If you’ve ever had to live or work with somebody who is constantly stirring up drama, you know how exhausting it can be. How do you manage to stop the drama so it doesn’t control you? That’s what this podcast episode is all about.

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This is the audio version of message four in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about deciding what you want to do instead of continuing to feed your overwhelm.

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This is the audio version of message three in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about skill #2, which is to get curious. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).

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This is the audio version of message two in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about skill #1, which is to choose just one thing to focus on. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).

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This is the audio version of message one in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).

In this episode, Kay Coughlin confesses to being an overfunctioner, and explains what overfunctioning is and when it might be a problem for caregivers. Importantly, when a caregiver overfunctions for a care receiver, it might be keeping both people in that relationship from improving their own health and well-being. 

Full transcript available here (https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode52/) 

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Kay Coughlin's "Boundaries and Holidays" workshop starts Tuesday, October 19! How do you know this 4-week online workshop might be right for you? If you are struggling with feelings of dread or resentment about any upcoming traditions (like Thanskgiving) or celebrations (like an invitation to a destination wedding), or if you feel forced to participate in family events, this workshop will help you get the skills you need to say "no" to what you don't want. So you can say "yes" to what you'd rather do instead! More information and registration information is at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.

If you are raising kids and caring for an adult at the same time, you’re what’s known as a “sandwich family caregiver.” In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her personal experience being a sandwich family caregiver. She describes the range of life experiences (like having to deal with piles of unsolicited advice) that are common to sandwich family caregivers and that make this group unique. URGENT: 85% of family caregivers in the U.S. say they are struggling with mental health, which makes it an epidemic! If you are a family caregiver, you do NOT have to go through this alone - join Kay's free Boundaries Community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/.

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50. In this episode, Kay Coughlin gets right to heart of one of the most important reasons we don’t like to set boundaries: guilt. Is it possible to stop the cycle of guilt so that it doesn’t control your life and hold you back any more? Yes, it is. Also listen to part one on boundaries and guilt (episode 49) to learn about the critical difference between guilt and shame, and to learn why it actually IS polite to tell people about your boundaries.

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Transcript of this episode: FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode50

In this episode, Kay Coughlin starts to tackle the tough and sensitive topic of why we feel so guilty when we set boundaries. Listen to this episode (49) to learn about the critical difference between guilt and shame, and to learn why we have a misconception that telling people about our boundaries is not polite. In the next episode (50) Kay will talk directly about how to handle the guilt that is so common and normal when we set and hold boundaries. 

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