Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Why has this book and movement struck a chord in so many people? 
• Lisa and Benjamin break down the 5 Love Languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts. 
• Benjamin explains his additional love languages: silence and physical space! Lisa shares how she honors those for him. 
• What are some other huge love languages for men? 
• We need to understand what our partner is capable of, and how some things are easier for them to give than others.
• Lisa talks about taking accountability for her own well being and happiness, and deciding to come into the relationship with Benjamin as a whole and happy person. 
• What if your partner isn’t giving you the love language you crave? 
• How can working with Lisa and Benjamin help you learn to have a deep, beautiful appreciation for men that comes from the heart, rather than a strategy? 

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Mentioned:

The 5 Love Languages 

The 5 Love Languages 

Quotes: 

• “The truth is that there is no real watered down simple solution for unconditional love. The truth is, the only way we can create lasting love is through genuine emotional nakedness.” - Lisa 
• “We need to understand what our partner is capable of, even though they may love us up and down in every which way, there may be some things that just aren’t in their wheelhouse.” - Benjamin 
• “Speaking as a man, we would rather have someone say ‘I respect you then I love you’ sometimes.” - Benjamin 
• “Silence is the universal language of shamans.” - Benjamin 
• “Gratitude and appreciation can be the quintessential love language of them all.” - Benjamin

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy? 
• Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like. 
• Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone like him to show up. 
• How does the 12 week Emotionally Naked Dating Program help women come up with the five non-negotiables? Why does it matter to get clear on your Final Five? 
• Your life will change when you treat dating as a spiritual journey, and you let go of your grip on what things should look like.
• Instead of having a checklist of things that you are looking for, see if you can go on dates and simply appreciate the man sitting in front of you. 

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Mentioned:

Werner Erhard 

Quotes

• “We are meaning making machines.” - Werner Erhard  
• “I was really happy that I hadn't limited myself and that I got outside of my own box. I was willing to see success in a much broader sense and not have this very narrow view.” - Lisa 
• “I just started to expand my view of what I thought success looked like, and I started to redefine that.” - Lisa 
• “He is my greatest spiritual teacher. Of all the great teachers I’ve worked with, I’ve never met anyone who walks the talk the way Benjamin does. He lives a life of kindness, gratitude, generosity, passion and compassion.” - Lisa 
• “There's a better way to date. There's a newer way, a way that comes from the heart from real love and compassion, where we can all appreciate one another.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed? 
• Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself?
• How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy. 
• The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your interest and values. 
• What does it feel like to a man when women over-strategize? 
• Why is dating multiple people so important before deciding to go exclusive with a man? 
• Yes, men can truly feel both authentic trust, safety, and friendship. AND they can feel when you are overthinking and trying to control/steer the ship. 

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The Rules 

Quotes: 

• “We create these stories just out of thin air, and you know, it’s crazy making.” - Benjamin
• “I think a lot of women are looking for a picture to put into a picture frame, rather than seeing the person.” - Benjamin
• “One of the concerns that a guy has in dating is that they’re going to be controlled, so their radar is up.” - Benjamin 
• “It takes a lot of personal risk and a willingness to fully open yourself up to another person and to really surrender to the process.” - Lisa 
• “What we found is that by combining our lives, we've actually gained greater autonomy and a greater sense of ourselves in doing so, because we're reflected back by the other person. By combining our lives, we've actually gained.” - Benjamin 
• “Dating multiple people is so important because you begin to see who shows up.” - Benjamin
• “I stopped trying to get a guy to like me. I just wanted to feel good about myself and I showed up in those situations feeling proud that I had portrayed the best example of me.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world? 
• How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship? 
• Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men. 
• Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simple yet powerful ways to tune up your profile. 
• The top 10% of men in looks are getting 80% of the reponses - how can you use this to your advantage? 
• Lisa talks about how not to let rejection hold you back or keep you down. 
• Why just waiting and “leaning back” is not a winning strategy. 

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Mentioned:

Modern Love 

MeetUp

Eventbrite 

Match 

SilverSingles 

Quotes

• “Proximity and frequency are two of the big indicating factors of what causes a match.” 
• “He’s out there and searching for you right now.” 
• “If I were single, I would be taking my pup to the park as often as possible.” 
• “You will get way more dates online then offline.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Why “working on yourself” doesn’t always guarantee that the work will translate over to your relationship. 
• What most people have wrong about “doing the work” and why they are spinning their wheels with little to no results. 
• How do Lisa and Benjamin help their clients become the best version of themselves so they can step out and find an equal partner? 
• Why is it important to do the work? What happens if you don’t? 
• What if you don’t have a love partner just yet - shouldn’t you just wait and do the work once you’re both together? 
• Once you find the Guardian of Your Soul, do you still have to do the work? 
• What does “doing the work” mean to Benjamin and Lisa, even after all these years together? 
• It’s one skill set to commit to individual growth, and another to do it with a partner.

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Mentioned:

don Miguel Ruiz 

Quotes: 

• “Sometimes the work we do to understand ourselves is to get a better sense of who we are in the world, but it can become a bit insular.” - Benjamin 
• “We have to learn how to find a balance and middle ground between man and woman, and learn how to merge.” - Lisa 
• “One of the dangers of spiritual growth is that we develop an identity of what spirituality is, and if someone doesn’t fit into that model, then they’re not spiritual.” - Benjamin 
• “We can have all this growth and understanding and all of these things, but to be emotionally naked with another person - that's another skill set.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Instead of denying the aging process, how can you embrace it? 
• What has Lisa learned in her 60 years that she wishes she could tell her younger self? 
• Ask yourself - what do you want to do with your remaining years? How can you make the most of every day, week, and month? 
• Lisa talks about the pivotal moment where she hired a business coach, and how it turned everything around and transformed her own life. 
• The more confident you are about all your features and even the “flaws”, the more attractive you become to not only men but all of the outside world. 
• How can we overcome our fear that as we open ourselves up to beauty, we also open ourselves up to sorrow? 
• The more you love yourself, the more you live with grace and ease. 

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Mentioned:

Quotes

• “I wanted to see what I could accomplish if I really put my mind to it and had a real plan, not just sitting in my office doing one on one calls.” - Lisa 
• “I think I'm just loving this all so much. It just seems to be getting better and better and better and richer and deeper.” - Lisa 
• “Never think that you're too old to bring love in or to bring a Guardian of Your Soul into your life, because you can.” - Lisa 
• “The more you love yourself, the more you live with grace and ease.” - Lisa 
• “With age comes more confidence, and the attitude of wearing life like a loose garment.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• How can a man and woman truly support one another in a way that makes the other feel free yet taken care of? 
• What does it mean when a man feels that his life is going to be more expansive, and how can you give him that gift? 
• What does it feel like to a man when they feel as though their personal freedom is being taken away? How do you not limit a man or take away his freedom? 
• How does a man look to a woman to be his teacher? 
• What needs to be established during the trust and safety phase to really grow in the longer term? 
• What made Benjamin go home and cancel his dating app subscription after just a couple dates with Lisa? 
• How can working with a coach help you become the woman that makes him excited to commit? 

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Mentioned:

Quotes

• “Men want to commit, but they want to commit with the right person and the right conditions.” - Benjamin
• “Men look to women to be their teachers.” - Benjamin
• “A man’s biggest fear is giving up his personal freedom.” - Lisa
• “We wouldn't be the same people we are today without the relationship we've had, supporting each other, and seeing what each other can be.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• How did her work with Lisa help Lynnie keep momentum after getting scammed by a man?
• How did the Emotionally Naked Dating program lay the framework for Lynnie to continue with the Mastermind? What did she like about the process?
• Lynnie loves connecting with great women all around the world, and is now part of a true sisterhood.
• What is different about Lisa and Benjamin than other dating coaches Lynnie has worked with?
• How did seeing Lisa and Benjamin model the tools and techniques firsthand at a retreat give Lynnie even more inspiration about finding the Guardian of HER Soul?

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Mentioned:

Lynnie Marks on Instagram

Quotes

• “You advanced humans are, to me, the guru’s of love and relationships.” - Lynnie
• “I don’t hold anything to the outcome. I don’t live in the outcome, I live in the process.” - Lynnie
• “We look to our relationship to guide you from. That’s really our guide.” - Lisa
• “It’s a sacred relationship that we all share in that group, and I think it’s fun we are all growing together.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• What does “lean back” really mean in dating, and how does it make a man feel? 
• If you text first, does that mean you’re chasing him? 
• What exactly is the feminine lead, and how can you bring it into your dating? 
• How taking the feminine lead will make a man feel revved up and secure in his masculinity. 
• What are some exact things and phrases women can do and say when taking the feminine lead?
• How does taking the feminine lead filter out the narcissist and love bombers and create a path for the Guardian of Your Soul? 
• There’s a SPECIFIC way Lisa and Benjamin teach their coaching clients about the feminine lead that encourages the man to want honest feedback about how to make the woman happy. 
• Why is The Rules book antiquated and not a method to gain a real relationship?
• How does the feminine lead differ from how men lead? 

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Mentioned:

The Rules 

Quotes

• “When I went on a date with you, I went home feeling like more of a man.” - Benjamin 
• “What a man is looking for is a woman that he’s going to have fun with.” - Benjamin
• “The best word is gratitude and the worst word is entitlement.” - Benjamin
• “We don’t lead like a man would lead, it’s a different way of leading.” - Lisa
• “The female lead is all about encouraging the man to take the lead.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• What is the “optimism bias” anyway + shocking stats!
• What areas could you benefit from taking practical realistic action?
• How do you begin to put energy and devotion into the RIGHT way to date? 
• If I’m beautiful and successful enough, won’t the men just come find me? 
• Lisa explains why more career success often means even less luck in dating. How unfair! What can you do about it? 
• Does getting rid of the “optimism bias” mean you will be a negative thinker? Isn’t positive thinking healthy? 
• What are some practical steps you can take towards being more of a realist? 
• How does our optimism bias actually make men run for the hills and feed anxiety?

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

The Optimism Bias | Tali Sharot 

Quotes

• “We lack realism when it comes to finding love.” 
• “I realized that the journey to find love is really the ultimate spiritual path.”
• “Love with a partner is the most spiritual thing we do in life.” 
• “For women, it's the exact opposite of men. We have less of a chance of being able to find a true partner as we go up the corporate ladder or the ladder of success, whereas men have a much higher chance of finding a partner.” - Lisa

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