Family Disappeared

In this heartfelt panel, Lawrence Joss brings together grandparents to explore the emotional realities of maintaining connection in the context of parental alienation. Through lived experience, they reflect on the quiet grief of distance, the moments of unexpected contact, and the deep love that continues even in the absence of regular relationships. This conversation offers a rare window into the grandparent perspective, one often overlooked, yet deeply affected by family separation.

Together, the panel unpacks the complexity of holding both loss and hope at the same time. Themes of patience, resilience, identity, and intergenerational connection emerge, alongside the importance of community and shared understanding. This episode is a reminder that even when access is limited or uncertain, presence, love, and intention continue to matter in ways that may unfold over time.

Key Takeaways

• Differences between being a parent and grandparent in alienation
• Emotional impact of parental alienation on grandparents
• Strategies for maintaining connection with grandchildren
• The role of recovery and self-work in healing family relationships
• Generational trauma and breaking cycles

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction and Overview of Parental Alienation
03:56 - Grandparents' Experiences and Emotional Impact
09:27 - Communication and Connection Challenges
12:53 - Differences in Relationship Dynamics
17:37 - Handling Transitions and Moving Forward
20:15 - Using Technology to Bridge the Gap
23:38 - The Power of Small Changes and Responses
25:56 - Reflections on Connection and Hope
27:52 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

Support & Community:

Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery.

PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection.

All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources.
Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program

Connect with Us:
Email your questions or insights: [email protected]
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If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
 
 Email - [email protected]
 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

Continuing the conversation, Lawrence Joss and Stephanie Sternes, a licensed counselor and family systems expert, further explores the complex dynamics of loyalty binds, attachment, and family systems within the context of parental alienation and stepfamily relationships. Alongside Stephanie Sternes, a specialist in two-family systems, the focus deepens into how children and parents navigate competing loyalties, emotional pressure, and the challenge of maintaining connection across two-home environments.

With both professional and lived perspective, Stephanie brings clarity to how attachment patterns and loyalty conflicts shape behavior within blended families. This episode offers a grounded lens into parental alienation and stepfamily dynamics providing insight, validation, and a more compassionate understanding of the emotional complexity many families are carrying.

Key Takeaways

• Loyalty binds override natural parent-child attachment 
•  Children feel forced to choose one parent 
•  Love becomes conditional in high-conflict families 
•  Attachment trauma shapes long-term emotional patterns 
•  Chronic stress impacts memory and identity development 
•  Sibling relationships divided by loyalty-based dynamics 
•  Adult relationships reflect unresolved childhood attachment wounds 
•  Healing begins through awareness and nervous system safety 

Chapters

00:00 - Exploring Loyalty and Love in Family Dynamics
02:52 - The Impact of Loyalty Binds on Relationships
05:42 - Navigating Childhood Memories and Adult Relationships
09:01 - Understanding Attachment and Loyalty in Parenting
11:43 - Sibling Relationships in Divided Households
14:38 - The Role of Step-Parents and Outsider Dynamics
17:44 - Bad Advice and Misconceptions in Co-Parenting
21:02 - Aha Moments in Understanding Family Systems
23:52 - Finding Help and Resources for Families in Transition

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
 
 Email - [email protected]
 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

To learn more or connect with Stephanie, you can visit:
https://www.stephsternes.com
https://www.healingstoryranch.com

Resources Mentioned:
Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia Papernow
https://stepfamilyrelationships.com/

The Smart Stepfamily by Ron L. Deal
https://smartstepfamilies.com/

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

Support & Community:
Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery.

PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection.

All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources.
Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program   

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

In this conversation, Lawrence Joss sits down alongside Stephanie Sternes, a specialist in two-family systems, to explore the often-overlooked realities of blended families and the emotional complexity of navigating life across two homes. Together, they unpack how attachment, shifting roles, and stepfamily dynamics shape both parent and child experiences, especially in the presence of parental alienation and high-conflict family environments.

With both professional and personal perspective, Stephanie brings awareness to the emotional layers within stepfamily dynamics, inviting greater understanding and compassion for what blended families and two-home systems hold. This episode offers a deeper lens into parental alienation and blended family dynamics, providing clarity and a more grounded way of understanding the complexity many families navigate.

Key Takeaways

• Two-family systems and their impact on children
• Attachment, grief, and loss in blended families
• Loyalty binds and the love-loyalty paradox
• High conflict, oppositional parenting, and abuse spectrum
• Clinical training gaps and systemic understanding in therapy 

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Two-family Systems
02:47 - The Impact of Grief and Loss on Family Dynamics
05:49 - Navigating Attachment and Regulation in Two-family Homes
08:48 - Misconceptions in Therapy for Two-family Systems
12:03 - The Spectrum of Parenting Styles: Co-parenting vs. Oppositional Parenting
14:46 - The Loyalty Bind: Navigating Love and Loyalty in Divided Families
18:06 - The Role of Therapy in Healing Family Dynamics

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
 
 Email - [email protected]
 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

Support & Community:
Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery.

PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection.

All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources.
Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-program

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

This second part of the panel conversation explores what begins to change when parents shift from urgency to patience. Lawrence Joss and the panel reflect on the role of emotional safety, vulnerability, and self-awareness when relationships with children begin to reopen, even in small ways.

Through deeply personal reflections, the panel discusses how reconnection rarely happens through persuasion or explanation. Instead, it often emerges slowly through presence, patience, and emotional steadiness. The conversation highlights how recovery communities, self-care, and learning to regulate one's own emotional responses can create the conditions for trust, healing, and sometimes renewed relationships.

Key Takeaways

• Taking care of oneself is crucial in building relationships.
• Patience is essential when communicating with loved ones.
• Safety cues can help foster trust in relationships.
• Emotional flooding can be managed through self-awareness.
• Recovery work provides a framework for personal growth.
• Finding balance in connection and disconnection is important.
• Community support plays a vital role in healing.
• Practicing self-compassion allows for better interactions with others.
• It's okay to take a pause during emotional conversations.
• The journey of recovery is ongoing and requires continuous effort.

Chapters

00:00 - Navigating Safety and Self-Care in Relationships
03:10 - The Importance of Patience in Communication
05:55 - Understanding Safety and Trust in Interpersonal Dynamics
08:48 - Emotional Flooding and Managing Reactions
12:10 - The Role of Recovery in Building Relationships
14:59 - Finding Balance in Connection and Disconnection
17:46 - Reflections on Emotional Highs and Lows
20:58 - The Power of Community and Support
23:52 - Final Thoughts on Personal Growth and Connection

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
 
 Email - [email protected]
 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
 https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

This conversation explores what parental alienation actually feels like for the parents and grandparents living through it. Lawrence Joss brings together several parents who share their lived experiences, the urgency, grief, and emotional chaos that often accompany the early years of alienation.

Together, they reflect on how their understanding evolved over time. What once felt like a crisis to fix quickly slowly became a longer journey of patience, self-awareness, and support. Through honest stories and hard-earned perspective, the panel discusses how community, emotional regulation, and learning the “long view” can change the way parents navigate alienation and keep the door open for future reconnection.

Key Takeaways

• Patience allows children space to heal and process
• Urgency often leads to poor decision-making.
• The emotional impact of alienation can feel overwhelming
• Community support is crucial for healing.
• Understanding the long view helps in managing expectations.
• Parents often feel like they are drowning emotionally.
• Pleading one's case can push children further away.
• The journey of reconnecting is often bumpy and unpredictable.
• Vulnerability builds trust during the reconnection process
• Calming the nervous system prevents reactive, harmful mistakes
• The healing that went on just by being present in the same space was significant.
• Accept small gestures without demanding more contact.
• Patience is where the magic happens in relationships.

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction to Parental Alienation
05:05 - Personal Stories of Alienation
10:02 - Understanding the Long View of Alienation
14:46 - The Impact of Urgency on Decisions
20:13 - Reflections on Emotional Responses
20:42 - Navigating Parental Challenges
23:09 - Building Connections with Children
26:45 - The Journey of Reconnection
32:35 - The Role of Patience and Safety
40:50 - Transformative Conversations and Healing

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
 
 Email - [email protected]
 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
 https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

This conversation delves into the importance of emotional authenticity, the transformative power of somatic therapy, and the dynamics of parent-child relationships. The speakers discuss how communication patterns affect emotional expression and the significance of attunement in therapy. They explore the concept of hope and its relationship with personal growth, emphasizing the connection with nature as a means of grounding and self-discovery.

 Key Takeaways

• It's huge to be like, what would have that been like if my mom really saw me.
• Somatic therapy and somatic tracking can be life-changing.
• We continuously keep meeting each other where we are in therapy.
• Stripping away identification with emotions can lead to self-discovery.
• We don't take our emotions with us when we die; they are temporary.
• Sitting with feelings increases capacity for compassion.
• Parents often take their children's emotions personally, which disrupts the dynamic.
• We forgot what we would have liked when we were a child.
• There's a natural drive within us to explore and grow.
• It's normal to feel a range of emotions, and we share these experiences with humanity.

Chapters

00:00 - Exploring Emotional Authenticity
02:57 - The Power of Somatic Therapy
05:43 - Parent-Child Dynamics and Emotional Expression
08:50 - The Role of Communication in Therapy
11:52 - Attunement and Authenticity
14:55 - Navigating Emotions and Hope
17:57 - Connecting with Nature and Personal Growth

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - [email protected]
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Connect with Brea Segger:
https://www.breasegger.com/

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

Lawrence Joss and Brea Segger, Master of Somatic Emotional Release explore the importance of presence and non-judgment in therapeutic settings, emphasizing the need for individuals to connect with their emotions and experiences without the pressure to 'fix' them. They discuss alternative therapeutic approaches that focus on co-regulation and emotional awareness, particularly in the context of grief and anxiety. The dialogue highlights the significance of witnessing others' emotional processes and the role of trust in navigating complex feelings. Ultimately, the conversation advocates for a compassionate and empowering approach to emotional healing.

Key Takeaways

• The importance of showing up for others from a centered place.
• Therapy can be more effective when it allows for emotional exploration without a fixed outcome.
• Understanding and processing emotions can lead to deeper healing.
• Witnessing someone's grief can be more powerful than trying to alleviate it.
• Grief often encompasses a range of emotions, including anger and resentment.
• Building trust in one's emotional process can shorten the duration of grief.
• Allowing emotions to arise without judgment fosters resilience.
• Co-regulation between therapist and client creates a safe space for healing.
• Emotional processing can be facilitated by focusing on bodily sensations.
• Finding balance in emotional expression is key to mental well-being.

Chapters

00:00 - The Power of Presence and Non-Judgment
02:53 - Exploring Alternative Therapeutic Approaches
05:50 - Meeting People Where They Are
09:08 - Navigating Anxiety and Emotional States
11:47 - Understanding Grief and Its Complexities
15:04 - The Role of Witnessing in Healing
17:48 - Building Trust and Resilience in Emotions
20:45 - The Journey Through Grief and Acceptance
23:41 - Finding Balance in Emotional Processing

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - [email protected]
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Connect with Brea Segger:
https://www.breasegger.com/

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

Lawrence Joss explores the deeper emotional and systemic realities of parental alienation in this conversation with Cindy Hirsch, CEO of ISNAF (International Society for the New Alienated Family). Together, they examine why stability must come before reunification and how becoming a grounded, regulated “lighthouse parent” creates the conditions for reconnection. 

The discussion unpacks grief as a natural response to ambiguous loss, the impact of splitting and weak boundaries within family systems, and why healthy boundaries protect rather than punish. Joss and Hirsch emphasize that reunification is a long, non-linear process of reconnecting, reattaching, and rebuilding trust over time, and that meaningful change begins with personal agency and inner stability.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation can be overwhelming and confusing.
• Building a supportive community is crucial for healing.
• Stability is essential for effective parenting during alienation.
• Grief is a natural response to loss, not a failure.
• Healthy boundaries are necessary to prevent alienation.
• Reunification is a long process that requires patience.
• Self-awareness and personal growth are key to navigating family dynamics.
• Emotional regulation helps in dealing with stressful situations.
• Support from professionals and peers is invaluable.
• Change in family systems starts with individual change.

Chapters

0:00 - Welcome And Community Resources
1:31 - Why The Individual Shifts The System
3:20 - Five Things No One Tells You
5:21 - Stability First: The Lighthouse Parent
7:35 - Practical Grounding And Support
9:10 - Grief Explained And Normalized
11:29 - Nonlinear Stages And Renewal
13:07 - Losing The Inner Compass
15:02 - Reintegrating The Self
16:28 - Boundaries As Protection
19:05 - Modeling Healthy Limits
20:28 - The Long Arc Of Reunification
23:10 - Letting Go And Creating Space
25:05 - Resilience, Systems, And Agency

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - [email protected]
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

Lawrence Joss discusses the complexities of child development and attachment with Melanie Gill, an attachment specialist. They explore how parental influence shapes a child's brain development, the impact of disrupted attachment, and the long-term effects of cognitive dissonance and deception on children. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster compassion and healing within families.

Key Takeaways

• Understanding child development is crucial for parents.
• Attachment relationships are fundamental to brain growth.
• Disrupted attachment can lead to lifelong patterns.
• Children adapt to survive in dysfunctional environments.
• Cognitive dissonance creates confusion in children.
• Lying has neurological costs for children.
• Emotional regulation can be reversed in unhealthy dynamics.
• Compassion is key to healing transgenerational trauma.
• Community support is essential for healing.
• Education and understanding can lead to better parenting.

Chapters

0:00 - Opening: Why Kids Suddenly Change
 2:31 - Community Welcome And Mission
 3:17 - Framing The Science Of Attachment
 4:16 - Healthy Vs Disrupted Attachment
 6:00 - Survival Adaptations Become Patterns
 8:29 - Cognitive Dissonance In Alienation
 10:40 - The Neurological Cost Of Lying
 12:23 - Reversed Emotional Regulation
 14:05 - Compassion, Tools, And Next Steps

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - [email protected]
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]

Lawrence Joss explores the profound themes of mortality, parental alienation, and the emotional struggles that accompany them. He shares his personal journey through anxiety, recovery, and the fear of dying without reconciling with his children. The conversation delves into the importance of preparing for death, leaving a legacy, and the impact of community support in navigating these challenges. Joss emphasizes the need for proactive measures in parenting and the significance of sharing one's story with future generations.

Key Takeaways

• Am I gonna die before I get a relationship back with my kids?
• Death and grieving are monumental events.
• I thought I was there to stop drinking.
• I was in a white bed, in a white room.
• I was scared to die and I was sure I was going to die.
• I want them to see who I am in this moment.
• I never stopped parenting.
• Let's talk about this.
• I want to share some resources with my children now.
• This is a universal pain and suffering.

Chapters

00:00 - Facing the Unthinkable Question
02:00 - Panic, Addiction Recovery & Not Knowing What Was Happening
04:30 - Community as Lifeline & Learning I Couldn’t Do This Alone
06:45 - When the Body Holds Unresolved Grief
08:45 - Making Friends with Death & Understanding the Family System
10:45 - A Near-Death Medical Moment
13:30 - Parenting Without Access Over Decades
15:45 - Reclaiming Agency Through Legacy
18:30 - From Me to We: Community, Meaning & Continuing to Live Fully

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - [email protected]
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom part

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- [email protected]

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email-         [email protected]