I didn’t record this for the masses—I recorded it for you. The woman folding laundry, driving in silence, or scrolling at midnight wondering, “What did I do wrong?” You followed the rules, stayed pure, waited for the blessing... and still, it’s hard. This is the message I wish someone had whispered to me.

Today, I’m getting real about something I know deep in my bones—good girl theology won’t save your marriage. I believed if I just did everything “right,” I’d have peace, passion, and a perfect love story. But that’s not the gospel. If you’ve been trying to perform your way into peace or control your way into closeness, this episode is a grace-filled wake-up call. It’s not about doing—it’s about being known. First by God. Then, by your husband. And it starts with truth.

The quiet lie many Christian women grew up believing

Why doing “everything right” doesn’t guarantee a thriving marriage

The difference between obedience and control

What real intimacy with God (and your man) looks like

If this spoke to you—even just a whisper—would you share it with a friend who needs this reminder too?

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