Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

I watched the Super Bowl with my family a couple weekends ago and I noticed that the members of my family that were cheering for San Francisco (Not Taylor Swift's BF's team) had to go on and on about how much air time Taylor got and how she was annoyingly interacting with her friends. (HOW DARE SHE?!)

Me, my mom and my husband were cheering for Kansas City. So we were loving watching her celebrate and enjoy herself. She was acting like a completely normal human being watching someone they love play an important football game.

What the members of my family have is called a: Confirmation Bias.

Which means, human brains actively search for evidence to validate their current beliefs.

IE, "I want Kansas City to lose = Taylor Swift is annoying." Even if she's really not. But our brains and our ego's would rather be right, than see the truth.

A confirmation bias plays out often in the fertility journey and can be a very sneaky, subconscious way to resist the change that brings us closer to our babies.

FOR EXAMPLE:

Let's say you have the super common perfectionist belief that: "I'm not doing enough to get pregnant."

Despite this belief, you start making small changes in your life to improve your mental and physical health. You're more present, you have more energy, you're more connected with your partner, and you've even started going on daily walks. You feel sooo good and at peace. But then… you get your period. Even though you have evidence in your mind and body that you've never felt better and you're making so much progress, your locked in confirmation bias of "I'm not doing enough." kicks into full gear. And you fall back to square 1.

The confirmation bias belief is what actually runs the show. Because it will always look for evidence to be RIGHT, instead of letting go of the ego, and entering into the uncertain territory of pregnancy.

This is SO IMPORTANT to become aware of, so I recorded a podcast on it: Confirmation bias and how it affects fertility.

And I even share ways to change this, in simple, powerful steps. Listen now!

Of course you have a HUGE, valid desire to get pregnant and have a beautiful, healthy baby.

I would even guess that you had goals BEFORE your TTC journey and you will have goals AFTER it. (Believe it or not, this chapter of your life will not last forever. Phew!)

Culturally, we talk a lot about desire. But we haven't been taught to value our capacity to pursue our desires.

Capacity is your body's ability to experience and metabolize sensation.

Depending on the day, your capacity to check things off the 'optimal fertility list' varies. There are environmental, hormonal, seasonal, physical, mental and emotional factors (and many more) that come into play.

Because, well… you're a human and NOT a robot. Yet, we're still conditioned to pressure and push our bodies to perform at peak performance. And if not, we feel ashamed.

Mama bear, there is another way.

An alternative: To honor BOTH desire and capacity. And to get to where you wanna go, faster.

Desire is of the mind. Capacity is of the body. A strong mind-body connection takes into account both. Which is so freaking ideal for fertility.

I recorded a podcast on this topic because learning about your capacity is one of the clearest ways to depict and more importantly integrate… a mind AND body connection. (That is proven to increase your fertility by up to 55%.)

My job is finding more simple ways to make sense of the fertility journey for you. And this podcast paints the picture beautifully.

Listen now!

It will be especially important for you, if you're feeling burnt out, exhausted and unable to rest.

I think many women (myself included) have had this perfectionist fantasy that you'll someday have this AHA moment and you'll be like… "Omg. Yes! This is HOW I'm going to conceive my baby!"

…But it doesn't come.

I certainly did not have this level of certainty as to HOW it was going to happen.

Neither do my clients. Yet, we've found a way to let go of the "how drama."

Because you are not meant to know exactly HOW your baby is going to come.

The "how drama" is exactly what keeps you distracted from doing the basic work that teaches you to:

- Know your worth… regardless of pregnancy status.

- Take incredible care of your mind and body.

- Take action that feels much more like a curious experiment (instead of a life or death situation.)

- Be present on the ride of your life.

(Plus - the reality is that there are 1000's of different paths to your baby. Trying to narrow it down to just one is like squeezing all the juice out of the possibility that's available to you.)

The HOW is not important. Once you realize this, you're getting so much closer to your baby.

Listen to this week's podcast to let go of the HOW drama and build serious clarity towards your right next step

Are you super self-aware? Like, you've learned what you like about yourself and you've learned what you don't like — but still feel so stuck and can't seem to change?

Rewind back a few years and this was so me. So self-aware yet so stuck.

This is a frustrating place to be on the fertility journey. Because I would see people who were so unaware, so unreflective, so inconsiderate… get pregnant easily. And it didn't make sense why I was still struggling with all the awareness I had of myself, my body and my life.

Here's the truth: You have a huge heart. You're self-aware and you've got a lot of love and a lot of integrity. But awareness clearly isn't enough. You need to learn how to harness this awareness, this love and this intelligence in a way that offers you grace in the journey of self-discovery — in a WORLD constantly telling you that you're falling short.

Cue the missing piece of this "awareness equation."

How do you RESPOND to what you learn about yourself? This is what we're talking about on this weeks podcast: Are you self-aware but still so stuck?

When you learn something new about yourself, do you respond with:

Shameful Self-Awareness? IE. "Oh wow. Now it all makes sense. What a terrible quality to have. Why am I so awful? This is why you're not pregnant yet. Get your shit together already. I knew something was wrong with me."

Or

Compassionate Self-Awareness? IE. "Oh wow. Now it makes sense. I'm sad to know that I've been living this way. But I'm also feeling okay to offer myself understanding while I navigate this difficult thing – that's not fully in my control. I'm okay to feel how I feel. I'm not wrong. I'm human."

Beyond aiding your emotional well-being, studies show that self-compassionate awareness is way more conducive to creating change, but also has a huge impact on your physical health—lower stress levels, improved immune function, better health behaviors, and even reduced inflammation related to auto-immune disorders.

It's a win-win. Spark a new relationship with yourself and improve your fertility along the way.

Listen now!

I'm over the moon to share with you my interview with my remarkable client Sumathi.

She's TTC, she's a physician AND she's deeply spiritual.

It's the most refreshing conversation for any woman trying to conceive, because we deep dive into the topic of bridging the gap between the obsession over the physical body and the spiritual magic and mystery that exists on the journey to your baby that you just can't deny.

Sometimes in our culture, it can feel delusional to explore that spiritual-like gut feeling that you have, that you will one day become a mother. Listening to this conversation, you're going to find comfort and safety to both: Explore and Trust this undeniable aspect on the fertility journey.

In this weeks podcast: How to bridge the gap between the physical + the spiritual while TTC, you're gonna learn how to:

• Establish a connection to your spirit (and the spirit of your baby.)
• Give yourself permission to explore a path to your journey that actually feels good, comforting and safe.
• Take the tiniest, smallest step to creating a spiritual foundation on your fertility journey.
• Overcome the regrets you might have gathered while TTC. (IE. "I should have tried sooner. I wish I'd done things differently.")

• How spirituality actually supports your physical body and nervous system.

My greatest wish for you is to receive so much healing just by listening.

It's so very, very powerful.

Listen now!

Remember the dating world? What would you do with someone you really liked, but then they called you 5 times the next day and you noticed that they liked the last 20 pictures you posted on instagram?

OR

What would you do after walking into a store you adore but then became followed by a pushy sales person trying to convince you get something you didn't even like?

Anyone and everyone would run in the other direction. Because when people are trying to find their sense of self-worth in us, we are naturally turned off by it.

And we are incredibly attracted, even pulled towards — without conscious thought — to a person, place or thing who doesn't need us in order to be okay. This kind of confidence is soooo damn attractive. And even, magnetic.

The same rule of thumb applies to your TTC journey. Which is why I wanna introduce today's podcast: Attraction vs. Chase

I'm gonna teach you how to attract, pull towards YOU and receive (not even create, but RECEIVE) the life, the HOW, the joy that is meant for you (baby included) inside of this week's podcast.

Picture this: a fulfilling life, beyond your fertility journey. Despite not being pregnant yet, you have never felt more at home with yourself. You show up to family events like a boss. Not because there's no drama, but because you DGAF about the drama anymore. You're killing it in your career. Your marriage is sexy as hell. Your connection to spirit is as strong as steel. Life isn't perfect, but you've never felt more comfortable in your own skin — even if you're not pregnant yet. And this all came about, mostly from who you decided to become, not because you decided to "do more." The baby becomes a cherry on top.

This is the dream. This is the life. This is what I'm gonna teach you in this week's podcast.

Listen now!

It was about 4:30pm and I decided to go for a freezing cold walk to move the energy that gathered up inside me through the day.

In Edmonton, Alberta Canada where I live, it actually begins to get dark at this time of day. And it was a weekish before Christmas so the neighborhood decor was starting to light up. Kinda perfect.

On this very normal, very unsexy, very "so what, it's just a walk" kinda exercise, it made me realize that some of life's most simple to-do's, are the most effective for physical and mental health. But we undervalue them because we don't feel worthy of what we want when life feels easy.

So I decided to pull out my phone on this walk and record a podcast on: The 3 most unconventional ways to increase fertility that you will not find on google.

Because speaking from experience, these 3 ways are what finally moved the needle towards happiness + baby. I guarantee that you will not find them on that "get pregnant fast" fertility forum. (And I promise, diet is NOT one of them.)

Perhaps this is a year of simplicity for you. Maybe you are choosing ease on the journey to your baby and are tired of how hard things have been. If so, have a listen here. It's short, sweet and easy. Maybe that's what the spirit of your baby is wishing for you <3

Sarah says, "I came into the program with this story. This heavy story of someone who's failed. I completely closed my heart off to what's possible so that I didn't have to open my heart up to more loss." – and omg I don't know about you… but I could totally relate to that statement.

Before the program, Sarah thought she was feeling things. She thought she was present. She was meditating/journaling and doing the things. But she realized that so many perfectionism tendencies were diluting the medicinal properties of everything she was doing.

She expected fireworks after her meditations. And if it wasn't happening, it wasn't enough. Which is exactly the voice of perfectionism and is such a distraction from change. This was something she needed to work on, for her efforts to take full effect.

What you'll learn on today's podcast is that Sarah is not pregnant yet — but she's realized that pregnancy is not her #1 goal.

"So much wisdom has been uncovered in the process of this program. And if I'm gonna be a mother, I want to impart everything that I'm currently learning onto my future child." She says.

She's gained this incredibly compassionate perspective of everything that she's been through on her fertility journey. She learned that she is NOT a failure, but that she is "dedicated as fuck" to herself, her joy and of course, her baby. And she can't wait to teach this to her future child.

You wanna hear what it's like to have this type of kind perspective to yourself while TTC? Listen now!

I interview my client Kristen on today's Fertile Ground podcast and you just GOTTA listen to her story! When Kristin joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, her brain was so loud that she couldn't even hear herself think. She was filled with anger. At herself. At her fertility journey. She was mad at the world for not having her baby easily and as fast as everyone else she knew. She had so many thoughts about what she "should" do to get pregnant and had so many feelings that she didn't let herself feel. Her main vibe before joining was "just keep pushing through." She decided to invest in herself and join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery to #1: Not feel so angry and finally feel some relief. And 2. To truly connect with herself to learn her own "right" path to her baby. In the podcast, she talks about:

• all the sneaky ways your monkey mind tries to stop you from giving yourself what you need.
• what does it mean to "connect with yourself." What does this look like in real life and what's the benefit?
• why you don't need to have crazy high and positive belief that baby is coming. She tells you what to do instead…

She is now 23 weeks pregnant and got pregnant half way through her time inside the program!

Have you heard that Tony Robbins' quote: "Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades."?

Here's my version, tailored for you, the strong and determined woman on the path to motherhood:

Most women TTC overestimate what they can do in 1 or 2 months, and underestimate what they can do in 1 year.

If you're a sensitive visionary who can almost taste the vision for your baby-filled life during meditations, you know the feeling. You have this gorgeous vision – whether it's your journey to your baby or a career aspiration – but when things don't go exactly as planned OR happen overnight, the temptation to give up is real.

It's easy to lose all hope and momentum, especially if you're a perfectionist.

But what if a failure isn't what's really happening behind the scenes?

What if it's all just starting to come together, but you can't see it physically yet?

… And that gifting your dream of finally getting pregnant time and SPACE could be your greatest ally? Not involuntary time and space. VOLUNTARY. And that doing this will make time feel shorter, NOT longer.

In the latest Fertile Ground podcast episode: How a year can change your life AND fertility journey – I explore how embracing these factors can transform your journey and make it so much easier for your dream to land here physically. You'll learn about:

The power of giving your desire space: How space provides clarity and actually reduces the pressure to conceive ASAP. The art of adaptation: Why space is essential for nurturing your desires AND overall well-being. Space and resilience: How it helps you find balance, form meaningful connections, and celebrate all the progress you make along the way. (It's happening, even if you don't see it yet).

December is fast approaching and it can be a tough time for couples TTC. I want you to know that A LOT can happen in a year, especially with the right attunement to your mind-body and a loving commitment to create space for your desire to be a mama.