Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

• Where shoulding comes from.
• How to reframe this constant nagging of not enoughness.
• And simple steps you can take today to give yourself more compassion and in turn, increase fertility.

1. Alleviate all the self-judgment you have around being "too controlling"

2. Offer a new solution when things really do start feeling too out-of-control and you need to feel like you have a handle on your life and fertility journey.

3. Introduce a reframe around this topic of women being "too much." Maybe this label of "too controlling" is more shit the patriarchy pours on us to keep us people pleasing as opposed to asking for what we really want?

"Wholeness" is so arbitrary.

What does it even mean… to achieve this state? To feel "whole" and complete and worthy of your baby?

• Horribly uncomfortable. So much uncertainty.

• So much vulnerability it required. I could have said no to avoid the feelings it evoked. But I've learned to listen to the whispers of my body and spirit.

• The words poured out of me.

• Ended up being Hawaiian sacred land that healed me.
• My heart bursted with gratitude.

• Completely restored my nervous system.

• Slow things wayyyy down.

• Do things differently: Social media/Simplifying/Space to create the things I love.

1. The fertility journey has so much shame stigma in our culture. The majority of our suffering and disconnection, stems from shame.
2. No one understands what the journey is like unless they've been through it. Finding people who get it, is like finding water in a desert when you're dying of thirst.
3. A lot of the reason why we want a baby is to belong, but all we tend to do is isolate ourselves (because of shame). This self-fulling prophecy is finally kiboshed inside of the program.

Of course, if you could choose, you would prefer to let go of the tightness, the *need* and the rush to have a baby. But there may be a subconscious part of you that believes that you need the stress, to make changes. That you need the stress to create change. And without it, you'd sit in bed with a bag of doritos and do nothing. Maybe you don't yet believe that change can be created through things like joy, rest, slowness, pleasure and ease. Which like, if you haven't created something from this place before and have only created from hustle, that makes fucking sense. But if hustle isn't working, maybe the answer isn't to hustle HARDER, but to try a fresh, new approach. And because you haven't taken a gentler approach before, this requires a leap of faith. A willingness to try something new….I know you've tried A LOT on the fertility journey, but this particular kind of approach actually feels counter-intuitive at first. This is normal if it feels… odd. Gentleness, softness and slowness is not what we're taught. To help this new vibration land inside of your body, I recorded a podcast about a conversation I had with a client. She's shifted the need to have a baby, to a want. And it's freaking her out. So you're gonna hear what I did to coach her through it.

Today I'm interviewing a Fertility Mind-Body Mastery alumni and I can't wait to get her story out in the world! Tammy's journey is fascinating. While being in my program Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, she experienced both tragedy and miracles. And we were with her through all the ups and downs and twists and turns that she went on. She's been kind enough to share her vulnerable story with us in today's Fertile Ground podcast. In her time in the program, she went through 2 failed IVF cycles that yielded many eggs but no embryos. She experienced tremendous loss in her fertility journey, and also lost her step-son to a hit and run drunk driver. So incredibly sad. Although she is still grieving today, she is doing it in a way that allows for herself to feel how she feels, without judgment and without shame. She eventually…after everything she had been through and after being told her next step would be donor eggs… she went on to get pregnant naturally. At almost 40 years old. Her journey makes no logical sense. Which is beautiful and confusing to our analytical mind. But it is packed with the fullness of life and compassion for her humanity, as she shed the layers of perfectionism and started to embrace her real, authentic, sometimes anxious, imperfect self. You're gonna learn: What happens when you stop trying to do it all. The difference between intrinsic worth versus. achievement-based worth. What it means to expand your capacity for uncertainty. How she makes sense of her journey. Listen now!