In this deeply insightful episode, Ed welcomes the brilliant Dr. Megan McCoy—professor at Kansas State University and a pioneering voice in the field of financial therapy. With warmth, humility, and her signature sense of humor, Megan opens up about the complexities of receiving praise, navigating imposter syndrome, and how shifting socioeconomic status shapes our relationship with money. Together, Ed and Megan explore the nuanced intersections of gender, money, and identity—unpacking why so many of us feel conflicted about success, wealth, and our roles in relationships. From the emotional weight of accolades to the hidden double binds in household income dynamics, this conversation offers profound takeaways for anyone working to align their financial life with their values and relationships. Whether you're a therapist, financial planner, or someone seeking deeper harmony between love and money, this episode is packed with heartfelt moments, fresh perspectives, and the kind of authenticity that stays with you long after the final word.

Key Takeaways:

• How do imposter syndrome and gender roles shape our ability to accept success and manage money?

• What hidden dynamics impact couples when income, power, and emotional labor are unevenly distributed?

• How can financial professionals and therapists work together to help clients build healthier relationships with money and each other?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Compliments vs. Accolades

(07:00) - The Psychology Behind Spending on Yourself vs. Others

(10:45) - Gender, Income, and the “Too Much Money” Problem

(17:20) - Reframing Couple Conflicts About Money

(21:45) - Rethinking Financial Self-Control

(25:30) - Hiding Wealth

(28:40) - Money Dysmorphia and the Million-Dollar Disconnect

(33:15) - Therapy Meets Financial Planning

(37:00) - You’re Not Broken—You’re Unpacking

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial therapy for couples, Megan McCoy, Gender and financial dynamics, Imposter syndrome and success, Navigating wealth and identity.

Mentions:

Website: https://www.hhs.k-state.edu/pfp/about/people/meganmccoy/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-mccoy-phd?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F 

More of Healthy Love & Money:

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.