Lawrence Joss discusses the emotional complexities surrounding the holidays, particularly for those experiencing parental alienation and estrangement. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging feelings of grief, loneliness, and frustration while also highlighting coping strategies such as having a plan, seeking community support, and reframing negative thoughts. Joss encourages listeners to create new traditions and find ways to connect with loved ones, even in their absence, while practicing self-care and compassion during this challenging time.

Key Takeaways

• The holidays can amplify feelings of joy and pain.
• It's important to acknowledge the struggles of parental alienation.
• Having a plan for the holidays can help mitigate emotional distress.
• Resentment can be harmful; finding ways to address it is crucial.
• Creating new traditions can help in coping with loss.
• Community support is vital during the holidays.
• Self-care practices are essential for emotional well-being.
• Triggers are inevitable; being prepared can help manage them.
• Reframing negative thoughts can shift your perspective.
• It's important to remember that the holiday season is temporary.

Chapters

0:00 - Welcome And Holiday Theme
 1:44 - Memories and Mixed Gratitude
 2:44 - How Holidays Amplify Joy and Pain
 4:35 - Stages of Alienation and Planning Ahead
 7:05 - Service and Hope as an Antiseptic
 8:36 - Naming Invisible Loss and Emotions
 10:18 - Forgiveness Work and Releasing Resentments
 12:05 - Anticipating Triggers and Setting Boundaries
 15:10 - Communicating Needs and Seeking Consent
 18:08 - Self-Care Planning and Safe People
 20:10 - Creating New Rituals and Continuing to Live
 22:28 - Reframing Painful Holiday Stories
 24:20 - Shame, Self-Forgiveness, and Repair
 26:04 - Commemorating Loved Ones From Afar
 28:12 - Closing Wishes and Community Reflection

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Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
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Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with Matthew Brickman, a Supreme Court Certified Mediator in Florida. They delve into the intricacies of mediation, discussing its purpose, the role of mediators, and how to select the right one. Matthew shares insights from his extensive experience, emphasizing the importance of continuous learning and personal growth in the field of mediation. The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of conflict resolution and the significance of empowering individuals during the mediation process.

Key Takeaways

• Mediation provides a structured environment for conflict resolution.
• The transition from emotional to business-like relationships is crucial in mediation.
• Understanding the four Ds of conflict: dismissed, disrespected, disvalued, disenfranchised.
• Mediation is often mandatory before court proceedings in many states.
• Choosing the right mediator involves research and personal fit.
• Continuous education and experience are vital for effective mediation.
• Mediators should empower clients to navigate their conflicts.
• High conflict situations often require separate rooms during mediation.
• Mediation can save time and money compared to court proceedings.
• Personal growth and emotional intelligence are essential in conflict resolution.

Chapters
0:39 - Introducing Matthew Brickman
1:49 - Community and Resources for Parents
2:02 - Owning Mistakes and Elevating Kids
4:24 - What Mediation Is and Isn’t
6:27 - From Romance to Business: Kid Inc
8:50 - The Four D’s of Conflict
10:49 - States, Statutes, and Mandatory Mediation
13:43 - Why Courts Push Mediation
16:05 - With or Without Attorneys
20:03 - Neutrality, Bias, and Trust
22:08 - How to Choose a Mediator
31:16 - Continuous Learning and Fit

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Lawrence and Matthew delves into the complexities of family dynamics, particularly focusing on the impact of parental relationships on children. It highlights a troubling incident where a mother instructs her child to make false accusations against the father, leading to legal repercussions and involvement from child services. The discussion emphasizes the emotional and psychological toll such situations can have on families.

Key Takeaways

• The influence of parental relationships on children's behavior.
• False accusations can lead to serious legal consequences.
• The role of child services in family disputes.
• The emotional impact of family dynamics on children.
• Communication breakdowns can escalate conflicts between parents.
• Support systems are crucial in navigating family issues.
• Understanding the legal framework surrounding child custody disputes.
• The importance of maintaining a stable environment for children.
• The psychological effects of parental conflict on children.
• The need for open dialogue in co-parenting situations.

Chapters

0:00 – Opening: The Healing Journey & Welcome
 2:02 – Why Picking The Right Mediator Matters
 3:10 – Matthew’s Background In Family Mediation
 4:26 – When Amicable Turns Into A Bloodbath
 7:06 – False Allegations And DCF At The Door
 10:50 – Covert Alienation In Our Body Language
 12:42 – First-Time Crisis: What To Do
 16:30 – From Shock To Service: Becoming A GAL
 20:00 – Therapy As A Safe Conversation Space
 23:15 – Kids Surviving By Saying What You Want
 26:00 – Shift Focus: Build Children, Not Cases
 30:00 – Adult Children, Lingering Impacts & New Norms
 37:00 – Winning Peace By Letting Go
 40:00 – Mediating Between Ex And Son
 43:05 – Reflection, Resources, And Closing

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The conversation delves into the complexities of relationship problems faced by couples, emphasizing the common issues stemming from parenting and intimacy. It highlights the tendency of couples to seek external advice rather than resolving conflicts directly, and critiques the reliance on legal solutions for emotional and relational problems, advocating for a more psychological approach.

Key Takeaways

• Couples often face problems related to parenting or intimacy.
• Many couples avoid negotiating their issues directly.
• External influences complicate conflict resolution.
• Legal solutions are often misapplied to emotional problems.
• Emotional and relational issues require psychological approaches.
• Communication is key in resolving marital conflicts.
• Seeking help from friends or family can lead to confusion.
• Understanding the root cause of problems is essential.
• Negotiation skills are crucial for couples.
• Legal tools do not address emotional needs.

Chapter

1:20 - Systems theory meets family courts
 2:44 - Family patterns and learned levers
 4:16 - Attachment shifts during pregnancy
 5:23 - Limits to self-reflection and change
 6:59 - Expanding system: courts and professionals
 7:52 - How politics shape couple conflict
 11:04 - GDP, school pressure, and home stress
 13:07 - Navigating legal systems in divorce
 15:04 - Reciprocity and influence in relationships
 17:05 - No legal fix for emotional needs
 19:10 - Prevention through systemic therapy
 21:07 - Challenging constructs and parenting norms
 23:05 - Journal and master’s on alienation
 25:07 - Closing reflections and resources

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Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

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Lawrence Joss explores the deeper systemic roots of parental alienation, revealing how alienation unfolds gradually through subtle family dynamics rather than appearing overnight. He and Dr. Charlie unpack how cultural norms, family structures, and early relational patterns shape the roles parents step into, and how those roles can quietly shift power, boundaries, and attachment inside the family system.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation is a gradual process.
• Negative talk about a parent is common in relationships.
• Cultural norms influence parenting roles significantly.
• In some cultures, mothers are primarily caregivers.
• Fathers often take on structural roles in parenting.
• Understanding alienation requires a cultural lens.
• Parental roles can vary widely across different societies.
• The dynamics of family relationships are complex.
• Emotional care is often seen as a mother's role.
• Structural care is typically associated with fathers.

Chapters

0:00 – Safety, Survival & Early Alienation Patterns
 2:05 – What the Systemic Lens Reveals
 5:40 – When Problems Become Relational
 9:20 – Cultural & Structural Pressures on Families
 11:55 – Alienation as a Gradual Process
 14:40 – Boundary Breakdowns & Role Confusion
 17:55 – Power Shifts: Children Elevated to Partner Role
 21:25 – Why Kids Choose the Unpredictable Parent
 25:40 – Subtle Behaviors That Shift Family Hierarchy
 28:30 – Parentification & Emotional Oversharing
 31:55 – Long-Term Effects on Attachment & Identity
 35:50 – Attraction Patterns & the Drama Triangle

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

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Connect with Lawrence Joss:
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In this highly anticipated Part 2, Lawrence Joss and Dr. Nima Rahmany explore the unconscious dynamics that make relationships feel like a painful dance, especially in the context of family conflict and parental alienation. Dr. Rahmany breaks down the tension between the two core relational fears, abandonment and engulfment, that create the exhausting push-pull pattern in partnerships, and with your children.

Key Takeaways

• Many of us were born into cultures and societies where we had to choose attachment over our authentic truth.
• We are conditioned to fawn for safety.
• Fawning is a performative self abandonment that we do to feel safe.
• The codependent is the one that fawns, abandoning themselves for attachment.
• Deep down, every time you fawn, there's a little resentment towards the person you're fawning.
• People pleasing is a response that can lead to losing one's identity.
• Clients often express that they don't even know who they are anymore due to people pleasing.
• Cultural conditioning plays a significant role in shaping our behaviors.
• Self-abandonment can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics.
• Understanding these patterns is crucial for personal growth.

Chapters
0:00 - Abandonment Meets Engulfment: The Cycle
0:25 - Mission, Community, and Parental Alienation Support
3:20 - Living the Pain and Grief of Alienation
5:10 - Defining The Push-Pull Pattern
8:15 - Becoming Trigger-Proof And Repair
10:25 - Enmeshment And Boundary Walls
12:07 - Alienation As A Repeating Pattern
18:05 - Shadow Work and Owning the Parts We Hide
23:35 - Authenticity And Secure Bonds
27:08 - Fawn Response Explained
32:00 - Health Costs Of People-Pleasing
35:02 - Boundaries And Nervous System Safety
38:24 - Breaking Cycles Through Parent Healing
41:28 - The Trigger-Proof Experience Overview

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In this powerful conversation, Dr. Nima Rami joins Lawrence Joss to uncover how the parts of ourselves we try to hide are the very keys to healing. Together, they explore the transformative practice of shadow work, turning triggers into teachers and pain into purpose. They discuss how true self-regulation begins with co-regulating your younger self, and how embracing your “mess” can break lifelong cycles of trauma. This episode offers deep insights for anyone seeking to transform emotional triggers into greater self-awareness, compassion, and authentic connection.

Key Takeaways

• Shadow work is a spiritual practice.
• Using triggers can lead to personal growth.
• Self-reflection is key to understanding oneself.
• Avoiding triggers hinders personal development.
• Embracing inner challenges fosters growth.
• The mirror metaphor highlights self-examination.
• Spirituality involves looking inward.
• Growth comes from understanding our reactions.
• Triggers can be seen as opportunities.
• Shadow work requires courage and honesty.

Chapters

0:00 Opening: The Healing Journey
1:02 Welcome And Guest Introduction
2:35 What Shadow Work Really Means
7:35 Projections And The Mirror Of Relationships
11:29 Co‑Regulation With Your Younger Self
15:10 Triggers Explained In Plain Language
20:14 Capacity Over A Triggerless Life
24:24 Curious Not Furious: Integration Or Blame
26:47 Parenting While Triggered
32:20 Divorce Dynamics And Cycle Breaking
37:15 Repairing Bonds Across Generations
42:00 Preparing For Parenthood With Presence

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Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
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In this conversation, parental alienation expert Lisa Johnson discusses the complexities of navigating custody battles and the impact of communication on children. She emphasizes the importance of building a support team, understanding the role of time in legal proceedings, and the necessity of setting firm boundaries. Lisa also shares strategies for strengthening parent-child bonds and developing critical thinking skills in children to help them navigate conflicting messages from parents. The discussion highlights the importance of community support and resources available for parents facing these challenges.

Key Takeaways

• Planting poisonous messages can harm children's perception of safety.
• Complicity in parenting plans can be used against you in court.
• Setting firm boundaries is essential for healthy parenting.
• Developing critical thinking skills in children is vital.
• Children need to feel they have control and agency.
• Positive memories with children can counteract negative messaging.
• Community support is invaluable for parents in high-conflict cases.
• Legal systems can provide tools, but cannot fix relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Episode 118 Lisa Johnson Pt 2
29:02 Understanding Parental Alienation
31:49 The Impact of Communication on Children
35:02 The Role of Time in Custody Battles
37:43 Building a Support Team
40:51 Navigating Complicity in Parenting Plans
43:44 Establishing Strong Bonds with Children
46:54 Developing Critical Thinking Skills in Kids
49:44 Resources and Support for Parents
52:57 Final Thoughts and Community Support

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Strategies for Running Your High-Conflict Case Like a Business - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNL81Gr-Dbg

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Lisa Johnson discusses her extensive experience with parental alienation and legal abuse, highlighting the emotional and psychological toll it takes on parents and children. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the legal system, the nuances of parental alienation versus justified estrangement, and the need for support and community among those affected. Lisa shares success stories that offer hope and strategies for navigating high conflict divorce situations, while also addressing the cultural shifts in perceptions of parental relationships.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation affects millions and is often misunderstood.
• Understanding the legal system is crucial for effective representation.
• Parental alienation is a form of psychological abuse.
• There is hope for reconciliation in alienated parent-child relationships.
• Distinguishing between alienation and justified estrangement is complex.
• Cultural shifts have changed how adult children view their relationships with parents.
• Body language and communication around children can impact their perceptions. 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation and Legal Abuse
03:01 Understanding High Conflict Divorce and Legal Strategies
06:07 The Impact of Parental Alienation as Domestic Violence
09:00 Navigating Identity Loss in Alienation Situations
12:11 Hope and Recovery: Success Stories in Alienation
15:07 Distinguishing Alienation from Justified Estrangement
17:52 The Nuances of Estrangement in Adult Children

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Connect with Lisa Johnson: https://beentheregotout.com/⁩

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
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Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
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In this conversation, the speakers delve into the importance of emotional differentiation and somatic therapy in parenting, particularly in the context of co-parenting and parental alienation. They discuss how understanding one's emotions and boundaries can lead to healthier relationships with children and ex-partners. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-trust, agency, and the need for repair in relationships, both with oneself and with others. The speakers also highlight practical resources and strategies for parents to navigate these challenges effectively.

Key Takeaways

• Emotional differentiation helps in recognizing what emotions belong to us.
• Somatic therapy reconnects individuals with their bodies for healing.
• Creating safety in parent-child relationships is crucial for emotional health.
• Boundaries teach others how we want to be treated.
• Repairing relationships starts with self-awareness and self-trust.
• Self-sacrifice in parenting should be intentional, not a default.
• Children absorb the emotional dynamics of their parents' relationships.
• Communication and consent are key in navigating co-parenting challenges.
• Repair can happen within ourselves, not just through verbal communication.
• Resources like workshops and books can support parents in their journey.

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Emotional Differentiation
02:46 - The Importance of Somatic Therapy
05:47 - Navigating Parent-Child Relationships
08:58 - The Role of Boundaries in Co-Parenting
11:58 - Repairing Relationships: Self and Others
15:05 - The Power of Self-Trust and Agency
17:49 - Creating Safety in Parenting
21:04 - The Journey of Somatic Healing
23:52 - Resources for Parents
26:53 - Final Thoughts and Reflections

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Vivian Meraki's Website: https://www.vivianmeraki.com/⁩

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
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Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- [email protected]