Fear sucks, but let me tell you, it doesn’t have to.

It’s actually one of THE BEST EMOTIONS you could ever have.

The upside to fear is this:

It can be the ultimate motivator to get stuff done. And I mean ultimate.

For starters, there's rational and irrational fears -- both of which can be used to propel you to do something goal worthy.

But it's crucial to realize that fear can make you do crazy things, so it’s up to you to manage fear, and not let fear manage you.

Let's dive into how to overcome fear and make it work for you.

xo,
Lauren
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Somewhere along the way, someone told you:

“You aren’t good enough."
"You’re not old enough."
"You’re not smart enough."
"You’re not fast enough."
"You’re not strong enough." 
"You’re not experienced enough."
"You’re not pretty enough." 
"You’re just not enough.”

And I’m here to tell you that those people are wrong.

We are told we aren’t enough, much more than we are told we are.

In fact, you’re told no so much, that it becomes increasingly harder and harder to get a yes from people, because everyone’s knee jerk response is no.

It’s just our culture, and I believe that it comes from the best of intentions.

But in order for you to be successful at anything, you have to check your self confidence.

Do you feel worthiness?

Are you walking around with confidence in yourself regardless of what the outcome is?

Are you willing to go for your goals, even if it means you could fail?

Let's dive into 3 critical ways to improve your self confidence in order to accomplish your goals.

xo,
Lauren
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I know how you’re feeling. I really really do.

You can’t think about anything else.

You’re worried sick about it.

And you’re paralyzed with fear that something is or isn’t going to happen, and it’s consuming you.

I know exactly how you’re feeling, because I have dealt with chronic anxiety my entire life, and I’m here to help you deal with anxiety and ultimately overcome it for good.

According to wikipedia, anxiety is "an emotion characterized by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by nervous behavior such as pacing back and forth, somatic complaints, and rumination. It includes subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events.

Anxiety is a feeling of uneasiness and worry, usually generalized and unfocused as an overreaction to a situation that is only subjectively seen as menacing. It is often accompanied by muscular tension, restlessness, fatigue and problems in concentration. Anxiety is closely related to fear, which is a response to a real or perceived immediate threat; anxiety involves the expectation of future threat. People facing anxiety may withdraw from situations which have provoked anxiety in the past."

Let’s breakdown this definition even further.

In particular, I want to really dissect the caption, “it includes subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events.”

Essentially, anxiety is a feeling that is created internally, subjectively, over an event that has not even happened yet.

Subjective means “based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions.” It means that is curated by a person’s perception and not necessarily by fact, truth, or law.

Let’s stop there for a minute. When we have anxiety, we are worried about something that has not even happened yet, and we are the only person that is causing this worry to be.

Which means that the power of this feeling and emotion is only in your hands. It is not tied to someone else, it is not brought on by someone else, it is brought on by you.

That means you have the power to overcome your anxiety, and I am here to help you figure out how. Let's dive right in now.

xo,
Lauren
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Today is the day. 

Today is the day that you are going to drop kick that annoying feeling of failure from your life. In today’s episode, we are going to walk through 10 habits that can make or break your ability to achieve your goals. Here are 10 unambiguous habits that I have learned from my mentors, that will lunge you towards your goals and get you to accomplish them. By implementing these 10 critical steps into your daily routine, you’ll be pimp limping into your goals in no time.

Need even more clarity?

Download my free "Goal Roadmapping Strategy" that I use to accomplish my tasks and goals day in and day out at FortunatelyRelatable.com

As always, reach out to me on social media too. I'm your biggest fan and I want to see you succeed. Let's get you to where you need to be.

xo,
Lauren
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It's no secret that goals are important. 

 What's annoyingly a secret, is how to complete every goal that you've set out to do — without letting fear, anxiety, or doubt get in your way.

👉 That's where Tracey Watts Cirino thrives. 

She's a master at conquering business goals and helping others achieve them. She's unblocked hundreds of people on building their professional skills and having those skills spill over into their personal goals and lifetime success.

What most people don't know about Tracey, is that she made a promise to herself at 9 years old to become an author and to share her voice. But along the way, she dropped off. Her voice dropped off. Her confidence dropped off. And ultimately, her goals became dreams that were fading off into the distance.

But one day Tracey had an 'aha' moment and jumped into her purpose and said "today is the day, and so I will." 

Now, Tracey is a successful author, business coach, podcast host, mom, wife, and mentor to many, many people.

I learned a ton from Tracey and I know you will too. I encourage you to listen with your heart and your head and walk away with tangible skills to get where you need to be today.

I'm rooting for you, always.

XO,
Lauren
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Imposter syndrome is real, but it doesn't have to be.

Meet Lauren Abrams.

She's a badass workers rights lawyer, a business owner, a podcast host, and fulltime mom. 
But Lauren wasn't always this accoladed. Lauren had to get here, and it took battling imposter syndrome head on to get where she is today.

I wanted to hear more about Lauren's story, how she battled imposter syndrome, and what she does to maintain success. 

Want to know more about her? Reach out to her on https://www.52weeksofhope.com/.

XO, 
Lauren

Motivation is defined as the reason why you do something. When you understand your why, you’ll be unstoppable. 💯

I never fully understood burnout until I became a mom.

Pre-baby me, was motivating myself, but I didn’t realize that my motivation came in sprints. I would motivate myself with upcoming events, or outfits, or short-term goals that really aren't sustainable. I would put in a little bit of effort and got the most out of it, but when it came to post-baby me, and I entered into a new season of my life, I realized that my old habits of motivating myself no longer suited me and I needed to re-learn how to motivate myself for a sustainable long term gain.

Now, post-kid, I basically have to get up and do a whole TED convention with myself to stay motivated and satisfied at this almost ideal weight so that I don’t go flying off the handle and wish that I had my pre-baby body back. But it’s worth it because this new season has taught me so much about motivation and what it takes to combat burnout.

Motivation is directly related to clarity. When you can see clearly, you can perform efficiently.

If you make it a mission to check in with yourself regularly and to not be afraid to make changes to your life - even if that means an entirely new daily routine - then the burnout will never come, and motivation will stay king. 

If that means waking up an hour or two earlier than usual to get that morning workout in, do it. If that means doing things the night before so that you can sleep longer for more brain power, do it. 

If that means deleting a few people from your life because they no longer serve you, buh bye friends, do it. 

Serve yourself first, align your priorities, and you’ll be motivated to do anything.

Becoming motivated and staying motivated means regularly checking in with yourself and doing some seasonal cleaning of your habits and your actions.

My challenge for you this episode is this:

Sit down with yourself, or stand up, or drive or wherever you do your best thinking, go there, and ask yourself “what are my values, what season am I in, are all of my habits serving me well within this season, and is there anything that i need to do to shift or pivot and make adjustments in order to meet my goals?” 

Once you answer those questions for yourself, you’ll have a roadmap on what you need to do and how you need to get there, and you've just unleashed the sustainable motivation that you need. 🙌

You got this. 

XO,
Lauren
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We aren’t meant to thrive alone. If you want to accomplish any of your goals, you have to know when and how to ask for help. 

Asking for help, helps. It helps you, it helps the person you’re asking, and it helps everyone become the best version of themselves. In fact, research has proven that those who ask for help are more likely to develop relationships, improve their performance levels on any task ever, and become more resilient. It also means that those who ask for help are able to lean on the efforts of other people to improve their ability to get a task done collectively, develop a growth mindset, and improve mental health overall. 

Listen now to figure out how to effectively give and receive help.

XO,
Lauren

I want you to ask yourself:

Am I expecting this goal to happen? 
Am I making room for this goal to enter my life.?
Am I making adjustments, and not excuses, to onboard this greatness? 
Am I actively engaging with opportunities to make this goal come to fruition?

Or are you just giving up and living through the same misery, day in, and day out. Are you half in and half out, where you’re saying “I’m just going to date and see what happens,” or “he’ll just show up one day I guess,” or are you actively going to go after it and make your goal a reality?

Life changes when you do. Let me say that again. Life changes, when you do. 

Life is going to throw some punches, and some of them are going to land in your face. But it’s about getting back up, putting your mouth piece back in, and continuing to fight for exactly what it is that you want. Stay laser focused, keep moving forward, and there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

I don’t know how else to tell you this, but we all have an expiration date on us. You do. I do. And everyone around you too. One day, you’re going to get sick, or old, or in a position that says “man, I should have done so many things, but I didn’t believe or expect them to happen, and now I’m regretting it.” Start making those dreams come true, right now, today. The only thing in your way is you.

Let's go through this episode - together. 
XO,
Lauren

I get it. 

You have goals you want to accomplish, but you are tired of starting to achieve them only to fall off because of fear, anxiety, or doubt.

You're ready to start crossing off tasks, but you don't know where to start.

You're ready to stop talking about your goals and ready to start accomplishing them.

I understand what you're going through, because I was where you were too.

I went from burnt out, overcommitted, stay at home mom, to a successful momtreprenur. I believed I could - so I did. 

I changed my daily habits, re-routed the networks in my brain to work from a place of confidence and not arrogance or fear, and I committed to accomplishing my goals even if I didn't know exactly where to begin.

Now, it's your turn.

Let's dive into your goals and discover that the only way you can accomplish anything is to genuinely believe that you can. 

My idea of success is waking up everyday and genuinely being excited to live. Not just be alive. For me, that’s working in the industries that I’m passionate about, surrounding myself with likeminded people who lift me up and make me want to do better, and taking the time to listen to my intuition on why I should or shouldn’t do something and make adjustments accordingly. 

So ask yourself, what is success for you?

Does that mean you want to quit your 9-5 to be a stripper - go for it. If you want to take on a second life and go save the planet one elephant at a time, please do. If you want to just try something new because it sounds interesting, what the heck are you waiting on? Stop making excuses, start making adjustments, and believe that you can - and i promise you will. 💯

Ask yourself wholeheartedly:  

🧐Am I doing what  think i’m supposed to be doing because its the best that I think I can do? Or am I doing what I want to be doing because it’s where I thrive and build my best life?

🧐Are you hanging out with the same people because that’s who you’ve always hung out with? Or are you hanging out with the people that make you feel like your absolute best self and you can’t imagine where you’d be without them?

🧐Are you spending your down time finding ways to make more time for the things you love?

🧐Or are you spending your down time distracting yourself with things that will just make the day last longer so that you don’t have to think about that thing you don’t want to do tomorrow?

Make it your  mission to get up everyday because you’re passionate about what you do - and not just because you have to. Start looking around and figure out what you can adjust from an excuse to a reason. ⚡️

Being content is fine. But what is not fine to me is going your whole life and wondering “what if.” One of the most insanely amazing quotes i’ve ever heard from motivational speaker Les Brown is  “hell is seeing your potential self when it’s too late.”  👈

You can't afford to be late.

I 110% believe in you. I believe in you so much, that I made a podcast about it. What does that say? If you believe you can do something, you actually can. This first episode is about believing in yourself because if you don’t believe you can, you’re right. Nothing will happen. So let’s relish in step 1 and start believing you actually can. 

Next up? If you Expect greatness to happen - and it will. So refill your coffee and margarita and let’s get to step 2. I’ll see you in the next episode. 

XO,
Lauren