When you’re a caregiver, it can be really hard to remember that you’ve got a life of your own, too. But how do you learn what you really want and figure out a way to dare to live it? Kay Coughlin knows it is possible for anyone to do because she uses a 3-step process in her own life and with her clients. It works, even for caregivers, and that’s what you’ll hear about in this episode. Full transcript available here. To register for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, or to download the guide, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

"From One Caregiver to Another" is NOT a podcast about how to be a better family caregiver. It's about remembering that you have your own identity as a person: you are more than a caregiver, and you can dare to live your own life, too. After years of struggling to find the encouragement she needed to prioritize her own needs, Kay Coughlin created this podcast to help caregivers who can also relate to feeling ignored, judged or dismissed by their communities. Whether you are new to caregiving, in the middle of it (like Kay is now), or in your post-caregiving journey, you'll find something in this podcast for you. You can learn more about this work, including Kay's webinar on and guide to Human Giver Syndrome, at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire) for almost-daily doses of straight talk, hope and inspiration.

What the heck is emotional safety and why is it so important? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about it and how she creates it. One amazing benefit you can expect over time is that you will actually be able to practice it in your own everyday life. And that means you’ll be able to do things that are important to you, no matter how difficult they are. Full transcript can be found here. Download "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide or register for next Human Giver Syndrome webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, this episode is meant to help you understand the difference between therapy and coaching. Kay Coughlin talks about when the difference matters, and when should you ask for help. Full transcript of episode available here. Information about Kay's professional association, the International Coach Federation, is here. Download the "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide here and register for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@facilitatoronfire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. 

Our brains act like jerks about change! But why is that? Listen to this “explainer” episode to help those of us who aren’t neuroscientists understand what’s going on in our heads when we are faced with the idea of changing anything. And why we can get so exhausted when we do confront change. Full transcript of episode available here. Download Kay Coughlin's "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide here. Register for the next Human Giver Syndrome webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@facilitatoronfire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what she calls the “Human Giver System,” which is the system that relies on countless unpaid human caregivers to sacrifice everything for the sake of the system itself. Kay talks about how her family’s wishes during her father’s last days of life went against a hospital’s Human Giver System, and how to notice the toxic glue that holds the System together. Full episode transcript can be found here. Register for the next “Human Giver Syndrome” webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram. Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

In this episode, Kay Coughlin explores two truths about change and growth: that it can happen at any age, and that you only have control over the change and growth of one person, and that’s you. You can’t force anybody to change (including your care receiver), but you do have the power within you to change yourself. Even when you are a caregiver. Full episode transcript can be found here. Register for next “Human Giver Syndrome” webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Learn about the new research on brain function as we age here.

Whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned pro when it comes to boundaries, it’s easy to believe that boundaries are great in every situation...except maybe not when you are a parent or caregiver. Because when the lives of your care receivers are at stake, you’re going to have to meet everybody’s needs no matter what it costs you. Right? Well, not so fast. Listen to this episode to get an overview of boundaries and why they are so hard in family situations. You might be pleasantly surprised to get a perspective that puts parents and caregivers at the center of the issue, rather than treating us as just an afterthought. Full episode transcript can be found here. Register for next "Human Giver Syndrome" webinar here. Learn more about Facilitator On Fire at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

Human Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist mainly to put their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at all times while doing it. In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how this syndrome can afflict you as a family caregiver (including if you are a parent), whether or not you think of yourself as a people-pleaser. If you are intrigued by what you hear in this episode and you want to learn how to begin to recover from it, register for Kay's next webinar on Human Giver Sydrome here. 

Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. 

Kay's book can be found at FacilitatorOnFire.net/books. 

Links mentioned in this episode: Kay's podcast producer is Chris Martin of chrismartinstudios.com. "Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle," by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. "Down Girl, The Logic of Mysogyny" by Kate Manne. Full transcript of this episode is available at http://facilitatoronfire.net/episode31/.

Join Kay's free community to talk about boundaries and Human Giver Syndrome here https://fromonecaregivertoanother.mn.co/