Freedom from Attachment

Healthy relationships are not built on fantasy, they are also not built on the hard work of trying to get your partner to change. You’re attached to a fantasy version of your partner, but you need to stop waiting for their behavior to change. The only thing that can change in this situation is you. You have the power to break out of this prison of attachment.

In the meantime, look at what you say yes to while you wait (hope) for things to change. Perhaps, the person you’re dating cancels plans consistently, offering a laundry list of half-hearted excuses. Maybe they disappear for days or even weeks at a time, giving you nothing but radio silence. You start thinking that you did something wrong. Are you not good enough? You say things to them to get them to own up or change, but nothing does change. You have a fantasy—can’t they see it too? In this episode, you’ll learn how to see and accept your reality and change, so that someday you will not settle for less than you deserve.

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of spouse behaviors and challenges at work. Want to submit your question? Click here: http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST.

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Codependency is a painful place to be, and it can manifest itself in many ways. Do you crave validation from your partner? Are you always placing their needs above your own? In many cases, you probably feel wracked with guilt at the thought of doing something without them. You might even try to earn your right to a night out with affection and housework.

These codependent situations are not a healthy way to build a relationship, and they’re not sustainable. If one person feels like they’re sacrificing so much, they become resentful. The truth is, neither of you should be making those kinds of sacrifices.

The good news, however, is that this is a great opportunity for you! If you feel like all of the blame is on your partner, think again. Now is the perfect opportunity for self-growth and to change your relationship mindset. In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to step out of a codependent relationship and into a happy, healthier relationship with yourself.

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics feeling like you don't have enough, fears and valuing yourself. Want to submit your question? Submit it here http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I have a second conversation with Guy Finley, bestselling author of more than 45 books and founder of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery. Listen in as we talk about being stuck, triggers and reincarnation.

Learn more about Guy Finely at www.GuyFinley.org.

Does this sound like you? After a series of boring dates and incompatible partners, you’re still single. It’s not you; you just haven’t found the right person yet. Maybe you even have a list of traits your perfect match will have when you finally meet them. Each time you go out with someone new, you wait for that wow factor, the spark, but it never comes.

If you’re starting to think you’ll never find your soulmate, I have a secret to share with you: You might be the problem. You’re stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships because you’re scared to find the one. Without realizing it, you’re shutting yourself off to a healthy relationship because you don’t see your true value.

You can stay stuck in your cycle of bad dates, or you can open yourself up to the possibility of love, but you have to decide that it’s time for a change. Are you ready? On today’s podcast, you will learn useful tips to recognize your behaviors and finally approach dating with an open heart.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, dealing with an avoidant, emptiness and what it means to be emotionally available. Want to submit your question? Watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. You can submit your questions here: http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT

You cannot cobble together enough breadcrumbs to create a satisfying meal, and yet many people accept breadcrumbs when it comes to relationships. When you meet someone and there is chemistry, you can get hooked pretty quickly. You may become attached to the idea of what it could be—a loving, fulfilling relationship. Then perhaps they stop contacting you and you are a ball of anxiety, wondering what you did wrong. Once you have accepted they are gone, WHAM, they come back. They have fed you enough breadcrumbs that you believe they are returning to give you the whole loaf. But of course, they don’t… so the cycle repeats. This can go on for years, waiting for them to change their behavior because you are attached to the idea of what the relationship COULD be.

When you’re in this scarcity-driven relationship, you work hard to collect crumbs of attention, validation, and acceptance without even realizing it. You’ve been doing it for so long it feels normal, but it is not the path to a healthy relationship. The secret to getting out of breadcrumb relationships is believing you deserve the whole loaf, which comes from valuing yourself. If you believe you are worthy of love, crumbs will be completely unappealing and you will reject them. You will leave the land of scarcity and entire loaves will start showing up.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of manipulation, fatal flaws and self-respect. Want to submit your question? Email [email protected] and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST.

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Alton Pete, U.S. Army Veteran and Author. Listen in as he takes us on his journey through the military and loss of his mother and sister to now where he sheds light on PTSD and Depression as well as just completed his first book "Life is so Precious."

Learn more about Alton Pete at altonpete.com