In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how to feel better as a family caregiver right away. It might surprise you, because it doesn’t require a lot of time or energy, and it doesn’t rely on making any changes to your life or your situation. You don’t even have to tell anybody that you are doing it. All you need is courage and a little bit of knowledge. It’s not easy to do, but it is a simple step you can take. That’s what this episode is all about. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode30. You can find Kay’s book, “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind,” at FacilitatorOnFire.net/books. The best place to stay in touch with Kay is on Instagram (@FaciliatorOnFire), where you will find near-daily doses of straight talk for caregivers who are tired of living with the traditional definition of being a “good” caregiver. For more information on all of this work, including registration for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about another radical idea: that it’s OK for caregivers to have identities and lives that don’t revolve around our role as caregivers. Kay explains that it’s normal and healthy to have individual needs and desires - and why it can be so hard to do that it seems laughable or even impossible. But it is possible to be seen for who we are, even if it’s not related at all to our caregiving responsibilities. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode29. You can find Kay’s book, “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind,” at FacilitatorOnFire.net/books. The best place to stay in touch with Kay is on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire), where you will find near-daily doses of straight talk for caregivers who are tired of being held back by the traditional definition of being a “good” caregiver. For more information on all of this work, including registration for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about why the overwhelming experience of being a caregiver can keep you stuck, unable to make changes to situations, relationships, beliefs and emotions. The good news is that you don’t have to change everything all at once. You can choose just one starting point. Kay reminds us we all have permission to be stuck - it’s a totally normal human condition - and helps caregivers figure out how to pick a starting point. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode28. You can find Kay’s book, “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind,” at FacilitatorOnFire.net/books. The best place to stay in touch with Kay is on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire), where you will find near-daily doses of straight talk for caregivers who are tired of being held back by the traditional definition of being a “good” caregiver. For more information on all of this work, including the date of the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about judgment in the life of a family caregiver. It is very painful to be judged by others, and even to handle the the judgment that comes from within yourself. But it is possible to live a life where judgment doesn’t hold you back any more - yes, even as a caregiver. The full transcript of this episode can be found at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode27. Follow Kay on Instagram for near-daily doses of encouragement for folks who are tired of trying to be a “good” caregiver. If you are looking for Kay’s book, “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming the Emotional Grind,” go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/books. If you are interested in learning more about leadership and life coaching for family caregivers, or if you are looking for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/learnmore.

There are powerful stereotypes that family caregivers inherit when we agree to become caregivers. We don’t realize how strong they are until our lives become something we didn’t ask for. And then we wake up one day and don't recognize ourselves any more. In this episode, Kay Coughlin names some of the biggest caregiving stereotypes that she has identified. Why? Well, she wishes somebody would have given her this language when she was getting started as a caregiver. She could feel the stereotypes all around her and could feel the pressure to perform, but just couldn’t put a name on what was happening. Which meant she didn’t know to question the stereotypes either. Spoiler alert: none of these has to be true, no matter what the people around you say. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode26. The From One Caregiver to Another podcast isn’t about being a better caregiver. Plenty of resources are available for people who want that information. This podcast is about becoming the person you really want to be - a person who also happens to be a caregiver. Contact Kay by email (Kay @ FacilitatorOnFire.net) or find more information about the next webinar on "Human Giver Syndrome" at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. To get almost-daily doses of straight talk for caregivers who want to get free of the stereotypes, follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire).

In this last episode of the season, Kay Coughlin talks about her wish for all caregivers: that we would know and believe that we can write our own story. We don't have to accept the definition of being a "good" caregiver that somebody else chose for us. This season was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who feel trapped by the traditional definition of being a caregiver. If you would prefer to read the messages form this season, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Starting with the next episode, the podcast will be called "From One Caregiver to Another." If you are looking for Kay's book, "From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind," you can find it here.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what it looks like to have a possibility mindset and cultivate persistence, patience and peace. This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into thte traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. you can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's book "From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind," you can find it here.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin challenges the idea that it's wrong to be selfish and want self-care. Even caregivers are allowed to believe in having self-care. This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for the "Thought Download Cheat Sheet" (especially to help you see what beliefs you have about self-care and selfishness), you can find it here.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin challenges the conventional idea that we are "behind." What if that's just a thing we say, and what if it's in the way of seeing possibilities? This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit in the traditional defintion of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for the free "Thought Download Cheat Sheet," you can find it here.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the harmful myth of believing you - or any human - is too old to learn and grow. This season of short episodes was created by Kay in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit in the traditional definition of being a "good" caregivers. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there on or Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for the free "Thought Download Cheat Sheet" mentioned in this episode, you can find it here.