Navigating Misunderstandings & Being Denied a Voice

Episode 152 discussed the challenges of feeling misunderstood after parental alienation & offers strategies for coping. Shelby shares a personal story about her daughter turning 18 and the subsequent communication struggles they faced. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, practicing self-awareness, and not being reactive in emotionally charged situations. Shelby also touches upon the importance of self-compassion and respecting the emotional journey of your loved ones. With practical advice drawn from personal experience, this episode aims to provide encouragement and healing for parents dealing with alienation and the emotional challenges that accompany.

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00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:00 Feeling Misunderstood: Personal Experience

01:53 Listener Reviews and Feedback

03:40 Upcoming Announcements

04:26 Navigating Communication with My Daughter

05:07 Reflecting on Past Interactions

07:53 The Emotional Impact of Reaching Out

22:16 Managing Emotional Responses

29:08 Facing Old Fears and Anxieties

30:38 Understanding the Source of Emotions

33:23 Navigating Parental Concerns

36:23 Crafting a Thoughtful Response

41:07 The Power of Perception

50:13 Choosing Your Emotional Response

54:51 Final Reflections and Moving Forward

#ParentalAlienationRecovery #FeelingMisunderstood #ParentChildRelationship #ForcedEstrangement

In episode 151 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford announces the release of volume four of the podcast's highlights & best clips. In the episode, She shares personal experiences, including her journey of healing and self-discovery following the forced estrangement from her daughter. The podcast addresses the importance of defining problems within one's control, embracing hard truths, rejecting self-sabotaging thoughts, and focusing on creating a fulfilling life despite the challenges of parental alienation. While the episode provides effective strategies for overcoming negative emotions & seeking personal growth; maintaining hope and resilience are discussed in-depth, with Shelby encouraging alienated parents to find purpose & cultivate joy in their lives.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Review

01:21 Volume Four Release Announcement

02:46 Confronting Hard Truths

04:04 Defining the Real Problem

07:51 Personal Accountability and Healing

08:49 The Power of Thoughts and Beliefs

11:20 Navigating Alienation and Trauma

12:59 Taking Responsibility and Making a Plan

17:34 The Importance of Self-Validation

30:27 Understanding Approval: It's Not About You

31:26 Reframing Catastrophic Thinking

32:13 Identifying and Owning Your Emotions

34:03 The Illusion of Control and Vulnerability

37:22 Self-Betrayal and Parental Roles

37:57 The Tragic Reality of Parental Alienation

45:08 Breaking Free from Negative Narratives

57:20 Living Intentionally and Finding Purpose

58:46 No Guarantees and Moving Forward

#ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastforAlienatedParents #AlienatedMom

Turn Your Pain into Purpose: Healing after Parental Alienation

In the 150th episode of Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford, a certified life coach specializing in post-traumatic growth, presents a 'best of' compilation featuring motivational segments for listeners dealing with parental alienation. Shelby shares listener reviews and emphasizes the importance of engaging with the podcast community. She reflects on her personal journey through alienation, discussing the emotional complexities, the necessity of managing one's mindset, and finding resilience amid adversity. Shelby encourages listeners to redefine their identities beyond being victimized parents, embrace the contradictions in their feelings, and strive for personal growth and meaningful living despite the challenges. She underscores the importance of taking action, setting goals, and nurturing unconditional love for their children, even from a distance. Shelby concludes with a philosophical perspective on life, pain, and personal evolution.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

01:18 Listener Reviews and Community Engagement

03:37 Personal Reflections and Challenges

06:22 Managing Emotions and Mindset

10:13 Resilience and Personal Growth

14:32 Taking Responsibility and Moving Forward

18:32 Defining Yourself Beyond Alienation

28:53 Setting Goals and Finding Purpose

31:39 Facing Uncomfortable Truths

32:58 The Unconditional Love of a Parent

34:22 Navigating Teenage Years and Parental Love

35:17 The Power of Giving Love

35:53 Conditional Love and Parenting

37:35 Overcoming Feelings of Being Wronged

38:08 Embracing Struggle and Growth

39:13 The Journey of Self-Acceptance

39:55 Redefining Motherhood and Identity

44:33 The Illusion of Separation

46:59 Living Beyond Pain and Alienation

59:25 The Power of Belief and Identity

Understanding Limerence in the Context of Parental Alienation

In episode 149 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the concept of limerence within the context of parental alienation. Shelby explains limerence, describing it as an uncontrollable obsession often influenced by limited or non-reciprocal contact with an object of affection, in this case, one's child. Shelby outlines symptoms, causes, and the interplay of attachment styles, emphasizing the impact of ongoing trauma and loss experienced by alienated parents. She also discusses the parallels between limerence and addiction, noting that addressing underlying emotions and traumas is key to overcoming it. Listeners are encouraged to converse about their personal experiences and consider seeking coaching or counseling as needed.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements

02:47 Understanding Limerence in the Context of Alienation

05:29 Symptoms and Signs of Limerence

16:29 Attachment Styles and Limerence

21:20 The Impact of Limerence on Perception and Reality

24:56 Addressing Limerence and Moving Forward

26:13 Understanding Limerence and Its Effects on the Brain

27:11 Prerequisites and Susceptibility to Limerence

27:51 ADHD and Limerence: The Connection

28:36 Attachment Styles and Limerence

29:35 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Limerence

31:06 Recognizing and Addressing Limerence

33:04 The Impact of Limerence on Relationships

34:35 Breaking Free from Limerence

44:47 The Role of Grief in Overcoming Limerence

48:57 Final Thoughts and Seeking Help

#PARENTALALIENATIONRECOVERY #PODCASTFORALIENATEDPARENTS #ALIENATEDMOM #ALIENATEDFATHER #LIMERENCE #LONGING

Brutal Truths About Parental Alienation

In episode number 148 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford discusses six harsh truths about parental alienation that she wishes she had confronted earlier in her journey. Shelby shares her own experiences dealing with alienation and the insights she has gained over the years. She emphasizes the importance of redefining problems in ways that can be controlled, understanding that no one is coming to save you, avoiding the pitfalls of seeking external validation, and the importance of not letting alienation define your identity. Shelby also cautions against getting trapped in drama and highlights the necessity of accepting the uncertainty of future reconciliation with alienated children. This episode offers valuable advice for parents to find stability, meaning, and happiness despite the challenges of alienation.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Planning

01:10 Six Brutal Truths About Parental Alienation

04:31 Most Alienated Parents Are Stuck on the Wrong Problem

15:14 Nobody is Coming to Save You

19:29 Relentless Efforts on Seeking Justice

32:10 Drama is a Trap

38:02 No Guarantee for Future Reconciliation

40:44 Embracing Painful Truths for Growth45:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

#parentalalienation #podcastforalienatedparents #parentalalienationrecovery

Rediscovering and Integrating Your Authentic Self Post-Alienation

In episode 147 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, hosted by Shelby Milford, the topic of self-abandonment among alienated parents is explored in depth. Explore & understand how alienated parents often separate from their past selves as a defense mechanism, leading to feelings of disconnect and existential crisis. Shelby proposes reintegrating cherished qualities and hobbies from the past to cope with and overcome the challenges of alienation. She emphasizes the need for balance, self-compassion, and small wins, offering practical advice and personal anecdotes to help listeners reconnect with their authentic selves and enhance their overall well-being.

Talking Points:

• Do you feel like your ability to feel joy was stolen the day your children were?
• Severance between who you are and who you were before alienation happened
• Why many alienated parents self-abandon
• Negative effects of severing past self from today
• Why doing so might be keeping you miserable
• How this mindset can keep a wall between you and your children
• How to reconnect with the best parts of you and still honor your children

00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup

00:11 Personal Health Update and Episode Motivation

01:40 Listener Feedback and Encouragement

04:17 Understanding Self-Abandonment

06:59 Rediscovering Your Authentic Self

11:13 Challenges of Severing Your Past Self

17:39 Reconnecting with Your True Self

25:26 Self-Sabotage and Loss of Traits

26:11 Impact of Alienation on Emotions

27:46 Disconnecting from the Old Self

35:42 Reintegrating the Old and New Self

38:30 Practical Steps for Reconnection

47:46 Celebrating Small Wins and Consistency

49:33 Final Thoughts on Reincorporating Good Qualities

#ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastForAlienatedParents #selfabandonment

Navigating Personal Loss and Understanding Self-Pity vs. Self-Compassion

In this episode of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford opens up about the impact of dealing with a series of unfortunate events and the broader implications of experiences on our mental health. She transitions to explore the profound difference between self-pity and self-compassion as it relates to parental alienation. Drawing from her own experiences, she explains how self-pity can trap us in a cycle of hopelessness and isolation, whereas self-compassion provides a path toward healing and resilience. Through personal anecdotes and reflective insights, she encourages listeners to recognize and embrace their pain as part of the human experience, ultimately advocating for a shift from self-pity to self-compassion.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

00:26 Dealing with Pet Loss

03:45 Self-Pity vs. Self-Compassion

12:00 Choosing Self-Compassion

21:37 The Impact of Self-Pity

26:11 The Dangers of Repeating Trauma

28:27 Understanding Self-Pity

28:49 Embracing Self-Compassion

32:47 The Impact of Self-Pity on Mental Health

38:17 Moving from Self-Pity to Self-Compassion

43:48 The Value of Suffering and Connection

47:51 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Becoming Your Own Fountain of Resources

Come listen to Shelby's personal and heartwarming story about rescuing an orphaned duckling, Buck, using it to illustrate valuable lessons on resilience, self-reliance, and overcoming obstacles following parental alienation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts, especially when external help is not forthcoming, and relates this to the experiences of alienated parents. She discusses how friction and challenges are necessary for growth and call for adaptive, creative problem-solving. Shelby also touches on how external judgment and perceived lack of support can be distractions that hinder progress. By drawing from her recent experiences and reflections, Shelby offers practical advice on staying focused and resilient in the face of adversity.
00:00 Introduction and

Episode Overview00:30

Personal Updates and Recent Events

02:39 Texas Flooding and Community Impact

04:53 The Duckling Dilemma

07:23 Challenges in Finding Help

11:43 Confrontation, Judgement, and Scrutiny

16:16 Realizations and Taking Action

22:49 Success in Reuniting the Duck

28:36 Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts

37:39 Conclusion and Farewell

#ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastForAlienatedParents #AlienatedMom

In episode 144, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents, focusing on the tendencies to desensitize and emotionally withdraw from their parenting roles. She shares personal experiences and observations on how coping mechanisms like masking emotions, disengaging from the parental role, and withdrawing socially can affect both the parent and the child. Shelby emphasizes the importance of resilience, processing emotions, and maintaining a connection with one's children to foster healing and potentially restore relationships in the future. Practical advice and insights on self-awareness, adaptive coping strategies, and the impact of emotional numbing are provided to help parents navigate their struggles.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:14 Understanding Emotional Desensitization

01:25 Personal Experiences with Desensitization

02:18 Common Coping Mechanisms

07:24 Recognizing Desensitization in Yourself

19:21 Differentiating Resilience from Desensitization

22:20 Coping Strategies and Their Impact

25:58 The Cycle of Numbing and Groundhog Day

26:20 Empathy and Connection in Resilience

27:30 Impact of Desensitization on Relationships

28:44 Maintaining Meaningful Relationships

29:54 Self-Awareness and Emotional Processing

31:49 The Role of Goals in Resilience

33:23 Welcoming All Emotions

36:30 Effects of Desensitizing on Parent-Child Relationships

41:40 Avoidance and Its Consequences

44:21 Personal Reflections and Final Thoughts

48:00 4th of July and Fireworks

#parentalalienationrecovery #podcastforalienatedparents

Turning Negativity into Empowerment:

Strategies for Alienated ParentsIn episode 143 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford shares a heartfelt and insightful discussion about dealing with negativity, particularly meant for alienated parents. Shelby begins by sharing a personal story about finding a duckling and the challenges of unexpected situations. She then delves into the pervasive negativity that alienated parents often face, discussing how it stems from survival mode and past traumas. Shelby offers practical exercises to shift from a negative to a positive mindset, including evaluating daily events objectively and rewriting personal narratives. Through these methods, she aims to help parents break free from the cycle of negativity, enabling them to lead more joyful and productive lives.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Teaser

00:09 Unexpected Duckling Encounter

02:33 Dealing with Negativity

06:24 Client's Story and Negativity Bias

13:26 Changing Your Narrative

16:41 Story Writing Exercise

19:44 Personal Example of Overcoming Negativity

21:57 Aggressive Confrontation and Arrest

23:46 Reflecting on the Incident

26:48 Reprogramming Your Mindset

27:41 Daily Reflection Exercise

29:11 Challenging Negative Thoughts

31:54 Adopting Positive Perspectives37:41 Breaking Free from Victimhood41:34 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

#ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastForAlienatedParents