Experible with Krati Mehra

In this episode, I interviews Dr. Michael Karson about how powerful role of projective identification impacts romantic relationships. We discuss why we project undesired parts of ourselves onto partners, how this shapes our interactions, and the importance of communication in breaking these patterns. We further explore, the influence of societal expectations on our personal connections, why we often fall in love with potential, the traps of idealizing partners, and practical steps to communicate more authentically. This conversation illuminates the complexities of love and the transformative power of open dialogue in creating fulfilling relationships.

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - Episode and Show Introduction

00:01:00 - What is projective Identification?

00:02:55 - Recognising projection in relationships

00:06:55 - How projection impacts the identity of people involved

00:08:50 - How we choose our sexual & romantic partners

00:11:00 - Falling in love with potential

00:15:28 - Factors that lead to false expectations & projection

00:18:06 - Setting & communicating realistic expectations & boundaries

00:25:55 - Keeping relationships vibrant and engaging over time

00:31:28 - Being vulnerable & discussing sexual needs

00:37:38 - Impact of shifting Gender dynamics on relationships

00:43:50 - Recovering from dirty fights

00:45:50 - How therapy can help

00:48:30 - Individual clarity for the health of relationships

00:54:15 - Exercise to ensure the growth of your relationship

01:00:10 - When to walk away

CONNECT WITH Dr. MICHAEL KARSON -

Website - https://michaelkarson.com/

Dr. Karson's Blog on Psychplogy Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/contributors/michael-karson-phd-jd

MORE RESOURCES -

EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

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In this episode, I interview Dr. Lisa Mueller, Associate Professor of Political Science, about the psychology and impact of activism.

Together, we explore what drives individuals to protest, how to assess and choose the right causes, and how personal values intersect with public action. Lisa reveals the science behind effective activism, from forming cohesive movements to balancing emotional engagement with rational strategy. For anyone looking to make a difference, this episode provides a roadmap for ethically and impactfully contributing to social change.

SHOWNOTES - 

00:00:00 - Guest and episode introduction

00:01:27 - Key drivers for activism

00:04:28 - Choosing the right cause

00:09:35 - Balancing emotional investment with strategic impact

00:12:35 - Social repercussions of activism

00:17:00 - Ethical considerations in protest

00:26:05 - Embracing intellectual humility in activism

00:29:30 - What causes polarisation + discourages healthy discussions

00:34:31 - Creating a Successful Social Movement

00:41:42 - Performative activism and digital movements

00:48:00 - Activism for introverts

00:53:40 - Lisa’s personal journey in activism

TRANSCRIPT - https://www.kratimehra.com/science-of-effective-activism-how-to-drive-real-change-lisa-mueller/

CONNECT WITH LISA MUELLER - 

Website - https://muellerlisa.com/

The New Science of Social Change by Lisa Mueller - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/757626/the-new-science-of-social-change-by-lisa-mueller/

Lisa's Research - https://muellerlisa.com/?page_id=14

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Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

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This episode's guest expert, Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist, relationship coach, author, host of the “Let’s Get Vulnerable” podcast and creator of the Empowered.Secure.Loved relationship program.

We discuss how our attachment styles influence our relationships. We'll delve into the origins of attachment theory, uncover the characteristics of different attachment styles, and discuss practical strategies for fostering secure and enriching connections. Whether you're struggling with dating, yearning for deeper relationships, or simply curious about the psychological underpinnings of human connection, this episode offers valuable insights that can help you navigate your social world with greater ease and confidence. 

So, let’s take the next hour to decode the complexities of attachment and learn how to apply these insights to enhance every relationship in our life.

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - Episode and Guest Introduction

00:02:30 - Understanding your attachment style

00:06:45 - Using attachment theory to guide your choices

00:08:50 - Mindset going into a new relationship

00:11:07 - Strategies to let go of past heartbreaks | Repetition Compulsion 101

00:16:55 - Time between a breakup & a new relationship

00:20:25 - Insecure attachments & ignoring red flags

00:25:18 - Understanding 'Ghosting' & responding to it healthily

00:29:00 - A message for people who ghost others

00:31:00 - Relationship Pacing and Reality Testing

00:36:25 - Independence vs Interdependence for a healthier connection

00:45:14 - Values and Compatibility

00:49:00 - Communicating boundaries gently & effectively

00:51:16 - Advice for people tired/scared of dating

TRANSCRIPT - https://www.kratimehra.com/dr-morgan-anderson-attachment-styles-heal-better-love-life/

CONNECT WITH DR. MORGAN ANDERSON-

Instagram: @drmorgancoaching

Attachment Style Quiz: Attachment Style Quiz

YouTube:  Dr. Morgan TV on YouTube

Podcast:  Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast

Apply to work with Dr. Morgan:  https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough

Love Magnet Book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Magnet-Rollercoaster-Attract-Deserve/dp/1544536607/

MORE RESOURCES -

EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

For more, visit - https://www.kratimehra.com/experible/

As the year draws to a close, it's natural to reflect on the goals we’ve set, the progress we’ve made, and the dreams we’ve yet to achieve. This reflection can bring about feelings of fear and uncertainty, especially if things didn’t go as planned. This episode helps you navigate these emotions by reframing fear as a tool for growth and change. You’ll learn practical strategies to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and set yourself up for a confident, courageous new year. Whether you’re feeling stuck or anxious about the future, this episode offers the insights and motivation to help you step into 2025 with clarity and self-belief.

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - Episode and Show Introduction

00:01:10 - Why Fear & Uncertainty Surface at Year-End

00:03:50 - Reframing Fear as a Tool for Growth

00:09:52 - Acknowledge the Fear

00:11:24 - Focus on Small, Actionable Steps

00:13:20 - Build Resilience Through Reflection

00:15:45 - Visualisation Techniques

00:19:00 - Subconscious fear and their impact

00:22:10 - Gaining Confidence for the New Year

00:23:45 - Setting Intentions vs. Goals

00:25:40 - Support System

00:31:20 - Conscious Courage

LINKS AND RESOURCES -

Conscious Courage - https://www.kratimehra.com/conscious-courage/

Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

Take the EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

For more, visit - https://www.kratimehra.com/experible/

In this episode, guest expert, Grace Marshall helps us appreciate the often overlooked beauty of struggle, revealing how our challenges serve not merely as obstacles but as crucial sign posts, showing us not only where we are going wrong, but where we are poised to make the greatest leaps forward in personal and professional development. We discuss the true meaning of productivity beyond just efficiency, defining success on your own terms, and how best to support yourself and others through emotionally taxing periods of life without giving into the overwhelm. If you're facing professional challenges or personal setbacks, this conversation can give you tools to turn those struggles into strengths, challenge the conventional narratives of productivity and provides a fresh perspective on achieving genuine success in all areas of life. 

Grace Marshall is an award-winning author, speaker and productivity expert who specialises in transforming how organisations approach work, change, and challenge. With over a decade of experience training more than 10,000 professionals across industries, Grace has become a trusted advisor for leaders seeking to build resilient, future-ready teams, with clients like Boots, BT, Sky Media, and others. She has been featured in several publications and her refreshingly human, relatable approach has earned her multiple accolades.

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - Episode and Guest Introduction

00:02:13 - The beauty of Struggle and the potential it creates

00:05:05 - Strategies for dealing with repeated failures

00:07:20 - How our beliefs impact our lives

00:12:20 - Uncovering beliefs that keep you stuck

00:18:00 - Growth through learning and accountability?

00:23:25 - Sitting in the discomfort of uncertainty

00:27:28 - Generational differences, resilience, and overwhelming choices

00:36:10 - Value of life experiences

00:39:50 - Supporting others when they’re struggling

00:43:40 - Emotional regulation during periods of crisis

00:47:00 - Importance of our ‘Why’

00:49:30 - Importance of reflection and momentum

00:52:30 - Protecting self-image when facing failure

00:58:00 - Creating Success while taking care of yourself

01:06:35 - Grace’s preferred method to be healthily productive

01:11:11 - Grace’s resources on offer

CONNECT WITH GRACE MARSHALL - 

Website - https://gracemarshall.com/

A free chapter of Grace's book, Struggle - https://gracemarshall.com/struggle/

Twitter: https://x.com/GraceMarshall

IG: https://instagram.com/gracemarshallninja

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gracemarshallcoaching

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gracemarshall/

CONNECT WITH ME -

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Subscribe to the Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

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In this episode of Experible, we delve into the icy waters of emotional numbness—an unseen yet pervasive struggle many face in the modern world. Drawing from personal experiences and psychological insights, we explore why we sometimes feel detached, disinterested, or emotionally unresponsive, revealing how these feelings serve as signposts toward deeper truths about our lives. From the triggers and consequences of emotional numbness to actionable strategies for reconnection, this episode is a lifeline for anyone feeling stuck in an emotional winter. Whether you're battling apathy, seeking renewal, or simply curious about emotional health, join us as we break through the ice and reclaim the warmth of genuine emotion.

SHOWNOTES - 

00:00:00 - Our Inner Frozen Lake 

00:03:40 - Why Leads to Emotional Numbness

00:06:30 - What is Emotional Numbness + Signs of Emotional Numbness

00:08:35 - The Dangers of Prolonged Emotional Numbness

00:09:55 - My Experience with Emotional Numbness

00:11:45 - Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Numbness

00:17:18 - Amplified Anxiety Leading To Emotional Numbness

00:22:00 - Behavioural & Perspective Shifts to Prevent Emotional Numbness

00:25:43 - Give Yourself Permission to Heal

CONNECT WITH ME -

Book a 1-1 Call - https://kratimehra.com/coaching

Take the EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

Subscribe to the Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/

For more, visit - https://www.kratimehra.com/experible/

In this episode, Anne Lester, a retirement expert, author, media commentator, top-rated speaker and former Head of Retirement Solutions for JPMorgan Asset Management, dissects the current economic turmoil and helps us understand what it means for personal financial security in today's unpredictable world.

Dive deep into the practicalities of achieving financial stability, managing investments, the realities of retirement planning, and navigating high-stress financial decisions. Whether you're a seasoned investor, a young professional starting out, or someone looking to refine your financial strategies amidst global instability, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you safeguard your financial future and make informed decisions.

SHOWNOTES - 

00:00:00 - Episode & Guest Introduction

00:01:35 - Responding to economic instability

00:07:50 - Practical strategies for creating financial security in uncertain times

00:13:55 - Buying vs renting a house

00:19:50 - TWO Must dos with money

00:21:00 - Saving for gig workers and freelancers

00:26:40 - How personal choices affect financial outcomes

00:30:30 - Curiosity & definition of failure as the KEY to better choices

00:37:40 - Advice for reckless spenders

00:48:20 - Managing debt, optimizing savings, & planning for future needs

00:53:10 - Where to invest, diversification, & market dynamics

00:59:45 - Directing your focus on wealth cultivation and learning more

01:09:52 - Retirement planning & the FIRE movement

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES - 

Your Best Financial Life by Anne Lester - https://www.amazon.com/Your-Best-Financial-Life-Future/dp/006332086X

The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel - https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Money-Timeless-lessons-happiness/dp/0857197681

Nudge by Richard H Thaler and R Sunstein - https://www.amazon.com/Nudge-Improving-Decisions-Health-Happiness-ebook/dp/B009KERBQI/

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman - https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman-ebook/dp/B005MJFA2W/

The Intelligent Investor by Benjamin Graham and Jason Zweig - https://www.amazon.com/Intelligent-Investor-Definitive-Investing-Essentials/dp/0060555661

CONNECT WITH ANNE LESTER - 

Website - https://www.annelester.com

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/savesmartwanne

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE7snA-XZ4vdlUAXFU8MHEg  

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/savesmartwanne

CONNECT WITH ME -

Take the EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

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In a world full of noise, influence, and pressure, how can we stay true to ourselves? In this episode of Experible, we explore two essential qualities—independent thinking and strong-mindedness—and discuss how they work together to help us live authentically.

From social media algorithms that trap us in echo chambers to the rise of cancel culture, we explore how society pressures us to conform and what we can do to resist. This episode is packed with actionable strategies for questioning beliefs, resisting peer pressure, and cultivating emotional resilience so that you can stand by your values. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed by societal expectations or wondering how to stay grounded in a world of influencers, this episode will give you the tools to navigate life with clarity and purpose.

Tune in as we uncover how independent thinking and strong-mindedness can empower you to make decisions based on your own values and not just follow the crowd.

SHOWNOTES - 

00:00:00 - Episode Introduction

00:02:35 - Dangers of herd thinking and what drives it 

00:05:00 - The spread of political movements & how communities trap you

00:06:20 - What is independent thinking?

00:10:12 - Avoiding echo chambers

00:13:55 - Curiosity as the force of good

00:15:00 - Why it's important to be strong minded

00:16:24 - Developing self-confidence through integrity

00:18:00 -  The magic of standing up for yourself

00:19:15 - Handling social pressure 

00:21:47 - Cultivating emotional resilience

00:23:30 - Strategies to bounce back + defend your boundaries

00:26:20 - Key takeaways

CONNECT WITH ME -

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In this conversation, productivity expert Maura Thomas explores the crucial skills of attention management and deep focus in our distraction-filled world. Maura helps us understand why "time management" is an outdated concept and how properly managing our attention can transform our productivity. She shares practical strategies for overcoming distractions, achieving flow, and harnessing our cognitive resources to achieve significant results. Whether you're navigating the challenges of remote work or striving for a balanced, productive life, this episode offers transformative insights and actionable advice to help you thrive in the 21st century.

SHOWNOTES - 

00:00:00 - Episode and Guest Introduction

00:02:13 - Why managing attention is more critical than managing time

00:12:20 - Understanding deep focus & how to achieve a state of flow 

00:15:22 - Strategies for scheduling deep work sessions

00:20:33 - Training your brain to slip into deep focus

00:23:38 - Components of the Empowered Productivity System (It’s transformational!)

00:28:45 - What it actually means to be productive

00:33:35 - Goal Setting for better focus + overcoming self-sabotage

00:39:20 - A truly productive human

00:42:38 - 8 ways to overcome procrastination

00:48:50 - Replenishing internal resources

00:52:40 - Remote work productivity that doesn’t need discipline

00:59:35 - Work-life balance

01:08:40 - How parents can protect their child’s ability to focus

CONNECT WITH MAURA THOMAS -

Website - https://maurathomas.com/

CONNECT WITH ME -

Take the EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/

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In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges of staying positive when the world feels like it's falling apart. Whether it's the constant stream of negative news, personal struggles, or global tragedies, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. 

Join me as I share practical steps to protect your mental space, cultivate a positive mindset, and thrive even in the toughest times. We discuss the impact of constant exposure to negativity, stress, and dark content on our mental health and why it’s so hard to break free from that cycle. From understanding the fascination with dark content to actionable strategies like cognitive restructuring, this episode is packed with insights to help you stay strong and hopeful. Plus, hear the inspiring story of Dadarao Bilhore, who turned personal tragedy into positive action. Tune in and discover how you can create a mental environment that helps you flourish, no matter what life throws your way.

If you found this episode helpful, please consider leaving a review on your favourite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue creating content that supports your mental well-being.

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - The current crisis

00:02:50 - How dark content and negative emotions can be addictive

00:05:53 - The deep and lasting impact of negativity and stress

00:07:45 - The first crucial step

00:09:55 - Healthily responding to hopelessness + Dadarao Bhilore’s story

00:13:03 - Dealing with personal struggles

00:14:50 - it’s not nice to complain

00:16:30 - The magic of gratitude & how to do it right!

00:20:21 - Ceasing your power through perspective

00:24:35 - Cognitive restructuring

00:26:50 - Let the possibilities in!

CONNECT WITH ME -

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