Understanding and Coping with Betrayal in Parental Alienation

In episode 134 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford delves into the complex subject of betrayal, particularly within the context of parental alienation. Shelby explores whether betrayal is an emotion or a perception, drawing analogies with grief and emphasizing that betrayal stems from a perceived breach of trust. The discussion is sparked by a recent experience Shelby had with misleading AI-generated videos of Brene Brown discussing betrayal. Shelby shares personal stories of betrayal by trusted friends and family during her own struggles with parental alienation, highlighting how these experiences can exacerbate feelings of isolation and mistrust. She offers insights on the emotional responses to betrayal and emphasizes the importance of self-respect and self-worth in overcoming these challenges. Shelby also provides practical advice on naming and processing the emotions associated with betrayal to foster personal growth and resilience.

00:00 Introduction & Episode Overview

00:31 Defining Betrayal: Emotion or Emotional Experience Based on Perception?

01:40 Personal Anecdote: The REAL Brene Brown or Dupe?

07:41 Exploring the Concept of Betrayal in Parental Alienation

22:16 Self-Betrayal & How It Began

29:59 Empowerment & Moving Forward

38:15 Conclusion & Final Thoughts

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Discussing the common communication pitfall of using the phrase 'I feel like' and how it can hinder emotional clarity and empowerment, especially for alienated parents. Shelby encourages listeners to focus on identifying and articulating actual emotions to reduce misinterpretations and overcome poor communication habits. By sharing personal experiences and insights from her counseling journey, Shelby aims to help parents take their power back and communicate more effectively. She also invites listeners to consider her coaching programs for deeper transformation and to leave reviews to help more parents find support through the show.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements

00:59 The Power of Coaching

03:20 The Impact of 'I Feel Like' Statements

05:00 Personal Breakthroughs and Counseling

09:15 Taking Ownership of Emotions

10:53 Practical Examples and Exercises

16:11 Avoiding Cognitive Distortions

29:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Coping with Feelings of Inadequacy as an Alienated Parent

In episode 132 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the common feelings of inadequacy that many alienated parents experience. She opens up about her own struggles with avoiding social media checks on her daughter and the internal conflict about not feeling 'enough' due to her current situation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of recognizing that emotional presence, support, and love outweigh material offerings. She also provides strategies for self-affirmation and suggests exercises to help parents build self-worth and readiness for potential reunification with their children. This episode offers insightful guidance for alienated parents coping with feelings of rejection and inadequacy.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

01:26 Struggles with Social Media and Avoidance

02:42 Facing Fears and Emotional Challenges

05:09 Comparing Yourself "How THEY Do It"

09:26 Tips for Overcoming Inadequacy

20:13 The Importance of Self-Love and Acceptance

26:34 Practical Exercise for Building Self-Worth

30:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Navigating Nostalgia, Remorse, & Uncertainty

In episode 131 Shelby Milford delves into the mixed emotions that arise with springtime nostalgia. She shares her personal reflections on regret and remorse, prompted by some treasured memories with her daughter before alienation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between regret and shame, encouraging listeners to embrace their growth journey. She explores how changing the narratives we tell ourselves about our past can foster healing and growth. With a poignant example of an Instagram post (thanks to Max Stossel), Shelby inspires parents to stay hopeful and believe in a brighter future despite current hardships. She concludes by underscoring the unbreakable bonds between parents and children, offering encouragement and support to all alienated parents.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:36 Springtime Nostalgia and Memories03:27 Reflections on Regret and Remorse05:29 Understanding and Overcoming Shame10:35 The Power of Perspective and Storytelling30:16 The Unbreakable Parent-Child Bond32:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dive into cultivating a sense of safety and peace amidst the chaos of parental alienation. Shelby begins by sharing a touching review from a listener, highlighting the transformative impact of her coaching. She then addresses the common feeling of instability and unpredictability faced by alienated parents, emphasizing the importance of bringing focus back to oneself. Through strategies like building emotional resilience, establishing predictability in daily routines, managing stress responses, and choosing a strong support team, Shelby offers actionable steps to help parents regain control and inner peace. This episode also encourages listeners to practice consistency and implement daily routines as a foundational approach to overcome the ongoing challenges they face. Shelby also stresses the need to evaluate and adjust the kind of media content one consumes and the importance of creating a supportive and mindful living environment.

Move Past the Pain Of Alienation By Allowing Your Emotions

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00:00 Introduction and Listener Review

01:49 The Graduate Program and Client Experiences

03:24 Navigating Alienation and Creating Safety

06:51 Building Emotional Resilience

17:59 Establishing Predictability and Managing Stress

25:57 Choosing the Your Support Team(s)

37:11 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

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In episode 129 of 'Beyond the High Road' podcast, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents and those experiencing grief. She reflects on the importance of engaging in hobbies like plant care that cultivate patience and dedication. She emphasizes the power of shifting one's mindset from merely surviving to thriving, even during the grief of alienation. Drawing from personal anecdotes and client experiences, Shelby encourages listeners to actively shape a fulfilling future rather than settling for mediocrity or avoiding pain. She argues that embracing growth and finding deeper meaning in life can ultimately lead to post-traumatic growth and a more enriched life experience. The episode also touches on the biological implications of prolonged isolation and the importance of loving oneself to break out of negative emotional cycles. Shelby concludes with a call to embrace opportunities for joy and not resign to a life of low-grade suffering.

00:00 Introduction and Greetings

00:35 Plant Talk and Personal Reflections

02:48 The Sneaky Mindset of Resignation

07:34 Challenging Limiting Beliefs & Avoiding Pain

09:05 Client Story and Life Lessons

11:57 Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth

16:24 Did Alienation Lead Us To A Deeper Well?

19:37 The Importance of Self-Care

21:33 Negative Feedback Loops & Emotional Unavailibility

33:26 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Trust Your Compass: A Journey to Restore Your Bond For Alienated ParentsIn episode #128 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford shares a recorded Facebook Live session addressing alienated parents seeking to reconnect with their children. Shelby discusses the challenges parents face in reunification and the importance of trusting their instincts amidst professional and societal pressures. Through a case study of a past client, Shelby highlights the struggle with feelings of marginalization, self-doubt, and maintaining a parental role. She offers practical advice on how to engage with children, emphasizing the necessity of maintaining authority while fostering a loving relationship. The episode aims to empower parents by encouraging them to value their role and trust their inner compass during the reunification process.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview01:44 Reconnecting with Your Child: A Client Story03:18 Challenges in Reunification05:10 Parental Authority, Self-Doubt, and Inner Compass08:55 Effective Communication Strategies17:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Building a Leadership Mindset After Parental Alienation

In Episode 127, host Shelby Milford discusses cultivating a leadership mindset in personal life, particularly after experiences of parental alienation. Shelby focuses on feeling lost, the struggles of alienated parents, and the importance of self-leadership. She emphasizes recognizing and honoring personal desires, managing self-talk, dealing with emotions, and investing in personal growth. She also recounts her own experiences with self-doubt and stress and outlines the importance of letting go of past identities to find freedom and become a more effective leader of one's life. Shelby advocates for taking concrete steps to implement learnings from various resources to transform from a reactive to a proactive leader.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:28 Personal Update and Plant Talk

00:41 Leadership Mindset in Personal Life

01:47 Parental Alienation and Leadership

03:15 Challenges in Self-Leadership

05:28 Self-Advocacy and Mental Health

09:00 Taking Accountability and Letting Go

29:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

What To Say When They Ask About Your Kids & The Urge to Commiserate as an Alienated Parent

In episode 126 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford discusses strategies for responding to questions about your kids and dealing with people who want to commiserate over difficult family situations. Shelby combines insights from a previously unreleased video with reflections prompted by a scene from the TV show White Lotus. Listeners will learn a three-step process for succinctly responding to inquiries about their children and setting boundaries to avoid oversharing. Additionally, Shelby provides her thoughts on handling commiserative conversations, emphasizing the importance of practicing responses and focusing on one's own well-being. This episode is particularly valuable for those navigating the challenges of parental alienation and seeking to maintain healthy relationships while preserving their mental health.

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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

02:08 Handling Questions About Your Kids

08:19 Practicing Your Responses

11:27 Dealing with Commiseration

18:07 Understanding Others' Perspectives

20:50 Focusing on Personal Healing

25:30 Setting Boundaries and Moving Forward

31:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Embracing Your Powerful Yes: Self-Advocacy for Alienated Parents

In episode 125 of Beyond the High Road, Shelby Milford delves into the concept of the 'powerful yes.' Shelby emphasizes the importance of saying yes to what genuinely matters and serves one’s self, while also recognizing when to assertively say no. It's crucial for alienated parents, who often find themselves over-committing to others, to reclaim their power and prioritize their own needs and goals. Shelby discusses the habitual nature of people-pleasing, the courage needed to face conflict, and the detrimental effects of always putting others first. This deeply personal and motivational episode encourages listeners to consciously commit to their own well-being and aspirations, advocating for a balanced, intentional approach to life and responsibilities.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:42 The Power of Saying Yes

02:31 Struggles of Alienated Parents

05:00 People Pleasing and Self-Worth

07:44 Avoiding Conflict and Fear of Rejection

09:22 Habits and Overcommitment

15:46 Personal Reflections and Family Dynamics

17:49 Making Empowered Decisions

24:39 Commitment and Decision Making

24:55 The Power of Saying Yes or No

26:02 SIX Questions to Ask Before You Commit

28:33 Understanding the Benefits and Drawbacks

30:30 Considering the "NO"

31:42 Allow for Evolution and Trials

36:40 The Seed Analogy: Nurturing Ideas

40:31 The Importance of Persistence

43:41 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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