Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

If you feel like everything you do is just leading you into more desperation and farther away from yourself….If you're filling your life with to-do's that isn't even you and using that inner mean girl to try to shame yourself into doing it…If you're making certain fertility choices because you think you're SUPPOSED to and not because you fucking want to…Then listen to todays podcast.I interviewed two of my Fertility Mind-Body Mastery graduates Ashley and Amber — on how they got pregnant by doing LESS not more.This interview has the potential to completely change the way you think about fertility and what it REALLY takes to change your life. It might be hard for you to believe this right now…But YOU HAVE OPTIONS on your fertility. There are 1000's of different paths you can take to your baby. Why would you choose one that you despise? Learn how to choose the one where you get to do less to become MORE fertile. Listen now.

When Kaitlin reached out to me, her identity was primarily her diagnosis. Her current health status -- according to many doctors and practitioner's -- had dominance over her life decisions, but mainly dominance over her thoughts and what she believed was possible for her. "I need to heal my diagnosis before I get pregnant." made her feel ashamed of her body, isolated (even from the TTC world), and a slave to all the rules she believed she needed to follow in order to heal and finally get pregnant. When she reached out, she said to me, "Spenser, I've worked with mind-body coaches before. Do you still think you can help me?"And I remember saying, thinking, feeling: "Fuck yes I can." Simply because, my approach to *healing* is so different than our cultures – no matter what the diagnosis. So she signed up for my program. And I feel like for the first couple of months I just kept unfucking all the thoughts her brain had believed about who she thought her mind and her body needed to be, in order to get pregnant. (we go into detail about these thoughts on the podcast) At first, she was confused. Eventually, she got it. It sunk in. She embodied the fertile magic. She's now pregnant. Listen now to how she created this miracle despite past failed IVF cycles, an "unhealed" diagnosis and a whole fuck-ton of self-love.

This week's podcast is a demonstration on how I don't always call the shots in my fertility business. I've learned to listen to what fertility wants me to explore and communicate to you. And TBH I wasn't exactly down for this podcast… but once I sat with it and explored it myself. it made total sense in my mind and body. So many of my clients ALL OF MY CLIENTS + MYSELF deal with feelings of hopelessness in our lives. It's part of a worthy pursuit of getting to this point of, "Fuck. I don't know if I can do this anymore." It's normal. It's healthy. Most of all, it's purposeful. So if you're feeling hopeless – after everything you've been through on this long fertility journey – please listen to this week's podcast. I'm not gonna tell you to smile through your tears and "be positive." I'm actually gonna create the safety for you to feel it and WHY this is sooo important for your mind-body health. Listen now!

Before joining Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, Julie was doing ALL of the things to get pregnant. She was focused solely on the physical aspects of fertility. Including (but not limited to) a glass of celery juice every morning — as per her acupuncturists suggestion — that made her want to barf her brains out. But she was willing to do anything she could to make her baby. After some time, her AND her husband realized that they were a shell of who they used to be. IE, they both love football. So they would either go to parties and feel ashamed and guilty. Or not go and feel BORED and guilty. They were damned if they did and damned if they didn't.Ever been in this spot? Where… no matter WHAT, your decision is never enough? This is why Julie joined my program. Pregnant or not, she wanted her and her life back. A few months in, she became pregnant with FMBM's FIRST set of twins and is now 22 weeks pregnant! So in this weeks podcast, I interview this amazing woman who is willing to share her story with you and everything she learned to transform her fertility from the inside out. You're gonna learn: The very valid fears she has around joining my program. Why the over-focus on the physical may be a distraction from what matters. What the process of actually letting go and surrendering looks like in real life and why you might be PLEASANTLY surprised to learn this! The easiest way to heal your shame. Listen now!

Like so many of the women I work with, Ashley has a huge heart. Not only is she lovely, but she cares and does so much for others. And like so many women, this highly acknowledged "good girl" behavior as a child, can easily become shaped into a people pleasing put-everyone-else-before-you mentality as an adult. At the core, people pleasing is looking outside of yourself for worth. Needing other people to be happy and appeased in order for you to be happy. A LOT of pressure on the mind-body. Also… not controllable. This poses a unique challenge when on the fertility journey, as it's so important to your mind-body health to discover your internal worth as a woman -- beyond your reproductive journey -- and to learn how to care deeply for yourself. Ashley says, "In order to be happy, I thought I had to struggle, work hard and sacrifice myself in order to get what I want." She thought people-pleasing and being agreeable is what she thought made her valuable in our culture. That is…until she joined my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery! If you're a self-proclaimed people-pleaser, you're not gonna want to miss this week's Fertile Ground Podcast where I interview Ashley. You're gonna learn how she gave herself permission to: use her voice. have desires. feel her feelings. not shame herself for having ALL the feelings. Listen now!

If you get your hopes up and super confident that "this is going to be the month" and it doesn't happen… Then what? Here's the million-dollar question AND answer… What do you make it mean after a failure – after a failed treatment or you get your period? I didn't do enough. I'm lazy. I must not want it that bad. More googling/research and physical changes. Somethings wrong with me. All this outside shit/changes SEEM logical. BUT is it WORKING to respond this way? (A serious question you have to ask yourself.) The missing key from an energetic perspective… is learning how to build energetic momentum towards it happening…towards possibility… ****without making a failure mean that you're wrong/failing which makes you feel like you're knocked back down to square 1 again****

And I KNOW it's so counter-intuitive and counter-cultural to build belief from a failure. I get that. I get how different it feels to believe in the intangible energy of fertility. So I recorded a quick 12-minute podcast to get the momentum GOING! Listen now! My goal is to start re-wiring your mind and body to BELIEVE in more than what meets the eye. MORE than the tangible. MORE than your past. You don't have to wait for physical results to stop fighting and shaming yourself to "do better." There is another way. And responding differently to all of your preconceived "failures" may actually be the magic needed to make that beautiful baby. Listen to this weeks pep-talk to get the fertile energy FLOWING!

Laura joined FMBM after 2 miscarriages resulting from IVF. She was beside herself, lonely, so frustrated and confused about next steps.She joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery not to necessarily get pregnant – but to do something for herself for the first time on her fertility journey. She had lost herself, lost her way and the over-focus on perfecting the journey had left her mentally, physically exhausted. Get this: Laura proceeded with another IVF cycle in the program which made zero embryos. She was understandably crushed and was suggested to try a donor. A couple months later and with the help, support and guidance of Fertility Mind-Body Mastery… she got pregnant naturally. How? Why? Wtf? Want to hear all the details of what's possible for YOU? Listen to this week's podcast!

It feels crazy to announce to that I'm halfway through my pregnancy with baby #2! The fertility journey is one wild ride. So many ups and downs. So many unknowns and uncertainties. So many what-the-fuck-is-happenings. The irony is that the more I surrender to this truth – that fertility cannot be tamed, and my only job is to let her be wild, misunderstood and often confusingggg -- the more connected with her I feel. The more free and safe I feel to live my own life. The more fertile I feel. My son Beck took 8 years to conceive, while the baby I'm pregnant with took no time at all. Because of this, the journey to baby #2 was VERY different than baby #1. BUT AT THE SAME TIME, it was exactly the same. Confusing? It will make sense in this week's podcast. You've allowed me into your journey just by following me/signing up for my emails/being a part of my programs – so I decided to share my personal story with you. My intention is that through my story, you learn more about your own VERY PRESENT AND ALIVE relationship with fertility. You begin to understand fertility's purpose, her qualities and her beautiful essence. Because the truth is, the relationship begins before baby. You don't need to get pregnant to invite her in. She's alive and inside of you, as soon as you decide. Listen now!

Has anyone ever called you: too sensitive, too emotional, too anxious, easily triggered? Do you have gut issues/IBS/stomach aches that flare-up when you're nervous system gets activated? Do you wish you could just be like "normal people"… be more "easy going" and not care so much? Do you worry this could be affecting your fertility? Me too. I was/still am a yes to all of the above. ANDDDD some. I have a highly sensitive nervous system. Now just because you have a highly sensitive nervous system, does NOT mean there's anything wrong with you. This is NOT why you're not pregnant yet. However… if we don't learn about how our mind and bodies work and how to nurture the way we naturally are, we tend to shame ourselves for not being more normal. Which can lead to a mind-body disconnect re: fertility. So in this weeks podcast, I'm gonna help you get VERY clear on: -how your nervous system works -let go of the guilt and shame you have surrounding it and -learn how to love and embrace the way you (WE) are. Because to me, we are truly what's RIGHT with the world and are actual perfect baby makers. We just gotta learn how to appreciate, tend-to and nurture this very special part of ourselves.

Have you ever read an inspiring book that you completely fell in love with, and you were like, "Omg this has changed my life!" but then a month after you close the last page – you're right back to feeling like you did before reading it? What happened? Why the fizzle? How do you make the transformation last? There are two important components to transformation. 1.Theory = The knowledge. 2.Application = How do you APPLY this knowledge into everyday situations. Application is what's often missing. It's what keeps the momentum going. It's what teaches you HOW to apply what you've learned into your TTC journey. This may be the missing piece to really applying everything you've learned to create a mind-body transformation. To clear this up and help you spot what could be a GAME changer, I recorded a podcast on: The biggest missing piece to mindset work. Cause listen, you've put in lots of hard work trying to manage your mind and get your body ready for baby. I don't want you to miss this important and exciting step. Listen now!