F*ck N*ce

In the third Enneagram episode, Heather and Chelsea focus on the "Investigators" (Enneagram type 5). Learn about this often direct and curious type that is motivated by being competent and not having needs.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typefive
#investigator
#observer
#analyst

Heather and Chelsea spend an episode on enneagram type 6’s. Find out why Heather loves 6’s, what makes 6 and 1’s similar and different when it comes to “standards” and hear answers to questions from Instagram about 6’s.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#enneagram 

#typesix

#loyalist

#skeptic

Heather and Chelsea dive into their first enneagram episode, focusing on the "the fun one", type 7. This will be the first of 9 episodes where they dive into each type. Come along for the journey and learn about your type or the types you could be as well as those around you. If you have questions about your type, please head to the instagram page to submit your inquiries! 

 Resources:
The Honest Enneagram by Sara Jane Case
The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The One Inside Podcast
The Spiritual Enneagram by Sandra Maitri

#Enneagram
#theenthusiast
#Type7
#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#selfcompassion 

Basically we thought we could do a short single episode on Fair Play and turns out we had a lot to say about our own lives. Jump aboard as we squirrel!

In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about the Fair Play Book and Card system from Eve Rodsky. Both talk about their experiences with Fair Play and demonstrate dividing up their tasks for the podcast and what the minimum standard of care is for these tasks. 

https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary

Part two of self-compassion with Heather and Chelsea focuses on potential applications of the enneagram to self-compassion and examples of barriers and struggles with self-compassion from listeners.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger- especially episodes with Joan Ryan from January 2022.

Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about self-compassion, what it is, what it isn’t, the components of self-compassion, and how it shows up in their relationship. Look out for part two with shares from listeners and potential applications to the enneagram.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger

Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part two focuses on “Supposed to’s” and explored examples of these things/how these things show up in Chelsea and Heather’s relationship. Just like in part one, this episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Supposed to’s”.

Resources:

• The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
• “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
• The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
• Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
• The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Music by EColins on Audio Jungle

In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part one focuses on an overview of these ideas and then talking more specifically on "Sorry" and  "Should". This episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Should's" and apologizing unnecessarily. 

Resources:

• The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
• “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
• The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
• Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
• The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Music by EColins on Audio Jungle

In Part Two of exploring nice v. kind we focus on macro (big picture, systemic) applications of the same ideas such as the concept of "nice white women". Amy the Magnanimous joins us once again to share her experiences of noticing how nice v. kind comes out in policy, politics and advocacy. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

https://medium.com/@realtalkwocandallies/when-white-women-practice-the-politics-of-polite-the-violence-of-nice-a7f2c167bb2e

https://nonprofitaf.com/2021/01/21-signs-you-or-your-organization-may-be-the-white-moderate-dr-king-warned-about/


Music by EColins on Audio Jungle