From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

If you search 'develop confidence' on Google you get 640,000,000 results.

Fancy ploughing through that anyone?

I recently began to understand why there are so many results.

It's because the whole concept is flawed.

Confidence is not something to be developed, it is something to be revealed.

The whole idea of developing misunderstands how we work as humans.

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I spent so many years being busy! I wore it like a badge of honour.

'How are you, Clare?', people would ask. 'Busy!', I would answer proudly.

I was in a rush to get somewhere.

Always with the sense of 'when I get x, I will feel y'.

I tried to control people and circumstances and even MY thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.

Busy! Busy! Busy!

But once I realised that the outside world couldn't make me feel anything, I naturally slowed down.

I stopped chasing my wellbeing in the outside world.

Presence and calm came naturally.

This spring, I can see the change in me.

I am noticing so much more as beautiful nature comes back to life.

A depth of presence.
Returning to my natural state.
Gratitude in every moment.

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Here is part two of ChatGPT's definition of confidence.

Confidence can manifest in various ways, such as the willingness to take risks, assertiveness in communicating, and the ability to handle challenges and setbacks with resilience.

It can be built through experience, competence, positive feedback, and supportive relationships.

Listen as I unpick this definition from an inside out perspective.

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What is going on when confidence dips? …

… can seem like a really complicated question to answer.

Especially if we are to believe that confidence is something we get from the outside world; from tools and techniques designed to apparently build confidence.

But what if what was actually happening was that confidence was simply being covered over by our conditioned thoughts about ourselves?

What if it could actually be revealed any moment once we see that the self-doubting thoughts are not true.

Imagine a world where you could do anything you wanted no matter what the voice in your head said.

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Confidence can easily look anything but inherent.

It can feel more like something which is fleeting and hard to keep hold of.

But something huge happens when we start to look towards the inherent nature of confidence.

That which is there in very small children but then seems to disappear.

Once you see that your confidence is permanent, essential and characteristic, a whole new version of you can emerge.

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Feelings have a lot in common with unpleasant smells.

A metaphor which can help us see the nature of feelings.

Once we see the nature of feelings and how they work, we can be less caught up in trying to change them.

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I searched on ChatGPT for the definition of confidence.

This is part one of what it said, 'Confidence generally refers to a belief or trust in oneself, one's abilities, knowledge, and judgment. It is a feeling or attitude of self-assurance and belief in one's capacity to accomplish a task or succeed in a particular situation.'

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We are all born confident.

We learn some things which cover it up.

Things which kept us safe at one stage.

Things which are now getting in our way.

We can unlearn those things.

We can learn new ways to be, do and feel in the world.

We just have to know it is possible.

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Do you feel like you are playing confidence hide and seek?

Like it is there one moment and gone the next.

Perhaps this is causing you to avoid things you would really love to do.

Maybe it means you can't ask for what you want.

Once you know that confidence is the constant and thought is the fluctuating part, all that changes.

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I have been exploring the 3 Principles for just over 3 years.

This weekend I reflected on how I have changed.

I thought you might like to hear about it.

With the understanding that the change is possible for you too.

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