Stephanie welcomes Grace Valentine, author and speaker, to explore how to navigate friendships and understand God’s timing when life doesn’t seem to make sense. This conversation will equip every woman navigate friendships better; it will also be a very insightful tool for every man who has a woman in their life whom they wish to understand just a little better 😊. Do not miss the questions that real-life college students Annie, Grace, and Katie have asked Stephanie to ask Grace! Some of the highlights of the conversation include,

God's Timeline and Purpose: It's easy to feel out of sync with God’s timeline, especially when life doesn’t match personal expectations. Grace underscores the importance of trusting God’s bigger picture. God withholds no good thing from those who walk according to His purposes; understanding that His view is far broader than ours invites peace in seasons of waiting and uncertainty. Pursue what God has for you in the present moment, looking for His goodness and purpose therein.

Living Set Apart: To be “set apart” is to align one's life with God’s purpose, which often means not adhering to cultural expectations or norms. Embracing this biblical truth involves trusting in God’s plan, even when it leads away from social acceptance or immediate gratification. It calls for a life marked by holiness and discernment, focusing on eternal significance rather than temporary pleasures.

Dealing with Past Hurts and Rejection: Grace shares her personal experiences of being bullied and not fitting in, even into adulthood. She invites us to address past hurts and rejections by bringing them to Jesus, rather than seeking fake comforts like revenge or outward success. Healing comes from acknowledging these wounds and inviting Jesus into the healing process, which transforms insecurity into strength.

Navigating Jealousy: Addressing jealousy in friendships, whether you're the jealous one or the recipient, requires honest confession and a celebration of others’ successes. Grace advises confessing jealous feelings to friends and committing to celebrate their achievements genuinely. This helps to break down feelings of inadequacy and build stronger, genuine connections.

Understanding Friendship Dynamics: Grace Valentine highlights the importance of recognizing different types of friendships as defined by Aristotle: friends of convenience, pleasure, and goodness. Friends of convenience include neighbors or coworkers with whom you maintain amicable relationships. Friends of pleasure are those you share enjoyable activities with. Friends of goodness are deeper connections that foster mutual growth and support. It’s crucial to discern these dynamics, as it aids in cultivating meaningful relationships that align with shared values and support spiritual growth.

Practical Application and Community Building: Grace stresses the importance of actively engaging in community building, especially when feeling isolated. This involves initiating relationships and activities that foster deeper connections. For example, regularly planning intentional gatherings, serving others, and being a beacon of Christ’s love, all cultivate a supportive community and aligns personal actions with God’s mission.

Grace and Stephanie invite us to view friendships and life’s timing through the lens of faith. Let’s cultivate vulnerability, active love, and discernment in all relationships! Whether navigating college life or adult challenges, this will foster relationships grounded in love, mutual growth, and a shared purpose in Christ.

MEET GRACE VALENTINE

Grace says, “I'm an author, blogger, podcast host, and speaker. I grew up near New Orleans, Louisiana, in a suburban town called Mandeville. In 2018 I graduated from Baylor University with a degree in journalism. I currently reside in Atlanta, Georgia, where I enjoy going on runs and eating lots of sushi. I am just a girl who loves Criminal Minds a little too much. On Saturdays you can find me at the farmers market or sleeping in a little too long. I've learned many lessons the hard way, laugh a little too loud, but try to embrace each day and the life God has given me. It is an honor to connect with you. Thank you for loving me and my hot mess self.”

More at https://gracevalentine.org/ 

MORE ABOUT “THE BETTER FRIEND”

Tired of one-sided friendships that leave you feeling lonely? Make the shift to life-giving connection. Friendships should build us up, not leave us scrambling to prove our worth. But in a culture obsessed with popularity, it’s easy to settle for shallow friendships that take more than they give.

The good news is that meaningful friendships with sisters you can lean on anytime are possible. In this encouraging book, author, podcast host, and speaker Grace Valentine offers twelve powerful truths to help you rethink the way you connect with others. As someone who has been through the low-lows and high-highs of friendships—saying goodbye to those that were stuck or one-sided, uprooting her whole life and starting over in finding community, and nurturing long-distance friendships—Valentine knows what it takes to make good friends and to be a good friend.

When you build better friendships with people who help you become the best version of yourself in every way, you become better, get to know God better, and experience confidence in who He made you to be. Whether you’re ready to level up your current friendships or start fresh, The Better Friend gives you the tools you need to build life-giving connections in any season.

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