Feral Cycle Breakers

Feral Cycle Breakers

By Valerie SchraderSociety & Culture
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Feral Cycle Breakers episodes

  • Why do we feel so guilty sticking up for ourselves?!
    Check out Reclaiming Me: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader
    It's not uncommon to feel tons if guilt sticking up for ourselves. At least not for those of us that are used to being daylight, manipulated, and dismissed.
    But why do we do this and what do we need to do to stop?!
    Listen to this week's episode to understand why and what we need to do to ease the guilt and stick up for ourselves!
    26 min
  • You're not broken!
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    I yelled at a new client recently for saying they're broken.
    I reminded them that no one needs to put them back together.
    No one needs to fix them.
    And there's nothing so irreparable about them that they're a lost cause.
    Like my client, so many of us see the messages that because of the shit we've been through we're broken and this one person can help put you back together again.
    I F$&%ing hate when I see coaches & therapists put out messages like this!
    It's a power play meant to prey on someone's insecurities and so incredibly wrong.
    My dad always said duct tape could patch anything (in case it weren't obvious that I'm Gen X that should clarify things 🤣).
    We're not broken, we just need a little figurative duct tape to help patch up the emotional wounds we're carrying.
    That way they don't get bigger and harder to patch.
    We can always get patched up and the cool thing is we already have the duct tape to do it.
    Sometimes we need the help of a therapist, coach, friends, partner, or community to do the patching.
    But we know how to do it and no matter how fancy someone else's duct tape looks it's all duct tape.
    The thing to look for is someone that'll help support you in using your own duct tape that understands you're not broken, you just need help patching up!
    28 min
  • How Needing Approval has Shown up for Me!
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    We’re diving into to some of my current work around my wounds of needing approval and let me tell you…it’s a doozy! Listen in now and see if you relate!
    54 min
  • Welcome to the Wild Witches Podcast!

    A podcast for women and vulva owners ready to create success with confidence, clarity, ease, and well-being. Join us as we explore healing through somatic experiencing, embodiment, and reconnecting to your wildest self.

    We delve into the depths of mother, sisterhood, and witch wounds, unpack patriarchal conditioning, explore body image and neurodivergence, and discuss the intricacies of relationships and running a business. Through the lenses of somatic experiencing, embodiment, and nature connection, each episode offers insights, practices, and conversations designed to help you heal and thrive.

    Ready to work with me?


    Check out my website:

    Somatic Embodiment Coaching | Empowerment for Women & Vulva Owners (valerieschrader.com)

    1 min
  • Asking your partner for what you want!
    Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower
    Communicating in a calm, confident way is so hard when you've got all the little inner child parts reminding you of every rejection.
    Taking a little time to prep yourself and relax your body can make all the difference though!
    Try these tips and if you wanna work on all the fear and anxiety popping up around 🌶️ time and your relationship join Unleashed!
    It's 6 weeks of guiding you into feeling more confident to create deeper intimacy, stronger relationships, and have way hotter 🌶️ time.
    That means if you're:
    💗Struggling to O
    💗Tensing to O
    💗Having a hard time relaxing in bed
    💗Feeling anxious to open up
    💗Scared to ask for what you want/desire/need
    We've got you!
    Our first Q & A call is May 23rd.
    Check it out and join now!
    38 min
  • Is body shame messing with spicy time?
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    I had a pretty major injury that caused me to put on over 50lbs and my belly showed a lot of it.
    I felt so insecure that I wasn't letting my belly be touched, I was trying to remain clothed, avoiding certain positions.
    It made everything suck and I wasn't really enjoying spicy time anymore!
    Addressing the shame and judgment I felt not only erased all those issues a few other things happened:
    I challenged everything I'd been taught about my body and fell in love with it!
    l love my body more than I did during all my years working as an aerialist and pole dancer.
    I developed better exercise habits and do because it feels good.
    I addressed emotional eating and worked on feeling more love within.
    I enjoy spicy time way more because I'm in the moment.
    I dress differently and wear brighter colors vs the all-black lused to!
    I feel so much better about myself and again, spicy time is wav more fun than it's ever been!
    48 min
  • Why you're still triggered in the healthy relationship!
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    It's completely normal to feel more anxious about performing when you finally have a healthy, safe relationship.
    You're not used to getting what you want yet.
    Even when you understand all the relationship trauma your body still isn't adapted to allowing relaxation.
    We have to help it adapt!
    The 2 most important things you can do are:
    1. Create an integration & resourcing process to help the brain squirrels relax.
    2. Either role play or do some other embodiment work to help your body feel good receiving & relaxing!
    Both things will calm the anxiety & make it easier for you to be yourself, enjoy spicy time, express your desires, & help your partner meet your needs!
    If that's something you want support on check out Unleashed in the normal spot 😉
    39 min
  • This may be why you’re tensing or faking it
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    Yesterday @strawberrysmutcakes and I were filming a module for Unleashed & she brought up wanting to discuss a particular issue that she’s never experienced.
    We both grew up with narc moms & have dealt with A LOT of spicy time shame & relationship issues as a result.
    However, I’m the one that wasn’t able to have an
    O till I was 29.
    Yep, the woman who was a former SWer, sensual movement teacher, and seemed so adventurous hadn’t ever had one!
    Every bit of my worth, happiness & decision-making had been determined by my mom.
    So when I began dating & having sex with partners I thought they would be in charge of making me enjoy it!
    I would never say no, never tell them if something didn’t feel good & then I’d never feel like I was fully in my body.
    I would then go so far into my head as I was being encouraged to come that I’d just fake it.
    At 29 I got my first vibe and finally, it happened but for it to happen I had to tense my whole body.
    I mean my whole body because that was the only way to stop me from checking out.
    I spent years doing that and the few times I had Os with partners I had to tense and force it for it to happen.
    I had no idea that I was just causing more harm to myself because everything was forced and without understanding what I wanted or needed.
    At first not much happened.
    I could barely touch myself without hearing this internal voice scream “NO”!!!
    I went slow and explored my body and pleasure in little bits.
    I built back to trust and then one magical day it happened...
    Not only did my body want pleasure again but I was able to totally relax into it!
    Instead of this short little rush that quickly ended, it felt like a tsunami and like my soul was cracked open.
    I didn’t even know I could experience that!
    I’m sharing this because I’m not alone in this and maybe I won’t change your life although I feel like it did mine.
    But what comes about from exploring totally relaxed and consensual pleasure because you’ve truly connected to your body and self will.
    48 min
  • What does emotional availability look like?
    Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower
    What does it mean to you to be emotionally available? How do you settle in your relationships because you fear being emotionally vulnerable? Why do you choose partners who aren’t emotionally available or cut yourself off from being open emotionally? Listen in now as we dive into this!
    36 min
  • Do you reject softness as a trauma response?
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    When we grow without emotional and physical softness and affection we tend to reject it later on. Why do we do this and how can we stop doing it? Listen in to find out!
    40 min

About Feral Cycle Breakers

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This is a podcast for feral feminists and cycle breakers who are shaking off the weight of trauma and embracing their villain era while healing out loud. Here, we talk about the real, gritty stuff, like deconstructing from societal beliefs, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, relationship and attachment issues, childhood and generational trauma, and navigating who you really are underneath it all.