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 “Sometimes the expectations we impose upon ourselves actually take away from the joy of the season rather than magnify it.”   Another gift that is free and we can give to ourselves and to others this Christmas season is the gift of letting go of expectations.  Do some of the things we expect or think will make a really great Christmas really bring us closer to the Savior and thinking about what He has done for us? I share how so many movies and past holiday traditions and even media posts like the beloved Pinterest can show us what a really great Christmas should look like.  I share a few examples of how, like a manual we might have for our husband, we can keep an unwritten manual in our heart for what a meaningful Christmas  looks like. And that it’s ok if it doesn’t look anything like that.  I also share this idea of maybe even doing a traditions audit with our family to decide the best activities that will help us  worship the Savior. Hopefully this episode will help you realize that as long as we keep focused on Jesus Christ that is what makes a meaningful season. 

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“Families need one another. Don’t hold grudges.”  This week as we get into December and into the Christmas season I wanted to share a few gifts we can give at Christmas time.  This week I am sharing the idea of not mentioning past mistakes.  It comes from Ezekiel 18:22 which says that God will not mention our past transgressions. For this season I invite you to refrain from bringing up past mistakes, hurts, embarrassments with your family.  Let’s try to get to know the new and improved people in our families this season.  

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 “Extending Trust to others rekindles the inner spirit - both theirs and ours.”  The episode today gets into more depth about the idea of Extending Trust but in a smart way.  What Stephen M.R. Covey writes in his book The Speed of Trust  and calls it Smart Trust.  It involves two thing both a high propensity to trust as well as high analysis.  I also share what it looks like in all the 4 zones of the different levels of trust and analysis and which one is the most beneficial and actually has the lowest risk.  Then I talk of  a few tips that Stephen M.R. Covey gives when you have either broken trust or someone has broken trust with you. Trusty people can feel risky but as you use the tools given by this book you can reduce your risk as well as grow your instinct and intuition as well.  There are a lot of benefits of learning how to extend Smart Trust.   

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“When you make a commitment you build hope, when you keep it, you build trust.”  Finishing up the last 3 behaviors to build trust from the Book, The Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey.  These behaviors include, Listen First, Keep Commitments, & Extend Trust.  The first two are quite familiar as they are part of the 7 habits. The last one Extend Trust is a little different as you begin to use trust as a verb rather than a noun.   Also  I share how he helps you to understand a little bit how to extend smart trust.  Plus next week’s episode will go into more depth about smart trust.  I also share a quick overview of the last parts of the book about organizational trust, market trust and societal trust.  It is amazing to think about the impact the “clean and green” experience of being trusted had on Stephen M.R. Covey’s life.

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 “Trust the noun - what we feel - is often the result of trust the verb - what we do.”       In this episode I talk  more about the behaviors that help build trust, #6-10 from Stephen M.R. Covey, The Speed of Trust.  Trust includes both integrity and competence, this episode's behaviors are related to your competence.  They include Deliver results, Get Better, Confront Reality, Clarify Expectations, and Practice Accountability.  I share the principles behind each trust behavior, the opposite and counterfeit of each behavior as well as the left and right of the bell curve to find the sweet spot.  You can reference Episode 112 and 113 for even more background with the 4 cores of trust as well as trust behaviors #1-5.  At the end I invite you to pick one of these competence behaviors to move a little closer to the “sweet spot”

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This week I am sharing 5 of the 13 behaviors included in the Book, the Speed of Trust by Steven M.R. Covey.  These behaviors all relate to your character or the root of the tree (from last week’s podcast ep.112).  They include, talk straight, demonstrate respect, create transparency, right wrongs and show loyalty.  I share the opposite and counterfeit to each of these behaviors and also how to get to the sweet spot, not do too much or too little.  I also share a few experiences I have had this week as I have been trying to practice some of these behaviors myself. 

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 “Trust is the highest form of human motivation”  In this episode I am going to discuss the topic of Trust.  I found this book written by Stephen M.R. Covey, (Stephen R. Covey’s son) titled The Speed of Trust.  I first go over 9 myths that Stephen M.R. Covey mentions in the book and how the book shows us the real truths about trust.  I use the first half of the book to then talk about the 4 core elements of trust.  You can think of it like a Tree - roots, trunk, branches and fruit which are compared to integrity, intent, capabilities and results.  Trust is so important and it’s been fun to think about it in a little different way.  

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“ … all it takes to reach a big goal is doing a bunch of little tasks all together.”  Last week none of my kids helped with the dishes.  I sure am noticing how I am struggling a bit to follow through with the agreements I have made with them.  So this episode includes 10 tips on ways to be better at following through, with either great ideas or goals.  A few of the tips include, breaking it down into smaller, realistic steps, having fun and incentivizing it somehow. I really want to help my youth develop and work on their personal strength and keeping commitments and following through can help with that. So if you are struggling with remembering to follow through, hopefully this episode can give you a few ideas to keep you going.

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“The one thing I just love about Halloween is to let your creative juices flow and not feel like it has to be perfect.”   Halloween is one of my families’ favorite times of the year.  We all love to dress up and be creative and then get some candy along the way.  In this episode I share a few of my favorite costumes that we have done as a family and some also individually.  I love being creative as well as helping my kids fulfill an idea of a dream and then also getting out into our neighborhood on Halloween.  So sit back, relax and enjoy a few of my favorite Halloween memories.  

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“We should treat the commitments we make to ourselves as seriously as those we make to the most important people in our lives.” I have been thinking a lot about how important it is to keep promises that we make to ourselves and found some great info for us and especially for our youth and children to help them build their own personal emotional bank account.  There are 6 things listed in 7 habits for highly effective Teens by Sean Covey that are super simple yet very profound.  I talk about all of them - keeping a promise, small acts of kindness, being honest, being gentle with ourselves, renewal and developing talents.  I share how all of these things can help us build strength of character.  So if you or one of your kids feels a bit out of sorts, listen up and then work on keeping a promise to yourself.  

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I would love to hear from you!  You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram.  Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music.  I love it so much!