Fatha Torch: Be the Dad You Wish You Had

Ep. 28 Unravel the mysterious phrase "Never Let Your Left Hand Know What Your Right Hand Is Doing." From parenting to interpersonal dynamics, we'll discuss how it encourages trust, open communication, and a balance between individual autonomy and shared responsibilities.

Discover the origins of this phrase, rooted in the biblical teachings of the Gospel of Matthew (6:3), where Jesus advises doing acts of charity in secret. We'll delve into its cultural interpretations, examining its relevance in various contexts and its broader meaning over time.

In the realm of fatherhood and relationships, we'll explore how this principle emphasizes humility, selflessness, and the significance of acting with sincerity.

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Ep 9 Fear-based assumptions can lead to a parent-child relationship of pain, drama and heartache for all involved. As fathers we often lash out at our kids in order to protect them from the unknown, or to prevent them from getting involved with something that we don't understand but are afraid to admit it.

In this episode let's explore another way to approach fatherhood in the New Year

1. What does it mean for a father to actively listen to his children and not assume he knows everything?

2. How can fathers instill fear of God and not fear of the world in their daughters?

3. What is the importance of self-control, communication, and emotional connection in fatherhood?

As a father of nine, I have come to understand that assumptions about my children, myself, my family, and even my manhood can lead to pain, drama and headaches.

I know that I cannot assume that one conversation is enough to teach my children, and I must actively listen and show them love and support. I must also be mindful that although I have experience, it does not make me an expert on my children's lives.

I must be adaptable and have self-control, knowing that what I say will affect my children. I strive to speak life, prosperity, liberty, and innate spirit, teaching my children to be secure in themselves, and to be prepared and have the tools needed to protect themselves. 

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Ep. 17 This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance on discipline and communication with their children.

In today's society, many parents walk around on eggshells, and it seems like fathers have no authority when it comes to raising the kids. As an advocate for traditional fatherhood, I have dedicated myself to helping other parents like you reclaim your power and raise kids who respect and obey you. 

It's important to establish boundaries and respect, rather than trying to be your child's friend. Issues of teen mental health issues, addiction, and other taboo subjects must be address properly. By advocating for open communication and a supportive community, I believe we can help our children become confident, successful adults. 

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The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:00 - Being a Father vs Being a Friend

00:01:14 - Parenting in Today's Society

00:05:40 - The Importance of Respect

00:09:36 - The Reality of Parenting

00:13:36 - The Challenges of Parenting for Black Fathers

00:15:16 - Advocating for the Children

00:17:38 - Bring Back the Village

00:21:06 - Be the Part

00:23:07 - Breaking Taboos

00:24:50 - You Are Not Alone

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Ep 6 Does toxic masculinity impact on a man's mental health? Carl Binger and Joel Lesses have some theories.

In this episode you'll learn

1. How men and women experience and cope with depression differently

2. The influence of rap music on mental health and depression

3. The importance of nature and wilderness in mental health and depression

4. Who has the best chicken wings, Buffalo or Rochester, NY

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Book: Spiritual Depression by Martyn Lloyd Jones 

Living the Front Seat Life Podcast hosted by Coach Kelly Marie

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Carl Binger Counselor - LMHC, Podcast Host

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Having served as a Counseling Pastor at his home church from 2016-2018, Carl began his own private practice on February 14th of this year, specializing in helping individuals who struggle with depression. Carl was under the influence of depression for two years prior to getting the help he needed in the form of medication in 2006. 

Joel David Lesses: Director, Counselor at Education Training Center; Writer and Poet; Podcast Producer, Unraveling Religion.

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Joel Lesses professional background is in educational psychology and counseling for people marginalized by trauma, addiction, and psychological distress, as well as its effects on them, such as homelessness, incarceration, and institutionalization. 

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Ep. 18 This episode is a tribute to my grandparents who have shaped my life as Fatha Torch, a beacon of light for the next generation. As a father, I believe it is important to honor our elders and learn from their wisdom, especially in these challenging times. In this episode, you will learn:

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Ep. 27 We must recognize that many of us lack self-awareness and struggle to comprehend the repercussions of losing control, and the importance of practicing self-discipline. To establish a healthy relationship with oneself and others, one must exert self-control and manage one's thoughts, which various emotional and developmental factors can influence. This is especially important to consider as a man and a father in today's world.

 THE TRUTH AND FAULTS OF DISCIPLINE  

It's essential to discipline your children early on, as you may regret it later if you don't. Additionally, if you find yourself bailing out hot-tempered individuals once, be prepared to do it again. This advice can be found in Proverbs 19:18-19 of the New Living Translation( NLT).

ANSWER THE FOLLOWING IN THE COMMENTS 

Are you in control of your thoughts, or are they in control of you?

Do you struggle to comprehend yourself and your awareness?

Is there a support system in your life that you can turn to when you are experiencing difficulties with your emotions and thoughts?

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Ep. 26 Relationship 101 provides us with the hope that our values and worth will be acknowledged by someone. It is equally crucial to deeply understand ourselves and the aspects we hold in high regard. It is important to make sure that these values are respected by our partners. Otherwise, we risk compromising our own sense of self-worth and integrity. It is also essential to be open to learning from our partner and growing together in the relationship.

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Ep. 25 The concept of fatherhood is a joke to many people and systems that govern our society. We have the right to procreate, but our rights to nurture, discipline and guide our children is slipping away every day.

In this episode Fatha Torch will help you reclaim your power and authority as a man and be the dad you wish you had. 

1: Fathers' Rights and Duties:

- Discuss fathers' legal and societal rights regarding parenting, custody, and decision-making.

2: Breaking Stereotypes: Embracing Emotional Support:

- Discuss the importance of emotional bonding and its positive impact on children's development.

3: Respectful Co-Parenting and Collaboration:

- Highlight the significance of respectful communication and collaboration between parents, whether together or separated.

4: Navigating Work-Life Balance:

- Explore the delicate balance fathers often face between work commitments and family responsibilities.

5: Shaping Future Generations: Role Modeling and Legacy.

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Ep. 24 The idea of taking responsibility and being accountable can be intimidating for men who struggle with abandonment issues and commitment-related traumas. Some simply don't care about life or its lessons and behave poorly as a result. It is necessary to break these negative patterns and move on with life, taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from mistakes. This is ultimately the only way to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life for you and your children. 

        Why Do I have to Grow-up Once I Have Kids?

1. Fathers who are mature and responsible can provide a positive role model for their children. Children learn a lot from observing and imitating their parents, especially their fathers. They can develop social skills, academic abilities, emotional regulation, and self-esteem by following their father’s example.

2. Having a child can be a rewarding and fulfilling experience for men, as they can bond with their child and share their love and wisdom. However, having a child also requires men to balance their work and family life, and to cope with the demands and challenges of parenthood. Men who act their age and manage their time and resources wisely can enjoy both aspects of their life without compromising one or the other.

3. Being a "grown-up" does not mean that men have to give up their hobbies, interests, or fun activities that they enjoy. It just means that they have to be more mindful of how their actions affect themselves, their partner, and their child. Being a father is not easy, but it can also be one of the most rewarding roles in life. 😊

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Ep. 23 Being a father requires possessing proper guidance, self-control, and discipline. Discipline should be viewed as a tool to impart knowledge to children about making better decisions in the future rather than punishment. Communicating expectations and consequences calmly, firmly, and consistently is essential to ensure the child comprehends. It's crucial for both parents to work together to ensure the best possible outcome for their child.

Proverbs 19:18 NLT

"Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise, you will ruin their lives."

Consistent and fair consequences are important for a child to understand the set boundaries and learn from mistakes. Praise and positive reinforcement should also be used to reward good behavior and to encourage a child's development. It is important to remember to remain consistent in the way consequences are enforced. Avoiding punishments or rewards that are overly harsh or lenient will help to ensure that the child understands the logic behind the consequences. This will enable them to learn to make better choices in the future.

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