the songs I love. I have many many more, but here is a great sampling of some songs that mean a lot to me. I hope you love them too! I would love to hear what songs have helped you through the tougher days of your paradigm shift.

What do you do when your mormon parenting handbook is tossed out the window? If you are a parent, and you have experienced a faith crisis, at some point you will have thoughts about how to parent your kids. Doesn't matter if they are little bitty or full grown with children of their own, you will have questions.

First, it is totally understandable if you are having a hard time with this. You have been living in a black and white type of thinking world. It can feel very overwhelming to have that structure removed. There was not a lot of wiggle room before. Now what?

Let's dive in to your mormon parenting brain and your post mormon parenting brain in this weeks episode of Exmormonology.

This week in Exmormonology we are going to walk towards our painful feelings. We have to be able to FEEL our feelings. Doing this lets the pressure, stress, and discomfort lessen. Once we are able to feel them properly, we can see that that emotion is just a physical vibration in the body and nothing to be scared of. Most of us spend so much time trying to avoid our negative feelings, at all costs, that we miss out on the growth that comes from processing our emotions. So, let's show ourselves compassion and love and healing, by going there.

Opps, we did it again! Another Irreverent Bonus Ep. of Exmormonology. Whiskey is involved and there is a lot of loud laughter. In this session James and I talk about..

• The Regular Testimony Bearers
• Las Vegas
• Church Approved Music
• Black and White Thinking
• Jesus, The Bible and The Book of Mormon
• Things Lost In Translation
• Tithing Dollars
• White Lines and Stake Dances
• Thought Bubbles
• Happiness is Family Home Evening
• Champaign at a Family Dinner
• and more!

Grab a drink, or not, and join us.

Growing up in the Mormon church, we have been so conditioned to black and white type of thinking. Black and white thinking effects our decision making. You may think you are "just bad at making decisions" but it is tied to your religious conditioning. You can do something about that. If you are a person who worries a lot about "doing it wrong" or "not good enough" or "afraid to mess up," this episode is for you. I have good news for you, there are no bad decisions, just decisions. Let's talk about it.

Exmormonology Ep. 32 is all about Modesty. Growing up, in and through mormonism, you have been influenced by all the lessens, scriptures, conference talks, parent messages and mormon culture, that comes with all the conditioning we experienced, even when we do not even see it as conditioning, while we are in it. We see it as normal.

This is true for the conditioning we have experienced around modesty. We were taught that we, girls and women, are responsible for the thoughts boys/men may have about our bodies and how we dress.

Mix religious conditioning and society messages and we have the perfect cocktail for messed up body image, shame and mental torture we put on ourselves, to hide ourselves.

We spend so much time trying to make sure we are covered up, that we end up covering up our authentic self.

Have you ever done something that scares the living day lights out of you? I know the answer is yes because I know you have experienced a faith crisis. Experiencing a faith crisis means you had to face fear and damnation and hell, face to face. Leaving the only belief you have ever know, is terrifying. Get yourself a new pair of gloves, hold on to the cables with all your might. You will come out the other side stronger than you ever thought possible. Listen to a tale of me facing my second, biggest fear, second only to my faith crisis. Half Dome and a tale about one of the 3 nephites, garments and porn shoulders.