Episode 153: Embracing Impermanence & Change
In this heartfelt episode, Shelby explores the concept of impermanence and the challenges of embracing change, particularly for parents experiencing alienation and ongoing trauma. Drawing from her own journey and client stories, Shelby discusses why we resist change, how that resistance can deepen our pain, and the transformative power of leaning into new realities.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why we resist change, especially after trauma and loss
• The emotional impact of clinging to the past and the illusion of control
• Shelby’s personal story of selling her home and the lessons learned from resisting change
• The cost—emotional, financial, and relational—of staying stuck in resistance
• How embracing change can open doors to growth, healing, and new possibilities
• The importance of developing a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset
• Practical strategies for navigating change: breaking big transitions into small steps, focusing on what you can control, and celebrating small wins
• Practicing self-compassion and challenging fixed beliefs

Notable Quotes:

• “Safety and healing come from acceptance, adaptation, and learning—not from clinging to your past.”
• “Your pain is not going to last forever. Change is inevitable, but so is growth.”
• “The best revenge is success—make the change yours and flourish.”

Actionable Takeaways:

• Break overwhelming changes into manageable steps.
• Focus on areas you can control in your daily life.
• Balance time spent grieving with time spent exploring new possibilities.
• Practice self-compassion and celebrate small victories.
• Challenge yourself to see how change might benefit you, even if it wasn’t your choice.

Connect with Shelby:
If you’re struggling with the effects of alienation and want support in your healing journey, visit: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/HealAfterParentalAlienation