From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

My story is one of huge transformation. From stressed out headteacher to Queen of Calm. But this transformation is not exclusive to me. It is possible for everyone. Find out about my journey by listening to this episode.

What if all the things you feel stressed about stopped feeling stressful? What of nothing needed to change for you to see them differently? What if freedom from stress was only a change in perspective away? It is possible to have a different experience of life without anything needing to change. You don't have to wait to feel content every day.

When we see that something is causing suffering, we tend to stop. Removing a stone from our shoe, loosening a belt after a heavy meal or getting up and moving when we have been sat too long. It's so simple but first we have to know where the feeling is coming from. Often we do not realise that our emotional suffering is coming from thought in the moment but when we do, we begin to make different choices about which trains of thought to follow. There really is nothing else to do but live life from this awareness.

Laughter is a great stress reliever but have you ever wondered why. I had an insight about this recently. Laughter is helpful because it helps us naturally fall into the present moment. Laughter only really happens there. And when we are present we just work better.

Bringing some awareness to the noise in your head can help relieve stress. Just awareness mind you - not judging it as wrong. With awareness we can start to choose. Do we really need to be thinking that right now? When we start to see that it's that awful thinking which is making us feel off and nothing else it makes less sense to go there.

There is a big, fat lie about where your feelings comes from. It surrounds us all day every day. The lie that our feelings come from outside us. They fundamentally don't. Feeling are generated inside us and when we see this out relationship with them changes.

It seems there are a lot of things to be bothered about doesn't it? There always has been to be honest but perhaps it has reached a peak in the last few years. But how would your life be if less things bothered you? If the people, circumstances and situations no longer had so much impact on how you felt. It is possible for all of us to experience this and all it takes is seeing things differently!

Wisdom is always guiding you no matter how you feel. In fact the off feelings might be the most vital because they let you know that your state of mind is off. What a wonderful thing to have - something which lets you know when you have stinking thinking! That has to be the most helpful thing in the world!

Perhaps we can be utterly content with a boring life. Maybe simple is a better word but you know what I mean. When we realise that doing stuff doesn't not create our feelings, it makes less sense to keep doing loads of stuff and life gets simpler. We can still have fun but we know our wellbeing doesn't depend on it. Imagine the freedom in that.

How worthy do you feel? I used to think I was not good enough. I did not feel worthy. Have you considered where this idea of worth comes from.