Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• When we look at most relationships, we don’t see the kind of love that TV and the movies have told us we deserve. 
• How does the fantasy of love leave people disappointed, when in actuality it’s the deep connection and friendship that is really what should be sought after? 
• Working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get out of the fantasy world and into the right steps that you need to attract the Guardian of Your Soul. 
• Disney movies and romantic comedies show couples declaring their undying love together, but not what love looks like 15 or 20 days, or even years, down the road! 
• Real love offers you a space to be all of yourself. You don’t have to put up walls or pretenses and both of you bring your full selves to the relationship. 

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Quotes

• “Most of us never really learn how to go on a date and connect with a man consciously.” 
• “If you really want to get love right now in this day and age, it requires something more than just luck or karma.” 
•  “The reality is that you are the common denominator in your love life.” 
• “You don't hear about this in the movies, you don't see this kind of love,   devotion, this kind of openness. In Hollywood and Disney, we have princes with glass slippers and fairy tales, but not this.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• What are the ways we self-sabotage our own success, whether it’s in a career, or finding and keeping a good man. 
• How can you get past self-sabotage? 
• Why do we even self-sabotage ourselves in the first place? 
• We want these great love affairs and dream of the perfect man, but if you aren’t ready for it, you’ll push him away without even realizing it. 
• Lisa talks about seeking support for her body image and eating issues, and how it brought her confidence and freedom.
• We can take our shame and we can turn it into vulnerability. 
• Unless you really tackle your negative habits and beliefs, you will repeat the same issue over and over. 
• We gain self esteem by doing esteemable things. 

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Mentioned:

Atomic Habits  

Quotes

• “We want these great love affairs and are dreaming of the perfect man. We tell ourselves we deserve it, but we self sabotage, overanalyze, and let the voice in our head get the best of us.” 
• “You're pushing men away good men and not even realizing it, and you're getting caught up in the fantasies and the dreams.” 
• “You have to have a deep inquiry into the belief that is causing you to self sabotage.” 
• “There's real love in the world. There's unconditional love, and it's available to every single one of you, you just have to open your heart to it.” 
• “One of the ways that I gained self confidence was by facing the single biggest issue in my life, my weight.” 
• “The way we build self esteem is by doing esteemable acts.” 
•  “I had to love myself from the inside out and redefine beauty.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• From The Four Agreements, not taking anything personally and not making assumptions are such powerful habits for dating. 
• Why women find it so difficult to date multiple men at once in the early stages, and a reminder that you aren’t doing anything wrong if you haven’t had the exclusivity agreement yet. 
• Do you need to tell all the guys you are dating that you are also seeing others? 
• How to stay organized with the men you are dating and keep track of their details. 
• What happens when we just jump in with the first person? 
• Three main benefits of dating multiple men: it helps mitigate anxiety, prevents you from moving too quickly, and saves you precious time. 
• When is it time to just date one man? 

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The Four Agreements 

Quotes

• “As you learn how to navigate the dating world and not take things personally, it is massively freeing.” 
• “When women get anxious, one of the things we start to do is we don't just overthink, but we also put up a lot of rules. We don't just put up walls, but we actually start to have a lot of rules.” 
• “If you're out dating and you're really trying to grow, and you're not wanting to jump into anything with anyone and see what’s available to you, then you want to get out there.”  
• “Dating multiple people prevents you from moving too quickly and putting too much pressure on the guy. 
• “Basically, if he wants you to stop dating other men, then he's got to commit to a relationship with you. He has to commit to not seeing other women and to dating only you, and then he has to be open to the idea of exploring a potential relationship.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• When looking for a coach or mentor, be sure to choose someone who has something you want, who can model how they got there and they do it in a style that speaks to you. 
• Lisa talks about a client who needed to realize that being in a relationship was going to add way more to her life than be a burden to her. 
• What is the problem with the therapeutic model of relationships? 
• Are you really doing the evolved work to bring in the Guardian of Your Soul, or are you wasting your own time and energy? 
• Even the Guardian of Your Soul can’t heal all your wounds. It’s up to you to take 100% responsibility for our own triggers and also for your healing. 
• How does working with Lisa and Benjamin help you walk your own conscious path that leads to a profound transformation? 

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Mentioned:

Lagoon of 7 Colors 

Compulsive Eaters Anonymous 

Don Miguel 

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It 

Quotes

• “There is nobody better in the universe to guide you to a certain place in life than the people who have what you want.” - Lisa 
• “In order to really put the pieces of my own life together, I had to start to be a grown up and show up for myself so that I could have what I wanted.” - Lisa 
• “We all have to take 100% responsibility for our own triggers and wounds. Nobody knows where your triggers are, and nobody can heal your wounds but you.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Instead of realizing that it is their pattern and their doing, avoidant men will often lead women to believe it’s their fault. 
• The cycle of a man leaving when he feels claustrophobic then running back to their ex, then back and forth again, is maddening! What can you do about it? 
• How this behavior can also be a way of self-sabotage and proving that there is no one to love or love them.
• What are some tools to further understand avoidant relationships? 
• What’s underneath an avoidant man?
• It’s not Playboy or Disney. The unfolding of a true relationship can often seem steady and well… kinda boring. 
• It’s crucial for men to have support, friendships, and mentors in their life.

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Mentioned:

Men Who Can’t Love

The Good Men Project 

Quotes: 

• “We cannot solve the problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” - Albert Einstein 
• “You're not just doing this because you're mean-spirited or you want to hurt women, but you're hurting women by not looking at the wounds that are underneath all of this and being honest with yourselves. And, about what's driving this, and that it's you.” - Lisa 
•  “There's nothing sexy about being a playboy. Nothing. It’s painful, it hurts women, and it's something that you need to take responsibility for.” - Lisa

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This week, Lisa welcomes Debbie, a shining example of what happens when you follow the steps in Lisa’s 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating coaching program and put in the work. You find the Guardian of Your Soul, like Debbie did in Marc!  Debbie talks about what made her choose Lisa as a coach, and how she was successful in business, took care of her life and seemed to have it all, except a real, true, loving partner to share life with. Marc details what in Debbie’s profile drew him in right away and let him know that she was special! You’ll love hearing these two talk about their adventurous life together, along with  sage advice for those still looking for love! 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Debbie shares what made her choose to work with Lisa and turn it all around. 
• How did Debbie and Marc meet, and what stage were they both at in their lives that made them ready for each other on every level? 
• What were Marc’s first impressions of Debbie?
• Debbie talks about the internal process for taking accountability for her love life and how she knew she needed to make some changes. 
• You don’t have to settle! 
• How did dating change for Debbie once she started to learn how to approach dating with intention? 
• How does Marc feel about dating an older woman?

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Mentioned:

 No More Mr. Nice Guy 

Quotes

• “I had to dig deep and go internal. I had to figure out what was Debbie doing wrong?” - Debbie
• “Know your value as a woman.” - Debbie
• “When I decide to do something I give it 100%. I don't do half things halfway. It's not my nature. So once I was in the course, I was in the course”. - Debbie
• “I wish there was a Lisa Shield for men!” - Marc 
• “You have to be willing to find yourself and really admit who you are to yourself and what you're not going to settle for. Don't settle, girls, whatever you do, do not settle.” - Debbie

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Can a man really feel the subtle energies of masculine and feminine on a date? 
• A dream date that lasted for hours, yet he never called! What’s up with that? 
• What is bell jarring, and how can it create the most special and unique feelings for you and your date? 
• If you start to feel that things are going too far, you always have the power to say no. 
• Playfulness comes from the heart. It is not a calculated strategy or a game. 
• Clever and sincere ways to let him know you are there for the long game, not the short game! 
• How can you maintain that playful energy and have compassion for a man as the relationship progresses? 

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Mentioned:

Quotes: 

• “Shame can be the most negative and potent emotion a man can feel.” - Benjamin 
• “The first thing of female embodiment is confidence.” - Lisa 
• “It’s not what people say on the date, it’s how they feel on the date and afterwards.” - Benjamin 
• “When these behaviors come from the right place and have the right intention behind them, it feels genuine.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• The first woman showed signs of an emotional bypass. What exactly is that? 
• Acknowledging your feelings doesn’t mean you have to spiral into a dark place. It just means that you allow yourself to feel what’s really going on in this particular part of your life. 
• What about the money part? What if the money for coaching and investing in yourself seems too much or out of reach? 
• Won’t having a partner take me away from living my best life, and accomplishing my personal hopes and dreams? 
• Ultimately, what were the core differences between the first and second woman? It wasn’t about being worthy of love, as they both are. 
• How did Lisa’s life shifted when she opened her heart and learned how to get emotionally naked with a man? 

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Mentioned:

Quotes

• “We're lying by not admitting to what we're missing out on by not having a partner or a man in our lives.” 
• “You think it’s a financial decision, but it’s really an emotional decision.” 
• “Money isn't the important thing, what's really important is that people have to make a decision that they no longer want to suffer in this part of their lives.” 
• “If you don't allow a man into your life and into your heart, you will never be able to fully express who you are as a woman.” 
• “There's a whole part of who we are as women that just can never be expressed without a partner.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Yes, it’s possible to have a full life with hobbies, family, and friends, but the Guardian of Your Soul will desire a relationship as a priority. 
• How does your inability to fit a man into your life trigger his fear of giving up his freedom? 
• Lisa and Benjamin decode what it really means if you keep hearing you are intimidating men. 
•  What if it’s your man that doesn’t seem to want to blend his life with yours? 
• Lisa and Benjamin help their clients recognize what they are looking for, so they can encompass the values and characteristics that truly are a match. 

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Mentioned:

Finding ‘Funny Girl’. Finally - New York Times 

Quotes: 

• “The creation of our relationship is the best part of life.” - Lisa 
• “That's all I wanted to do, was create a life that was uniquely ours.  - Lisa
• “By making the relationship a top priority, it helps our careers. We feel more secure, supported, and that there’s someone who has our backs.” - Benjamin

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Yes, it really does matter why you broke up when determining if you should still be friends with your ex. 
• The clear boundaries to set when staying friends - not friends with benefits! 
• Why it’s so important for exes that co-parent to try and be as amiable as possible. 
• Being friends will not work if one person is secretly hoping for something more!
• How did Lisa get herself out of a very toxic relationship? What did she learn that could help you too? 
• If an ex is abusive, narcissistic or draining - leave and never look back. 

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Mentioned:

Quotes

• “I think it’s extremely, extremely important to have a healthy friendship with an ex so that you can co-parent.” - Lisa 
• “It is my greatest recommendation that when you are out in the dating world, you really are on a mission and a journey to find the guardian of your soul and true lasting love. I think it’s very important to keep that path clean and clear.” - Lisa

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