F*ck N*ce

Featuring special guest Amy the Magnanimous. In the first episode focusing on nice v. kind we go a bit deeper into the “why” begins the podcast’s name and how nice and kind are different and ways they show up in life, including in our friendship. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman


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Heather and Chelsea continue to talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast. This episode continues an overview, looking at triads, subtypes and countertypes. Then the focus shifts to how the enneagram is used and comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/


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Another foundation episode. Heather and Chelsea talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast due to the frequency of which it will likely come up in the future. Buckle in for this "brief" overview. Heather and Chelsea spend this episode reflecting on how their weeks have been and beginning by introducing the enneagram for anyone who may be new (or not!) to the concept. Tune in next time for more specifics about the Enneagram and how it comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/

More resources and sources to come...


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In our first minisode we cover common barriers to setting boundaries- basically what gets in the way of people setting boundaries. We cover lots of things for such a short amount of time, such as fear of abandonment, not being able to risk the fallout, avoiding disappointment, and cognitive distortions like jumping to conclusions (or mind reading).


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And the boundaries conversation continues. If this is your first time finding the podcast, I recommend listening to Boundaries Part 1 as well as the minisode Boundaries 1.5 before this episode. But also, feel free to live your life and do what you want to do. In this episode Heather walks us through four main tools for navigating creating/negotiating boundaries. We then both discuss things that help these four main tools more effective and successful. Lastly, we share some examples from our relationship of times we have used boundaries/navigated potentially difficult situations by using and sticking to our boundaries. 

Resources:
Assertiveness Inventory: https://www.psychotherapy.net/data/fe/file/Assert_Invent(5).pdf
"The Assertiveness Guide for women" by Julie de Azevedo Hanks (book)
"Set Boundaries Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab (book)
"The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban (book)
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie
Hailey Paige Magee on instagram:
 https://www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee/
Brene Brown's SFD technique:
 https://brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Integration-Ideas_Rising-Strong_092221-1.pdf


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We had a hard time knowing where to go next after starting and decided upon boundaries because it's such an important part of life, but in particular within our friendship and it's the foundation of a lot of future topics. In this episode we talk about a definition of boundaries, how you can tell when you may need to re-evaluate your boundaries, and times/situations that you may need boundaries.  We also almost fail at our podcast structure the first time we are supposed to use it (ha!) 


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Welcome to F*ck N*ce! 
In today's episode we cover how Heather and Chelsea met and became friends, what we intend to do with this podcast, the idea behind the name, and some insight into our structure.  With lots of story telling and tangents as is to be expected with us. Welcome aboard for our adventure of using our relationship to talk about, teach about and explore relational self-awareness. 

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